Lets start by just saying my exboyfriend/bestfriend and my sister sleep together.It took a week to get the whole truth from both of them.I want to know how can i just go on with life in a healthy way? I never in a million year saw this one. Any Advice?
2006-10-26 07:07:02 · 10 answers · asked by Shannon W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if he is your EX, then there shouldn't be a problem even though it is weird.
2006-10-26 07:08:42 · answer #1 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. that's pretty crap. Firstly...dump the guy, get over him, find a new guy. Second. Talk to your sister. there's got to be a reason why she slept with this guy, knowing full well that he was your boyfriend and best friend. You should figure that out. If it was a mistake/accident. Forgive her, move on. But be careful leaving her around your new guy...when you talk to her about the incident, don't try to look for lies or hidden meanings. Trust her to be truthful. She is your sister afterall.
Good Luck. Feel better. No one but you can make you feel low and unwanted.
2006-10-26 07:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jade de Rhiannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a rough one. You will have to be the bigger person. Definitely you can not trust your xboyfriend. If your friendship was a true one then in time your friendship will still be there. But nothing more. As far as your sister, I am so sorry. That is tough, because she is always your sister and for some reason she was not thinking. She got caught up, not making excuses for her. Definitely there needs to be a sit down with you two. She needs to know how bad this hurt you and what she is causing inside of you about trusting her. Family should be about love and trust. She has damaged that. Reassure her that you love her but as far as trust, it has to be regained in time. And she needs to know it is not going to be over night for that trust to come back.
Good luck dear, you will be in my prayers.
2006-10-26 07:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by Ò?à®?á?¦JulieBirdá?¦à®?ϯÒ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to a counsilor or something, I mean, it's better to talk about it then to keep it in. If you keep it in, it'll only get worst. Also, break up with your boyfriend if you didn't already, but before that, you should first get imformation why he cheated on you (if you hadn't asked already). After this, you may hurt, but you'll also learn from it and adapt from it. Just settle down and take your time, breathe, or you'll feel worst for when it happens so fast. Be careful, and remember that you always have someone to talk to. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-10-26 07:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by nunyah business 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always dump the ex and the best friend, but your sister is the worst.
You need to move on and find new friends and in time a decent guy. It will suck to be home on holidays, but that is the price your sister will pay.
Good luck.
2006-10-26 07:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, that is just bad, but always remember that blood is thicker then water. your sister as missed up but your her sister and you two will be together for a long time with or with guys around! maybe if your sister was your best friend she might not do it any..it sounds like you need a new anyways.
2006-10-26 07:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by crystalynn d. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
oh i am so sorry!! i know that had to hurt! i'm so so so sorry 4 u!!! if i was you i would... pray!!! i would pray to help me with problem and i would pray for me to find someone else. have you forgiven your sister. i know yall are sisters but i wouldn't talk to her! i mean that was YOUR boyfriend and to do something like that behind your back thats a big NO NO!!!! put it this way if he loved you enough he wouldn't have done it and he wasn't yours in the first place and for your sister if she loved you enough she would have never thought to do that at all and none of them deserve your time. you WILL find somebody i'll pray for you keep strong !!
2006-10-26 07:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by Miz Precious C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep.. keep the ex an ex and have a talk with your sister to find out why it happened.
Then... forgive you sister and go find a new guy.
2006-10-26 07:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to move on. You can't dwell in the past, what's done is done and its not your fault. Whatever you do, DO NOT blame yourself. Do your best to forgive and forget and move on. Lean on God for strength, He will always be there for you.
2006-10-26 07:12:55 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Spirit♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these people are entitled to be happy and so are you.. is it really healthy to have a best friend who is your ex? get out there and make new friends.
2006-10-26 07:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by larry s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋