I'm a 17 year old Senior in a high school over seas and I just want someone to be there for me and love me just the way I am. I want someone who can see the beauty within and without. Someone to see me the way the world sees me and love me like family. Plus, I'm looking for a guy who will let me arouse his intellect and not just his loins. I don't care about color, I could care less about size, I just want someone to chill with me and allow me to love them and let me rest my head on their sholder during hard times, and sometimes just because. To sum it all up, I don't just want a love, but a life long friend. Why is that so hard, why can't dudes be gentlemen and not treat females as sex objects. Mind you, guys, I know a good few of you are out there. Someone help me, I'm tired of being alone when I go to dances and the movies, however...I'm not desperate. I pray I never become desperate or that may be dangerous.
- Baby
2006-10-26 07:10:07 · 24 answers · asked by Baby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're still very young and that probably wont come till you are older..sorry..young men are not ready for that kind of commitment
2006-10-26 07:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you just keep on keepin' on. You're only 17, you'll date many others like the ones you've been with before you find "the one." Most guys at that age only have their mind on that one thing cause it's still all new and exciting to them. I feel the same way you do. I had my promiscuous days, but I found it's much better to be alone than to have a false sense of security in a relationship that was based only on sex. You will find a man that knows how to treat a woman and who doesn't just want to get into your pants. Don't go looking for Mr. Right, let him come to you, then you'll know he's a keeper! Good luck in love and life. You have a great attitude, so like I said, keep on keepin' on and you'll meet someone, someday, with similar interests, likes, dislikes, needs, wants, desires, ideas, etc...Have a wonderful day!
2006-10-26 07:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sentiments you have just expressed, I have found seems to be almost universal among all women. The fact of the matter is, society as well as lack of parenting is the cause for why you have trouble finding what you seek. Boys need strong, positive male role models during their formative years. Unfortunately, with the ever increasing divorce rates and promiscuity rates, a lot of women are left alone to raise and care for children all alone. This is the reason why you are having a hard time looking for what you want in a man and a relationship.
What you are looking for does exist. However, finding it may take longer than you expect. You have impressed me greatly with your sincerity and honesty. Who knows, maybe some young man will read what you have said here, and say "I would like to have a girl like that!!!" and then try to seek you out.
Keep your head up, and try not to worry. At the age of 17, you have only really just begun to live. Life, love and happiness takes time to build. Trust me on this, it will be time well spent. Just take your time and be careful. Good luck to you.
2006-10-26 07:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by bowtierodz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess my question to you would be: What are you actively doing to find this "perfect man?" You have to remember, about 90% of women out there are looking for exactly the same thing. One of these guys is not just going to accidentally drop in your lap. You have to be active in your search.
I applaud you for your morals and your dedication to your ideals. Not a lot of 17 year olds I know have your priorities. Unfortunately for you, not many 17 year old boys are thinking with the correct head (the one on their shoulders). So, finding Mr. Perfect at your age is even harder than it would be for someone older.
Judging by what you describe wanting, you seem like a level-headed and nice girl. Be patient. You are still young enough to find him. Just don't let your loneliness compromise your values. You'll find the right guy when the time is right.
2006-10-26 07:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to school over seas. That's a problem in itself because they see you as a temporary part of their lives, so they try to get the most out of you that they can. You might also be coming off in the wrong way. Change the way you are around them, maybe you seem too desperate and trying to please. That could make you seem easy. I knew plenty of guys in high school that wanted a girlfriend, and not a "sleeping bag". You need to find guys that are smart and considered "nerdy", and you will find what you want.
2006-10-26 07:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey.. there are good ones out there.. but u got to have patience..
99.99% of the guys out there want only 1 thing from a female...
but hang in there ...u will find someone..
But remember that sex and love are also a very intergral part of a relationship.. but they shouldn't be the only part or the foundation of the relationship.
Best of luck.
2006-10-26 07:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by Manisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want what is impossible to have. You want a certain amount of emotional and physical intimacy ( "rest my head on their shoulder"), but you don't want him to be aroused sexually?
You ask too much. Most young men about your age are over-sexed (tv, books, etc.) even if they are not sexually active. In order not to send mixed signals, nix the physical contact. You got to set limitations early in the relationship. Don't be alone with a guy. Men ( and women too) are made a certain way. You can't expect there not to be sexual feelings if you put yourself in certain positions. "Don't awaken (romantic, sexual) love before it's time", to quote a really awesome book.
2006-10-26 07:20:34 · answer #7 · answered by fruitypebbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince charming.
Boys at 17 are immature and their hormones are raging... this renders many of them (not all) unable to have a real meaningful relationship.
I would suggest getting to know the guys first and becoming friends and then starting to date if it goes well.
The slower you move in the initial stages the more you get to know if this is a person you should be dating or not.
I would switch my focus ast this stage of your life to my education and career. Keep yourself open to meeting people and the right person will come a long.
The truth is it takes time.
2006-10-26 07:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by Kitia_98 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is sex the problem, or that guys only want sex and are not giving emotionally?
The header of your question says "why can't I find a guy who know his limits?"
You seem to have an issue with sex, yet you are looking for a best friend that is not female, which says sex is an issue.
You can't expect someone to fill all your needs until you are sure what it is you actually need.
2006-10-26 07:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea u right there are plenty of us, The Few n The Proud, "The Good Guys", but u still young, you will find that guy who will love you for more than you physical features. Jus take your time n be more careful n who u choose
2006-10-26 07:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by dopeboymagic22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join the chess club, honors club. Volunteer for your political party, at the pet shop, or at the hospital / nursing home. Find a church with a fervent youth group. And understand that when you rest your head anywhere in a guy's presence, he only thinks one thing. Someday you'll be glad.
2006-10-26 07:19:15 · answer #11 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋