My boyfriend and I hit a milemarker on Sunday,it was a year since we met. I made a big deal of it,and it seemed as though he forgot. He told me that he didn't forget, he planned the whole night before to buy me flowers and do something special, but said he found it hard hard for himself to express how he feels bc he has never been in a serious relationship, and he doesn't know what to do. Then last night, he tells me he doesn't know how he feels, he wants to be with me, but he doesn't want to hurt me down the rode. Then I had to explain to him I have no interest in getting married any time soon. An hour later, he calls me and everything is fine... as if he didn't even has the conversation with me about questioning his feelings and being unsure of being with me. How do I approach the situation with him so I can help ease him being overwhelmed about being in a relationship? I know that I need to give him space to think... but how much space is too much before he gives up?
2006-10-26 07:40:00 · 5 answers · asked by Amina Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your boyfriend is`nt scared i think he is confused more than scared and needs help understanding whats going on,when it was your anniversary he freaked out, i don't think he is ready for commitment, he doesn't know what to do in this situation, he must really like you and is confused on what to do , like he probably constantly thinks i am doing this right ? , what am i meant to do ? , he doesn't know what to do as he has never been in serious relationship, talk to him and explain what you feel.he will listen, if you talk then believe he should listen.
hope i help
2006-10-26 07:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by LiL_mZ_Sa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men don't know what they want. He really likes you and can see himself being with you in the long run, but he just doesn't know if he will always want that. People change, needs change...that is life. The fact that you make a big deal out of your anniversary only tells him that if he does change and wants something different in the future he knows it is going to hurt you and he really really doesn't want that. You can't control this, you have to let him figure out things on his own and hope for the best. The more you try and make things work, the more complicated it will get.
My advice.....don't expect anything....the more we expect things to go a certain way the more likely we will be unhappy with the result. Enjoy the now and if things work..great...but make sure you are ready if they don't.
2006-10-26 07:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the guy you are referring to as your boyfriend don't really consider himself your boyfriend. I think that if he isn't already playing the field that is what he wants to do. For this reason he tells you he find it hard to express his feelings. He really don't have any feelings for you other than a sexually agenda. Don't settle for that type of evasive talk, you should value yourself as much more than a fly by day, fly by night roll in the hay type girl. Wise up and look for more serious and meaningful guys with you being a great priority in his life. I really think that you should just ask him if he's feeling pressured into being with you in a relationship, and if so maybe you should go solo and just be friends.
2006-10-26 07:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by JOSEPH M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People feel all kinds of pressure when in relationships. Expectations and all that.
Just take your time and always communicate with each other.
2006-10-26 07:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup
2006-10-26 07:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by 10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋