2006-10-26 07:59:31 · 20 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe you feel like you have a void in your life now that he's gone. I doubt you actually still love him. Maybe you just love the good times you had sometimes.
Get on with it and look forward to good times without somebody who hits you.
2006-10-26 08:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Roberts 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably loving the side of him that is positive, probably loving and caring towards you etc. Dear, take a pen and a paper, and list down the reasons why you love or hae him. focus on one thing at a time. If you choose to forgive him, please assess whether he will be prepared to change for you. Forgiveness is a good virtue, but your partner should understand this strength and appreciate you as a person, not a punching bag. (sorry..)
when i deal with domestic violence between couple, the intervention usually involves in finding out why the man becomes abusive. people may change or do 'crazy' things due to circumstances, NOT because of who they are deep inside. You might want to have a good talk with someone who is close to both you and him. someone who is unbiased. you might want to approach a social worker or a counsellor and work things out.
the love you feel is not exactly love, in my field, its called yearning, it is a deeper level of emotion than love. when you are missing him you tend to forget the 'horrible' things he may have caused you.
most people would say 'move on', 'start afresh' etc etc. Whatever you do, choose wisely, and watever happens, be strong and be responsible for the actions that you will take.
2006-10-26 08:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by paranoid-android 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know some people have no idea what it means to go through an abusive marriage.....unitl they do they ought to stay out of it. I divorced my abusive husband 2 years ago also. I know you still love him, because even though he was abusive he could also be the world's biggest teddy bear right? At least mine was. He was always abusive when drinking. But until you get yourself some help....counseling or a really great guy ........you will love him................
2006-10-26 10:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First because you may like being the victim and people feeling sorry for you. You also don't know what love is and shouldnt' be in a relationship if you think what he was doing is love.
You need help. A rap artist once said women are stupid. The worse you treat them the more they want you. Dont' be stupid. Get some help and some self esteem.
2006-10-26 08:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is very hard going through divorce.And even at two years it can still be rough.And even if he was abusive,you still dont care and all you see is him and how much you care for him.But if he feels the same way about you then he wouldnt hit you so just try and get over him no matter how long it takes.Best Wishes and Good Luck!
2006-10-26 08:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by Haley G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because woman think that sooner or later they will change and they still lov ethem when all it really is...is fear of being a lone....I would rahter be a lone that live with someone that is abusive and takes away your self-esteem..when it's usually the other way around...he doesn't like him but turns the tables on you. Love is a beautiful thing and if you feel scared by it then it isn't love....really think about that...do you really want to live your life that way?????
2006-10-26 18:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by ariermagee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are still hanging on to the good times and you are making them stay with you. He abused you and that would make all the good times disappear if it were me. You may always love him but dont forget what he done to you. You deserve better and I am glad you are out of that relationship and hopefully you are happier now.
2006-10-26 08:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has made you feel like you cannot do any better,every time he abused you your self esteem was destroyed.you don't love him because that was not love that was fear.you are lonely you need family and friends,now.not a man.not now you have to learn to love your self again because when you love someone else more then you love yourself you will never find the love that was meant for you.get some help.good luck
2006-10-26 08:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by cool mom32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your co-dependent, you need professional counseling, there they will teach to you the healthy relationship vs the bad one and you will see for yourself and understand. It is not an easy thing to do but if you do seek help it will keep you from repeating your behavior (of wanting to be with a man that treats you as this one did). Good luck to you.
2006-10-26 08:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by bootjack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grl you still love him because you can't let him go because you are thinking that you can't move on with out him if you start dating you would get off him and think about all those time he hit you that should make you angry because you feared him shouldn't make you love a man that want to hurt you he don't love but you would move on.trust me take my advice
remember this if a man hit you he don't love you if he put you down he don't love you.
2006-10-26 08:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by shontel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋