I'm a 20 y/o college student who's never dated and has very little friends. I want to start dating but I honestly have NO idea how to.
So I have a few questions......
Should I know a girl well before I ask her out?
What does one do on a date?
When is a girl your "girlfriend"?
I must have a missing instinct or something because it seems like everyone else already knows this kind of stuff.
Any other advice is welcome.
2006-10-26 06:58:26 · 14 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay...well You should at least talk to a girl and have her number before you ask her out on a date. Ussually guys take girls to the movies...which i hate, cause you can't talk during a movie. Dinner is always nice too. um...oh..you can't call a girl your girlfriend unless you ask her to be your girlfriend.
I hope this helps..if you need anythign else you can email me at: Californiabeauty@netzero.net
2006-10-26 07:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by calibeauty3698 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It helps if you know the girl a little bit before you ask her out. It gives you a place to start from BUT it's not a requirement. I would suggest before you start jumping into dating that you find a way to meet more people and make more friends.
Myabe join a club or take up a hobby of some sort to meet more people.
Instead of a serious date, try asking someone out for coffee first. Then chat get to know eachother. Usually dates consist of dinner/ lunch and conversation. Movies are a very good first date because it's two whole hours where you don't have to talk.
After eating and/or seeing a movie, if the date is going well then go for a little stroll somewhere nice. If it's awkward and you don't have much in common, then take her back home.
Don't push for a good night kiss on the first date. Not every date will be successful, some will just not go well. Chalk those up to experience.
A girl becomes your girlfriend after you've had a few consistent dates. Usually there's a conversation about basically "being exclusive", which means not dating other people. Sometimes the relationship happens very naturally and there doesn't have to be a conversation.
Women find it romantic if you ask them to be your girlfriend instead of assuming.
Other things to remember: women like gifts, even small little mementos. Flowers are usually a big hit. Small little gifts for no reason are a big hit, especially if they are based on something you remember about them. For instance, if she told you she liked a certain candy or type of flower and you bring that as a little gift.
My only other advice is to go slow, have fun and don't put too much pressure on yourself.
2006-10-26 06:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kitia_98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting friendships develop with girls is a great way to start. Common interests can help. If you like reading, hang around a bookstore and strike up a conversation about a book a girl has just picked up. Friends who decide to date can make the most awesome relationships.
There are different kinds of "dates" but I would define a date as sharing time with someone at a predisposed time for a specific purpose.
The "girlfriend" term is different for different people. It's not as rigid as it used to be, when you dated a girl a few times and you became an item. Now, it's a matter of each one's definition and that's hard to pin down.
2006-10-26 07:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much. Calm down and realize that you don't need to know anything more than you already do if you want to start dating. I will give you some advice to help the transition smoother though. Its much better to at least know them a good little while before you start dating them. On a date you go have fun and learn more about each other doing whatever you both want to. You should ask her if you are a couple but explain to her how you feel about dating her.
2006-10-26 07:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a god idea to get to know a girl a little bit before you ask her out. As for not knowing what to do on a date, ask her what she likes to do, where she would like to go, keep it casual, at least on the first date. When you two discuss being more than just friends and decide if you are going to be more than just friends, then that is when you are going out, or boyfriend and girlfriend. Good luck!!! Hope this helped!
Peace!
2006-10-26 07:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel bad---i was 21 when i had my first date. I think you are sweet--not jaded! Just ask out a girl for coffee and you don't have to know her very well--although i would not suggest asking out a stranger. Part of dating is to get to know that person. Enjoy a walk in the partk, a movie, an activity you both would enjoy. Over time, if your friendhip continues to blossom and you are mutually interested in being "exclusive" with each other, then you are a couple. there is no magic formula here. Be yourself and you will do fine.
2006-10-26 07:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u like a girl or would like to get to know some girl ask her out. if you dont want a full date (dinner, movies, etc) on the first date ask her to go have coffee with you in the student union or meet up at the library or campus area. first dates are very uncomfortable for the both of you. dont think it is only you.
unless you date the same girl for a few months and you are only dating her and her only you, then you ae sort of bf/gf
its ok if you are shy, some women like that. i have always gone out with shy guys (i am not shy) and they like that because i let them come out of their shell little by little.
2006-10-26 07:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is anti-social and I am fine with that. He is also lacking in the friend department because his past high school friends were all shallow, but again he is fine with it so I am. If people judge you for being different than that is their problem and of no concern to you; especially if girls are still approaching you. I think being unique is awesome. I honestly don't know what to say about the no sex thing though because my man is opposite of you in this area. Who knows maybe if given the chance you can find a girl who has your qualities and social life. You can be yourself and still find someone.
2016-05-21 22:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wuld definetly start looking around in your classes and see if anyone intrigues you first. Secondly, yes I believe that you should know the girl somewhat b4 you ask her out. For going on a date I would suggest something fun & light. Like a great restaurant and maybe bowling/putt-putt/movies/jazz bar/coffee bistro or something to that extent. I think to become someone's gf I would have to be asked out, but I am kind of old-fashioned. IDK when asking someone out or to be your gf stopped happening. This eliminates gray areas. Always be yourself and if they don't like it then there is someone else that will! :)GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-26 07:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to meet someone through attending social situations where there
might be people your age (like church, sport events) Have you tried any of
the talk lines for singles? I am 52 yrs. divorced and having the same problem.
Every couple has their own way of starting to kiss, etc. Just use you instinct.
It will be awkward at first.
2006-10-26 07:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by judy f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋