I hurt a girl a long time ago and I still love her. I made a big mistake by breaking up with her. I want to win her heart back, but she has a bf for 5 years now. I really want to show her that I'm sorry and that I'm not the same person anymore. I was wrong and immature back then. I don't know anything else to tell her. I love her with all my heart and we have been friends for the longest. I've always been by her side in anything she does. I really need help. Please tell me what to do.
2006-10-26 06:47:11 · 29 answers · asked by Brandon S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A long time ago I remember my boyfriend whom had broken up w/ me horrifically. Crying and threats included. And we decided it was best we stay friends. One day he took my hand and I knew something was wrong he sat me down and told me If I thought he was the same guy I had seen so many years ago. I told him no he was a new person. He told me he liked this girl. I told him to talk to her. He said I just did and then kissed me. I was taken back but I still did not give in. Instead over a two month period since we had decided to stay friends he knew me well. One day I woke up to him on my balcony singing My favorite song from my favorite movie. That night I had a stroke I was taken to the hospital and when I woke up he was pushing my hair back crying. Telling me he loved me. Then I knew it was love. You don't need the girl you love to have a stroke but if you love her then you should know what she loves. Try to be that man and be there for you. It may take a long time but slowly she'll realize your not the same person.
2006-10-26 06:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she has a boyfriend and a child she is in love with that man.
My only suggestion is to be there for her as the best friend that you have been since your break up. You have to show her, not tell her that you have changed. It make take time. But some things are worth waiting and working for. And I am sure she knows that. She will see that you are not the same person and maybe have a change of heart.
2006-10-26 13:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sweetest thing would be to write a letter with all ur feelings inside. she has a boyfriend and 5 years is a long time it could put her in a position of choosing if she has the same feelings. u did hurt her so don't expect her to come running back to u not everyone takes getting hurt the same way. she might not wanna get hurt again but u should tell her ur feelings so she at least know. if u don't get her back don't feel too bad after all she sounds like she's in a serious relationship u wouldn't want to come between her and her boyfriend. if it's meant to be it will happen and if not still be her friend but move on
2006-10-26 13:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been there by her side for the last 5 years she's seen you changing and probably already knows all that stuff. But she obviously cares for this other guy because she's invested a lot of time and energy into that relationship. If you love her than let her be if she's happy. If she's unhappy and looking for a way out then just let her know that you care for her still and always will. Just be prepared to let her go. If its meant to be then her relationship wont last. But you butting in and trying to break them up so you can have her is only going to cause her a lot of heart ache and you honestly might not win. Just let fate run its course.
2006-10-26 13:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you may have missed your chance. As bad as it sounds you might just have to get over it and move on. The best I could say is that you should talk to her ask her to met you for a meal, in a neutral place, and tell her in advance what you want to talk to her about and make sure she ( and the BF) know that you are also just apologizing. If she is happy with him, don’t try to win her back, just let her be happy. The best you can do then is just try and make up with her and be her friend and through your friendship you can prove that you have changed and maybe one day she will love you back. I’m sorry I know this probably isn’t what you wanted to hear but I hope it works for you!
2006-10-26 13:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must be important to you if you still have feelings for her after all this time. Try to see if you can talk to her and see what her motives are. If she has moved and ur certain that she is happy with her current relationship, then you need to be man enough to accept that. If you hurt her a long time ago, she'll always remember how she felt at that time and she may never want you back. Realize that while you may have changed, it may take her a while to see it. Be patient and wait it out. If you love her like you say you do, then time will tell. She may come around after all. Good luck.
2006-10-26 13:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Spirit♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's a doozie. Tell her. I know everyone says that and it's easier said than done. But do it, I think it might go well. Chances are if she still talks to you and you're still friends, she likes having you in her life and still harbours fondness for you.
Yes, she has a boyfriend but, if they've been dating five years and aren't engaged or that serious then she's probably just waiting for someone who loves her better to come along.
Girls want to be loved by someone who knows them and adores them. If you're that person, let her know. Tell her how you've changed and why she should give you a second chance.
But... some hurts are still unorgiveable and, if you come clean and admit your love and she doesn't seem too impressed. You may need to get out of her life.
2006-10-26 13:52:58 · answer #7 · answered by KeM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has had a boyfriend for 5 years, then I think you should forget her. I mean if she is happy, then why do you want to interfere with her life just to make yourself happy. Sometimes love means knowing when to let someone go for their happiness. I think this is one of those times, I'm sorry. If she wasn't in a relationship, then I would say talk to her. Tell her everything you've said here. But, you know she is with someone, and since its been that long, I would guess she is happy. Good Luck !!!!
2006-10-26 13:51:38 · answer #8 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do at this point is just ask her out for lunch or something, and tell her how you feel. She'll never know unless you tell her. Although, you did mention that she has a boyfriend, I would definitely plan a romantic dinner, and take her out and just tell her. The worse thing that could possibly happen is that she may just want to stay friends, but who knows, if she isnt happy with her current relationship, this may open her eyes to what she could have, and you might just get her! It never hurts to take a risk, so my advice is to go for it.
2006-10-26 13:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have always been by her side, maybe she knows you are the one that truly cares. Hopefully, she is with this boyfriend to keep from being alone, and only wants to be with you, you are the one who broke up. Try talking to her, claim your love, tell her you are sorry, and you want to build a great life together. If she tells you that isn't what she wants, you will have to let it be. You can only persist so much, you need her on your side too.
Good luck!
2006-10-26 13:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋