I'm a 20 y/o college student who's never dated and has very little friends. I am very shy and have Social Anxiety. I want to start dating but I honestly have NO idea how to.
So I have a few questions......
Should I know a girl well before I ask her out?
What does one do on a date?
How do I ask out a girl?
I must have a missing instinct or something because it seems like everyone else already knows this kind of stuff.
Any other advice is welcome.
2006-10-26 07:41:15 · 3 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just ask a girl if she would like to have dinner with you or maybe go to the movies. if you are shy then yes you may want to get to know the girl first that way you aren't so nervous on your date. just be yourself and be a gentleman. g'luck
2006-10-26 07:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok that your new to this. I'm not going to be mean to you by saying you should know this stuff because everyone is different. You don't have to know a girl very well before going out with her. Actually you don't have to know a girl at all to go out with her. If you see or meet someone you like then try starting a conversation with them. It doesn't matter what it's about just try to get their attention. If you succeed by doing that then see if you can get her number or ask will she take yours as well. When you go out on dates you usaully start off by going to the movies, or a restaurant to eat, or bowling,skating, anywhere that's mellow or fun. When your at one of these places just try talking about your interest, and make sure you let her do some talking as well. Get to know her likes and dislikes. Make her feel comfortable by being down to earth more than anything. Remember that girls like confidence in a guy. If you show them that your really scared and nervous it can be somewhat of a turn off. Not all girls are turned off by a guys shyness, but for the one's that are this is where you need to show you are confident no matter how your feeling inside. Trust me all of us are shy and scared just like you at times. Your not the only one, your just HUMAN. You don't have a missing instinct so don't beat yourself up over this. Your just starting a little later. Better now than never. You will do fine. Get out there and get some practice. I wish you luck. Take care!!!
2006-10-26 14:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI,
If you have a girl in mind, kind of hang out around her if you can without being real obvious. Or talk to one of her friends and see if she is available. If you don't check her out, you will never go out. Ask questions like: Do you know if she is dating anyone at this time? If the answer is no, then your on your way... In my 51 years, a small date is great for an ice breaker. Like a cup of coffee or a soda date. That way you can be alone with her and find out some of her likes and dislikes. And go from there. About asking her out? You are going to have to get the courage up and just ask her. Everyone on this planet has heard NO in their life time at some point in time. So, don't get discouraged if she says no. If she says no, I'm sure there are other girls that you find attractive. And ask them out on a mini-date, and if your not head over hills about this girl, at least it's practice for the "speacil one." I hope this is of some help to you. Dating is a funny thing, you just keep on trying until you hit BINGO!
2006-10-26 14:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋