My wife has been secretly texting her ex boyfriend. and when I asked her about it she told me that she loves me and would never do something like that. last night I lent her my phone and found a sent msg saying that she was sending pictures of herself to him.
I asked her and she admitted that she has been hiding it from me and said she was really sorry. its not the 1st time she has lied about this particular guy, its the 3rd time.
I find it hard to trust her and dont know if I can again.
can relationships survive without trust and should I believe
her she said she won't do it again.
2006-10-26 07:18:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust = Please knock me out because I am STUUUUUPID
2006-10-26 07:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by afishmaan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to her. Do you find your marriage exciting? Does she? What is making her turn back to this guy? You can't continue this way, you need to have a talk and decide what you want from a future together.... You shouldn't have to tolerate any rivals to her affection.
Maybe fiind out what this guy does for her that is more exciting than what you do...and then beat him at his own game. If it is just the elicitness that is exciting then why not take her on an adventure...go make love in the wild somewhere or have a candle lit picni on the beach...or get sniggly somewhere warm and remote.
This is YOUR marriage and your wife should not be doign this to you. But be understanding to her as she is just a human like anyone and we all muck up sometime or other.
2006-10-26 14:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by Josephine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's been dishonest about this multiple times, I'd have to wonder what else she has been or will be dishonest about. People who chronically lie to get what they want never stop lying. It sounds like she has a real problem and needs to be given an ultimatum. It would be really hard for me to trust again after repeatative betrayals of trust.
2006-10-26 14:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if this was happening to me, I would walk. Sounds hard but she is not showing you that she loves you. There is no point in saying "i love you" if your not prepared to demonstrate it too. Not only does she not love you enough, she dont appear to have any respect for you either or she would not have continued after being busted the first time. So get rid and go find a woman who will love you properly!
2006-10-26 18:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by Bobbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you, but your wife is playing you for a fool. As long as you 'trust' her, she'll continue her behavior. The two of you need to see a counselor and you need to address this issue up front and in her face. If she doesn't curb the behavior, you need to find another wife.
2006-10-26 14:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it is possible for you to trust her again. I know this is frustrating; as long as you keep the lines of communication OPEN, there should be no doubt! Remember, you have to TALK to get through issues in a relationship! GOOD LUCK BUDDY! :)
2006-10-26 14:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be mutual trust in any relationship. I think she's playing with your emotions and getting a power-up from your reactions. She obviously needs to feel that she has power over you. You must try to be proactive rather than reactive.
2006-10-26 14:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by Ishtar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 2nd wife use to that frigging DUMP her before you get hurt even more trust me on this i know the pain and hurt it causes
2006-10-26 14:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by colin050659 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont blame you..shes treating you like a mug..(SORRY) but trust is something you earn...and thats what earns respect...shes a fool..your too good for her
2006-10-26 14:25:34 · answer #9 · answered by Yoda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she shoulda trusted you to tell you that he was contacting her. I have been there myself. If you dont nip it in the budd now its going to cause a BIG misunderstanding
2006-10-26 14:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch.........Third time, you say, Tell her she's played her last joker, Trust your own Instinct
2006-10-26 14:40:38 · answer #11 · answered by amyirmanmamansoaam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋