your partner want to lock you down as in do not want you to go anywhere, but he must go when and where he wants. What should I do?
2006-10-26 06:31:31 · 48 answers · asked by Kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to leave this bullying control freak..you are in a relationship but it sounds like a prison sentence to me...If you stay it will get worse get out while you are still breathing because he will end up being violent to you next and he might kill you.
2006-10-26 06:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever your situation, this isn't healthy for you. You may see this as him looking after your wellbeing but what it really says is that you have no self worth. You are an individual with great potential and there is someone out there that will let you flourish and push you out into the world to experience and enjoy it.
You already know the answer and I doubt anyone will tell you anything different. This isn't love honey this is power in the cruelest way. Get out while you still can.
Good luck! x
2006-10-26 06:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by Dakina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's insecure. He knows that he has something good but his self confidence is so low he doesnt see himself as deserving of you. It doesnt necessarily mean that he doesnt trust you, maybe he doesnt like the thought of other guys checking you out, or maybe he thinks you will find someone better. Just sit him down, explain that you feel suffocated and that he has nothing to worry about. If he gets upset and realises how he's been acting then it could possibly strengthen the relationship a great deal but if he gets defensive explain that there is no future if your just his house pet!
2006-10-26 06:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm sounds like a control freak to me. Tell yourself do YOU want to be on lock down doing absouslty nothing but wondering wehre your partner is and what they are doing with god knows who? I say get singel...and FAST before anything else happens. If you do end up singel and they come back sayn never will it happen again or anything...don't listen to it. It will happen it will get worse and they might end up being abusive..show them that you can do better and don't need them!
2006-10-26 06:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by Haley Candace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I've dated a couple of control freaks like that before. This is one of the first signs of how abuse starts. I made the mistake of trying to argue and reason with the first guy and he made my life miserable. The second time I ended up dating a guy who acted like that, first I ignored him, then I told him to f*ck off and I dumped him. You need to get out of this relationship RIGHT AWAY. Leave! And don't waste time trying to be friends or even talking to the person. Just get out of there!
And learn proper grammar.
2006-10-26 06:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman of 50 yrs old & lived a life of a controling man...It took me 20 yrs to finally leave..when I read something like this Please get out for some men wont change if they are controling(i said some) Do not waste your life as I did..& be careful of the promises made for they usually hold true for just a short time...then goes back to the way it was...I just hope he not abusive as mine was..Hold your ground & stay true to your self..& Please be careful...God Bless & good Luck I now have a man that is very good to me & showed me how life can be
2006-10-26 06:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by jpotts 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
put your foot down and grow a backbone! he will only do this to you cause he can get away with it. Just go out anyway and just be polite and as normal as if u were staying in with him...so nothing then is different to him...cant accuse u of being in a mood and going off in huff. just say u fnacy going out. He should learn to trust u really xx
2006-10-26 06:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by helz bellz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am taking this answer from a movie (Meada goes to Jail) just modified it a little. If a man is like that he is not going all that cause he loves you. He wants to make sure you don't see him doing something he is not suppose to be doing.
2006-10-26 06:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by Lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What right has this man to tell you where to go and who to see? He is a complete control freak. Soon you will be dressing like a frump, wearing no make up and trying to please him all the time. Do yourself a favour and get rid - things will only get worse.
2006-10-26 06:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by Ally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him now. He doesn't love you, he is trying to own you and control you. You can't honestly think that you will ever be happy that way. Chances are that will never change. Get away.
2006-10-26 06:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋