Okay so my boyfriend just broke up wih me and wants to be friends to get to know eachother better and maybe something could happen later and he said hes starting to like a girl who likes him back.. this is the email he sent me.........Do you think anything will happen between us again?? I love him soooooo much and it kills me knowing that he likes someone else now.
THIS IS THE EMAIL:::
okay this is going to make me seem like an @ss and prove people right. ugh i hate this...two things. first of all we rushed into this. i think we should be friends for now and possibly go out sometime later. the other is that there is someone else who i've liked for a while now(since before I met you) and i think i'm really starting to like her...and i know she likes me...and im really ******* sorry and would have preferred to of done this in person...i want to be
friends though and get to know you better. maybe in a while something'll happen
2006-10-26 07:42:23 · 18 answers · asked by Kelsey's Mommy<3 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's a jerk, but he is trying to let you down easy. be his friend if you want if it will not create harm to yourself, otherwise stay away from him. He doesn't want you as a girlfriend, he wants someone else.
2006-10-26 07:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As much as what I am about to say may hurt, it will save you later grief. This guy already made his decision, you were his second choice and when his 1st choice came along he bailed on you, he telling you that maybe you guys can go out later and maybe something developing from that, is his way of saying I don't know if this new fling will stay with me so I will keep you hanging untill I need you. I don't doubt your true love for him, but in every relationship is has to be 100% on both side or it can not happen, he obviously will never give you that. He made his choice and you were not it. My advise to you is, you two can never be just friends without hurt feelings getting in the way so I tell you this get out while you still have your dignity.
2006-10-26 14:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by bootjack 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you know what- he was honest with you. That means he respects you in some form or fashion. That is worth more than millions of dollars and so very rare to find in a friend or a lover. I say right now if it hurts you to just be friends- tell him not now, because you are still in love with him, but maybe later down the road. Though he was honest it sounds like he wants to explore a bit and come back to you. Dont be anyones lackee sweetie. Love is not a layaway plan.
2006-10-26 14:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by BeautyMark 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be cruel but he's giving you bulls*. Things went to fast but yet he likes someone else? I guess he is being the nice guy by trying to spare your feelings but honesty is always the best because now you have some hope (even if it's just a little) that some day you will be together. You need to tell this guy to be honest with you and keep it real. It seems to me that he likes this girl but doesn't want to burn his bridges with you just in case things don't work out with her. You deserve better, a guy that WANTS to be with you now not later and definantly not after his first choice fell threw.
2006-10-26 14:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well,the gals wud have answered it more accurately,but since i have been at the receiving end of such a situation too,i guess i cud put in a word also.The mail is clear that he does not need u anymore,but he camouflaged the things......read it this way:"okay,i know am not an ***,and u are wrong....U wud hate this(not me).2 things...(I)rushed into this.....i think i should abuse ur naivity once more to keep u as backup,in case something goes wrong with my new mate....the other is,there is someone who i think i should dump u for,coz i did not meet her earlier....(and am not sure she likes me,but wtf,all gals are soo gullible!)...and am not sorry at all(coz am a pro at doin this).and...wud never have had the face to see u in person,a wimp that i am....i want u to be aloof....and keep ur hands off other guys,coz i need u if i dont get her....maybe in a while something may happen.....(she'd kick my *** if she's sensible,and i'd be back to u).......
Am so sorry,but sometimes we have to read between the lines.....wish he were more honest in his confession....
One request,if he comes back.........dump him.....he deserves it.
2006-10-26 14:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by ♥addy♥ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Gurl deep down you ALREADY know the answer. He just wanna keep you hanging by a thread. In other words just have sex with you but not give you the relationship. Com mon now he already had this gurl to begin with. Men dont just break up then all of a sudden find somebody else just like that! He already had his eye on her way before he met you. Gurl just let it go. If you hang on your heart will only suffer. good luck
2006-10-26 14:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by Kimi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guy pulled the same thing with me. We rushed into things pretty fast and he dumped me in three months. It was soooo hard to remain friends with him (especially when he started dating this tramp soon afterwards) but we actually became closer. Now we're back together and totally into one another. It is always good to get to know someone as a friend before you begin anything serious. The key to a successful friendship: don't be so available to him. i know it sounds awful but making him jealous works wonders. Don't hang out with him constantly-say you have plans sometimes even when you don't. Be vague about what you're doing and who you're doing it with. If you and he are meant to be, he'll realize that you aren't waiting around for him and he'll come back to you. If not, maybe you can meet someone whos better suited for you!
2006-10-26 14:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by IN_lady 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He wants you as a back up if they don't work out. If you like him stay his friend but TELL him that you are not going to be a backup. Maybe if things go OK you two will work out. If he realizes what he missed maybe something will click in his mind that he messed up and will come running back to you. Don't just take him back if he does come back to you. Talk things out and see if you can trust him again.
2006-10-26 14:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe this is the best way to start out . be friends first . but he should have set down somewhere and talked face to face . this does make him look like a low life looser . and thats not good . but yeah be friends . i had met someone i care very much about but know he's not ready for anthing secerious . hes been hurt just like i have . and is gun shy of anything secerous. we have been the others best friend . a friend is there for life . a fling is only there for a short time . be his friend. if its ment to be it will work out . if not . you still have his friendship.
2006-10-26 14:49:14 · answer #9 · answered by single-rose@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound harsh but it seems that he wants you for back up in case it doesn't work out with the new girl. This has happened to me before. You should be his friend but I wouldn't bother getting back with him when it doesn't work out between him and the other girl.
Good Luck and be strong!
2006-10-26 14:45:21 · answer #10 · answered by Amaya 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Read your question to yourself out loud. I am sorry to say this, but it sounds as if he just wants to keep you around as back up in case things don't pan out with this other girl. Move on - make him jealous and when he comes crawling back, don't give him the time of day.
2006-10-26 14:44:51 · answer #11 · answered by Kimmy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋