Life at home sux, my grades suk, and really now the only one who cares for me is my boyfriend. He's asked me to marry him and to move in with him, I answered yes to both, and now I'm trying to move in with him but everytime I do I get beat for trying to sneak out of the house. He's tried to get me out of my house ((boyfriend)), but gets yelled at by my dad. The only chance we get to see each other is at youth and we don't do anything, yet my dad never speaks to me about three days after I get home, and when he does it's nothing but yelling. Some times I just wish both my parents were drunks who didn't give a **** about what I do with my life because now their just to over protective. I can't even say I love you to my bf because my dad says I'm too young to love...even though i'm almost 16. Can someone help me???????
2006-10-26 08:01:35 · 15 answers · asked by Catty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
they are overprotective because they do love you. They probably think that the reason you are not doing good in school is because of him...you have too prove your parents wrong...Trust me..start focusing on school bring up your grades..be a little nicer to your parents offer to help out at home...they will see that your boyfriend is not a threat to your future but someone good for it. and about being in love...nobody knows how you feel but yourself..but alittle advice because ive been thru it..do not rush into marriage...you are only 16..i got married at 18 and divorced a few years later and never got the chance to go to college. Tell your boyfriend that you love him very much and for that reason you dont want to rush into things..get engaged but dont get married wait until you have finished school at least and by then if you guys are still together great!! get married!! Its all about priorities and the right timing...and i promise you that once your parents see you are doing great and progressing in school im sure that your dad will become best friends with your boyfriend...
2006-10-26 08:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by lioness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not believe this, but you're too young to understand love. You're at a point in your life right now where anything and everything your parents do or say, is wrong to you. If you do get married at 16 and moved in with your boyfriend (how old is he by the way?), when you turn 25 (or any age around there), you'll be wondering why you didn't listen to your parents. You boyfriend may say he loves you and will love you the rest of your life, but does he really?? If he really loved you, he'd try to find a way to get along with your parents and help you get along with your parents. Life doesn't suck, your just in a rebelious stage right now. Stay in school, enjoy being young, and take your time with life. My husband lost both of his parents by the time he was 18. He had to do everything on his own after that. It was very difficult for him. He even had to live out of his car for a while. He wishes that he had a mom then and now. So be careful how you treat your parents because you never know when you'll want their support later on. Respect them and they'll respect you!! Pray about your situation too?? Is it what God really wants for your life??? Think about what you want to do and how you treat people. You're only 15. Don't try to grow up too fast!!
2006-10-26 16:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by khaileebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents didnt care about you then they would let you be with her boyfriend and let him take care of you. You are to young to know what love is you may think you are but in reality your mind is telling you that you are just so you can escape the way tou are feeling towards school and your at home life. Please dont get married now finish school get a degree. When you are down on life talk to your parents they will listen even if you dont think they are. They love and care about you and want whats best for you they want you to get an education and make something of yourself and be there for all your accomplishments. They dont want you to get away w/ a guy who doesnt have any means to provide for you and give you what you need. This isnt love your boyfriend would want the best for you not take you away from your family so you dont have to deal w/ these issues and not have an education. Your dad is right he loves you and you need to get your priorites straight. Please education first love can wait and more than ever you need your parents go have a talk with them your are smart and have a long road ahea let your parents help prepare you for whats to come ahead be someone they can be proud of non an young uneducated,no job teen.
2006-10-26 15:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may think it suck now but their is so many kids that would die just to have one person care even just a little about them. And move out of your house at 15 is not a good thing to do. Yes you think right now that you love this guy so much And you want to alway be with him but if you move in with him you will become pg in no time and their go your life. You life will chage. Your mom and dad are just trying to make sure you get to have a life as a kid not as a teen mom. so back up and think about it a little more before you run away. Not only that are you sure that you can say at his house and if he has his oun house then you shouldn't be with him anyway.
2006-10-26 15:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by lostsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to sound condescending but you ARE very young. And it is very very very common to be feeling what you are feeling at 16. Everything "suks", your parents don't understand you and can't possibly understand what you are feeling for this boy. This is the mantra for most teenage angst. Sad but true are the odds that you are going to fall in and out of love with many people in the years to come. Right now, this boy seems like the only light in your shadowy life. But believe me when I say, things aren't always going to look this way and leaving home may not be the rosy answer you are looking for.
2006-10-26 15:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by madevali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u a Christian. First thing you have to know that no matter what, you have to obey your parents. They are responsible of you, I think what your dad do is because he loves, but he's doing it in an uncomfortable way.
On the other hand, don't put your whole trust on your BF. Second, you still have a long future. Don't decide everything now. When I was 16 yrs of age, I spent most of my time to get a lot of friends not just stick to one bf. Once you stick more to bf, you loose opportunity to know the world better, to know different kind of people because you're focusing your life on him. Pls don't do that.
2006-10-26 15:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by key715 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are u in such hurry u got all the time in the world to marry and have sex and children,
try saying EKKUMKAR about 100 times a day with eyes closed and u will understand what u really desire to do other than what is mentally fixed
Over protective comes out of frustration because in their own life they might have gone through hell and they do not want to you to go through it
Anyway who cares I am I and I will do what i will like to do all else go to hell
2006-10-26 15:10:30 · answer #7 · answered by skids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you are too young to marry your boyfriend and move in with him. I think 16 might be an old enough age to love someone but still, you can't marry him. Listen to your parents and wait until your eighteen. If he really is the one who your supposed to marry, then it shouldn't matter if you marry him now or then.
2006-10-26 15:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by Erin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to know what your parents are doing right now is the right thing to do. you probably dont believe it right now. just wait one day you will have a daughter and you will do the same thing. try to sit down with your parents maybe you all can come up with a solution to this problem. but please dont make the huge mistake of moving out with your bf. you really are to young to do that. by law you cant until you are 18.
2006-10-26 15:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by missindy46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up. You're almost 16 which is technically 18 so you're practically a grown up right? NO, not right. You are too young to make decisions like that. You're parents are worried about your future and they care about you eventhough you feel like they are ruining your life. Believe me, don't make yourself a victim. you'll be glad your parents cared when you get older.
2006-10-26 15:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋