2006-10-26 07:45:06 · 17 answers · asked by shelley w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just ask him sweetie. Thats what I did and later he asked me. Ricky and I were sitting on my parents couch and realaxing, and just finished watching this moive. I look at him and poored my heart out to him. Looked into his eyes and said Baby I love you with more than anything, baby please marry me, spend the rest of your life with me. He looked at me and said yes. After we got my ring, he got down on one knee in Chili's and asked me to marry him. We've been married for 3 months now, and all I have to say is WOW love is great
2006-10-26 09:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by msoutherngirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be frustrating but its definitely something you should not put pressure on. By pushing him, he may give in and ask you but why on earth would you want to marry someone who you don't know wants to marry you. Unless you ask him yourself; it has to come from him, when he's ready.
My best friend has been with her partner for 16 years, she finally put enough pressure on him that he proposed to her 2 years ago. They were due to get married in September but he called the whole thing off 6 weeks before because he just felt he had been pushed into it. OK....after 16 years he need a good old push but the point is it doesn't always work and now they can never go back to how things are because there's too much resentment (and lossed deposits, wedding dress, invite etc) under the bridge.
I don't know how long you guys have been together but if its only been a couple of years then hang in there and it will be all the ore special wen it comes from his heart. However, if you've been together for 8+ then I'd start to worry a bit and maybe have a chat with him.
Hope it works out. Good luck!
2006-10-26 08:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by loz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on your relationship and how deep it is and for how long. If you think you are both ready for marriage, but that he is just shy then I can give some answers. If you think he's not ready then you shouldnt even try as its too early.
If he's shy then try:
1. All our friends are getting married...
2. Do you think we will live together forever and have children.. if so...
3. Do you want to be with me for the rest of your life...
4. Take him shopping for jewelery... then find some nice rings
5. Talk about favorite holidays.. then ask which he would dream about for a honeymoon...
6. Tell him you fancy dressing up for something, what can he think of.. does he know anyone else having a wedding... or why dont we...
7. Tell him you'd like to have a big party to go to but no-one is doing one.. what we need is someone wedding where all the family and friends can come.. why dont we...
etc etc.. have fun....
2006-10-26 08:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him, its only tradition that a man ask a women,
Or sit down and talk about marriage and the future together, at least if you talk then you will hopefully be heading in the same direction, Its better to talk than him saying no. It took my brother 9 years to ask his girlfriend to get married better, they are getting the ring this Saturday
2006-10-26 07:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT rush him. that would push him away. My sisters now husband was not even hinting that he wanted to marry her. She was going on and on about it with him. He was about to leave her.I told her to calm down and it would come when it comes. One year later when she was not expecting it he got on his knee in front of the whole family and asked her. She now says that she was glad that she was unable to force him and how exciting it was to be surprised by it. Also he might not be financially stable. My guy wants to make sure that when get married and have kids, that he will be able to support us and allow me to stay home with the kids (which i want)
2006-10-26 08:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would really need more information to give you a concise answer but I think that if he wants to marry you, he will propose when he is ready.
You shouldn't pressure him into it -- that isn't the type of marriage that you really want or should have.
-EZ
2006-10-26 07:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone into marriage, you'll just ruin the relationship--he'll end up resenting you and you'll end up in the 50% of people who get divorced. Let him ask you on his own time, you'll both be happier in the long run.
2006-10-26 07:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by superstar_81882 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not the answer but i would like to get married too but my fella says we cannot afford it.
but it's about spending the rest of your life with someone not a big fancy wedding!!
so i'll ba checking out your answers.
best of luck1!!!
2006-10-26 08:16:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask him? Why does it always end up being the man's job, it is the 21st century.
2006-10-26 08:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by Knight-wing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be good to him and treat him like he's already your husband and just mention it but don't try to pressure him because that will just make him not want to.
2006-10-26 07:57:49 · answer #10 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋