My boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married a lot lately but he wants to get married in las vegas and I want a traditional wedding with everyone there. I told him a las vegas wedding would be fine, thinking it would make it easier, but I am going back and wanting a real wedding? any advice
2006-10-26 07:24:52 · 21 answers · asked by lil_critter33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He doesn't want a "real" family wedding becuase it doesn't want to stand up and be the "center of attention" of the guests
2006-10-26 07:40:53 · update #1
Also he is orginally from a state about 2000 miles away...(he's in the military) so I don't know how it would go since all of his family lives really far away.
2006-10-26 09:22:00 · update #2
I got married in May in Vegas. It was wonderful. We would do it again in a heartbeat. But, just because it worked for us, doesn't mean it will for you.
I never really planned to get married so I haven't spent most of my life dreaming about mine. Both my husband and I have large families. I am extremely close to mine, extended family and all, and I would have like to have had them at my wedding. But I also didn't want to spend all of that money and deal with all of those decisions just for one day. I wouldn't want to do a whole big wedding thing if I couldn't do it just the way I wanted to and I wasn't willing to spend that price.
We did still celebrate with our families. About a month after we got back, we rented a pavilion at a local park and basically had a big old barbeque. It was wonderful and it didn't cost an arm and a leg.
Many, many of our friends that are married have told us that they wished they had gone to Vegas instead of going through all the stress of putting a wedding together and the expense. They said it wasn't worth it. BUT you need to decide what works for you. If you think there's a chance that you will always miss having had a big wedding, you shouldn't do the Vegas and go ahead with a family wedding. You need to really explore your feelings and think of how you'll react later on down the road. You don't want to regret your decision.
If you do decide to get married in Vegas, I have a recommendation of a book that was complete invaluable to me when researching where to get married. It's called Neon Nuptials. I got it at my local library. It isn't easy to find something that isn't completely tacky but that book helped me find the perfect place for us (Little Church of the West www.littlechurchlv.com). If that's not your style they list many, many other places.
Good luck and I hope you have the wedding that's perfect for the two of you!
2006-10-26 07:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by CarlaCCC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still have a las vegas wedding and have a reception with family. There is a trend that is becoming very popular with couples...having the wedding on a night during the week, say Thursday or Friday...and then have a reception on another night, say a Friday or a Saturday. That way he can have his small ceremony with your close fmaily and friends, and he won't have to be the center of attention...and you can still have a huge party afterwards to celebrate with everyone!! If you are going to do that, make sure you word the invitations properly...there is a certain etiquette about writing invitations to the party because after the day of the wedding it is no longer called a reception, but the party honoring you and your new husband. Talk to him about it...he might change his mind. It is all about compromse.
2006-10-26 09:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not compromise and have a 'family wedding' in vegas?? It's your wedding - do what you want, you know? If you are paying for it yourself, have it in Vegas and tell people the date/time and that they are invited. You can still wear the big white dress and have the flowers and everything you know??
Don't bend over backward to please everyone else on your day. We have toyed around with the idea and with us both being only children we thought we wanted family there but we don't want to be a burden to the families b/c they live 500 miles apart and from research, we found that most of the chapels in vegas have free live web casting so friends and family who can't make it can still watch it. I don't know about you - but i'd rather have a small simple wedding instead of starting out in debt with my husband if we had to pay for it. :) There are several other places you can go too - not just Vegas.
2006-10-26 07:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by Weasel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having a small destination wedding in Las Vegas. Most people hear LV and think you're going to a little white wedding chapel to be married by Elvis...but there are plenty of cheap yet classy locations to be wed. You can get an inexpensive wedding package that allows your family to attend. I'm having 30 guests, who know that if they want to come, they have to pay their own way..and they're okay with it. Just don't put it in the invitations...tell them in person, or give them a call.
2006-10-26 09:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a real wedding in Vegas... You can also have a "real" wedding wherever you want, and go to Vegas for honeymoon. If the reason why he wants a Vegas wedding is to cut back on planning and expenses - have a simple ceremony at a location of your choice, with your family and friends present; don't go overboard on the whole thing. Talk to him and find a good compromise that would satisfy you both. A wedding doesn't have to be huge and expensive to be memorable and special. And it doesn't have to be in Vegas to be inexpensive and simple.
2006-10-26 07:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not honeymoon in Vegas and get married at a place where all your family and friends can be in attendance. You dont want anybody to miss out on the day that is going to change the rest of your life. Or you can always have two weddings quite a few brides have two weddings. I knew one lady who had 3 weddings!!
2006-10-26 07:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enter into the marriage 50/50; Have a family style wedding but let 'Las Vegas' be the theme.
2006-10-26 07:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have a drive through wedding in Vegas. Every casino has a wedding chapel. Why don't you get married in Vegas and have yout families meet you there. This way you both get what you want.
2006-10-26 13:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by married2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can do both - a wedding in Vegas doesn't have to be nasty and cheap looking. Most of the hotels there have people on staff who can help you plan something fun and meaningful. Once you're married, have a great reception back home so everyone there can help you celebrate!
2006-10-26 09:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by TraciS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will regret a las vegas wedding later. You need to have a family wedding. You can make it a small wedding if he doesnt want a huge big deal and you can get married at a justice of the peace if he doesnt want to wait a year to get married in a church, etc.
But have your family and friends there and make it look official. Las vegas weddings are cheap and usually people get divorced if they get married in Las vegas.
2006-10-26 08:24:03 · answer #10 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋