I'am a 22 year-old guy and a few months ago, I went out on a few dates with this 18 year-old girl from church. At first, I really liked her. She was tall, pretty, and she seemed like she was the intellectual type, and very mature for her age. Well, a few days after the first date, she called me and asked me to go snorkeling with her at La Jolla Cove the following Saturday at 9:00 in the morning. I said yes, and that Saturday morning, I got to the cove an hour early. The only problem was that there was no parking to be found at the cove. The parking spaces are very limited at the cove to begin with, and EVERYONE in San Diego had to be there that particular morning. To make a long story short, after looking for almost 2 hours, I never found parking and I missed the date. I left her messages explaining why I didn't make it, and she never called me back! And at church, she wouldn't talk to me about it. Why did she have to be so immature about it? Do all younger girls act this stupid?
2006-10-26 06:56:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just think of it like this you don't have to worry about her and her immaturity anymore. It is her loss, I would not have been mad at you I would have been touched that you spent so long looking for parking.
2006-10-26 07:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. However, you need to understand where she is coming from. This date may have been a big deal for her, she may have had some really nice surprise planned. Also, she probably has no idea how hard you tried to get there, so she assumes that you didn't try hard at all. Invite her somewhere, and see what happens. If she won't go, then move on and let her grow up a bit.
By the way, if you got there an hour early and still couldn't find a parking spot in time to make the date, then how the heck did she find a spot if she didn't get there an hour early? Seriously though, you should have been more resourceful, like calling her at 8:45 and saying "I've been here for 45 mins looking for a spot, and I can't find one...Did you find a spot? Where?". If you didn't have that option because one of you doesn't have a cell phone, then drive your car a couple of miles away to where there is parking and call a cab to take you the final couple of miles. Make it happen man! You are a guy, you are supposed to have solutions and make things happen!
2006-10-26 07:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she's pissed off because you ditched on your date, not because of the parking situation. My guess is obviously she didn't get the huge diatribe of messages you left for her; or didn't want to hear yet another excuse coming from yet another loser.
Yes, she's immature and stupid, but that's why your dating her. 22 and 18, please, get real. Try just turned 18, and you were looking for a rather easy way to go pants-jumping. Yes, if she were more mature, she would accept your apology over a $200 sushi bill… but you didn't offer sushi, did you? Did you even offer to invite her out for drinks? See, regardless of how church going you are making yourself out to be… the only way a 22 year old guy should be dating (this is a message for every other 21+ guy trying old school, high school tricks) is with dinner, drinks, movies, major social events, trips to the yacht club, etc.)
You are a guy making a move on a younger girl, and for that, you have to carry the total package. Being in church doesn't cover it for a girl who (rather soon) wants to parlay her stunning looks, nice rack and stunning "oh my gosh" charm into a plush, work-free soccer mom career. You missed on a date… how is the time for you to pull ALL THE STOPS!
I hate people that try to delude themselves. Stop playing the church route (it's really tacky for dating situations, unless all your dates are at church) and really treat her how a 18 year old hottie should be treated.
Treat her with class and respect.
If she's too immature to accept mature dating style, then maybe you're dating just a tad too young. Hell, i know girls dating their English teachers that appreciate more class.
Hope it helps!
2006-10-26 07:06:07 · answer #3 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya you are right...very immature of her to behave like that...she should have tried understanding your problem.
But i dont understand...y did you not call her up tell her that you cant find a parking space.
As for now try giving her your msg thruogh some friend or somethin n if still she doesnt call you...then i think you should move on. Because nothing else will make her understand that.
2006-10-26 07:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm quite a extraordinarily infantile individual to yet people tell me in a sturdy way. And it relies upon on what the girls are after. in the event that they going for a sturdy time you're a risk. yet while a woman is finding for a severe courting you will could do quite some persuading to coach which you would be severe along with her and decrease the crap while needed.
2016-10-16 10:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by durrett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thought i'd bring up a possibility I hadn't seen mentioned. Maybe she wasn't there either. She could now be pretending to be mad so you don't ever know. Either way, stop worrying about it. I certainly wasn't like this when I was that age, but I imagine there are plenty that are. Drop her from your mind and find someone you are more compatible with.
2006-10-27 20:29:03 · answer #6 · answered by ss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's only 4 years difference in your ages but there seems to be 10 years difference in your maturity.
Don't worry about it find someone who is as mature as her age.
2006-10-26 07:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by credo quia est absurdum 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably thought that you didn't want to go on the date and that you lied about it. Try explaining this to her.. If you really like her, give her a call one more time!
2006-10-26 06:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by just me000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, honestly? NO. maybe she just thinks in her little head that she didnt deserve that. dont worry about her. she obviously doesnt sound very christian like as she plays it off to be if shes making a big deal outta something to silly. when i was 18 i didnt do things like that. lol. just smile and be happy :)
2006-10-26 06:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by scion_xb_girly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would seem so....date someone more your age. Live and learn from your mistakes.
2006-10-26 06:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋