and aunt flo was 14 days late so i took a test and it was positive, how do i tell my hubby cuase hes gonna be mad and think its my fault?
2006-10-26 08:06:11 · 22 answers · asked by j 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Just say "remember that conversation we had the other night about waiting a few years before we have kids? Well, there's been a change in plans!!"
2006-10-26 08:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by Ravishing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least he wanted kids sometime in the future. I would just come out and tell him. He will probably be mad, let him blow off a little steam before discussing it more. When he starts with the HOW COULD YOU DO THIS?? Gently and lovingly remind him that there were two tangoing that night. Then remind him that you ALSO wanted to wait a few years and that you were as shocked and suprised as he is now. Then remind him again that at even though the baby is coming much sooner than you had planned, you HAD planned on having kids together. Hopefully his better sense will prevail Good luck :)
2006-10-26 15:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by DazeyChain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't try and make the mood right to tell him. I told my son's father over the phone.(I was away at school) As soon as I found out. Iknow that you are in a different situation but i think that your husband will be mad if you keep this in and don't tell him. Maybe you should buy a test and take it there with him. Tell him that your late and you might be pregnant and would like to take one with him support.
Best of Luck.
2006-10-26 15:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay this very same thing just happened to me and It really sucked in the begining because husband wasn't being so supportive, but he'll come around. We just heard the baby's heartbeat for the first time monday and he was pretty excited. Guys are sometimes jerky, but they really don't have the capacity to show thier emotions like us girls. He might act stand-offish, but try not to be resentful it's just him trying to take in this big news......In the end children are the best thing that will ever happen to you.....congrats and good luck.
2006-10-26 15:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would it be your fault? I am assuming he was present for the events and that the baby wasn't concieved by emmaculant connception, right? Marriage is about honesty and suporting each other, now is the time to lay out all the cards on the table.
2006-10-26 15:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by MaryAnn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just tell him. Sit him down and tell him over dinner or something. And remind him it wasn't just you in the bed. Besides maybe he said he didn't want kids for a few years because that is what he thought you wanted? Maybe he will be happy. You never know until it is done. Good luck.
2006-10-26 15:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is just as much his fault so he has no right to be mad. Tell him that the 'few year plan' has encountered some changes. Good luck.
2006-10-26 15:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by micg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? YOUR FAULT.??? Did you have sex by yourself and not tell him? Be real. It's God's will...accept it and love that child. Relax hon. It will take him time to adjust,he may be shocked, as I'm sure you are as well, and may not be "thrilled" at first, but once the initial shock is over, the joy will creep in.
God Bless.
2006-10-26 15:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by BIZ Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it takes two. I think he'll get over it. At least you are married and he will be happy that he has a little baby coming. It might take him a while to adjust, but once it hits him, he'll be there for you.
2006-10-26 15:11:21 · answer #9 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry; a pregnancy should be a happy thing;
Smooth it over with a special dinner / evening;
It's just as much as surprise to you;
Hopefully he'll understand and not be a jerk like my ex.
2006-10-26 15:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda D 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋