My boyfriend and i talk about marriage all the time so we know its happening, but its been 2.5 years and he hasnt proposed yet... what in the world is he waiting for?????
2006-10-26 07:43:57 · 17 answers · asked by bar22bie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Men like to feel that they can provide for a family... if he doesn;t have the financial means to propose... he won't.
Good luck
2006-10-26 09:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there could be lots of reason. One is he might not be ready and just because he says he wants to get married- that doesn't' mean tomorrow.
I was in a long relationship and the guy always said he wanted to get married but he meant 10 years from now.... when he was 40.... So I had to dump his ars and move on.
But I ran into an old friend and we have been happily together since and we are engaged!!
You need to sit down and have a long talk with him!!
2006-10-26 08:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then ASK HIM. Dont stay with a man that you dont talk to about everything, because a marriage would never last to someone you dont communicate with.
Ask him today. Say you are ready to get married and if he wants to he should ask you soon. Also say that if he doesnt want to get married (engaged) within a few months than say he should tell you that now and then break up with him if he doesnt ask you by 3 months from when you tell him this. (or immediately if he says he never wants to get married or wants to wait even longer) I say dump him later if he doesnt propose because he never will then.
2006-10-26 08:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely don't push him into it...it isn't worth pushing him away. My b/f and I have been together for almost 4 years and he hasn't proposed yet...it is all about being ready, and maybe he isn't. He might be saving money for the perfect ring, or waiting for the right time...you never know.
2006-10-26 09:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using the marriage bit to keep you happy while doing nothing to act on it. Don't rest assured it's going to happen if he's just talking about it like some people talk about 'when I lose ten pounds' or 'when I start my own business'. Sounds great and is a wonderful dream as long as you're never actually called upon to actualize it.
2006-10-26 07:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by wynterwood 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He could be waiting to save the $$$ for your ring. Yes, you can put it on credit. Yes, you can borrow against a house to get the money ... BUT ... I would bet that he wants to pay cold hard CASH for the ring and won't settle for anything less.
This is what my brother-in-law was waiting for. He didn't want to put the purchase on a credit card and then have the debt for both of them to pay off. The ring was a gift to his bride-to-be and he wanted it to be truly from HIM.
-EZ
2006-10-26 07:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are we dating the same guy? ;)
Perhaps he's just appeasing you, or worse, bluffing the whole thing. You can give him an ultimatum, but be prepared for the worst. People, in general, do not like ultimatums.
Good luck.
2006-10-26 15:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still paying off your ring and he is waiting for the special moment
2006-10-26 11:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably waiting for your panties to come down.
Make sure he proposes, and marries you first, or no honey!
2006-10-26 07:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Christmas, your anniversary, new year's eve, Valentine's Day
Probably till he gets the money to pay for the ring???
2006-10-26 08:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋