I think so, and i've never done it...but i've had one of my friends that's dated two of my ex boyfriends. We're still good friends, and talk all the time. Have you ever done this?
2006-10-26 06:28:47 · 22 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think its a NO NO..but thats just me and i would never want to hurt a true friend
2006-10-26 06:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good idea. If done it should be done with consideration for the friend. If it's ok with the friend and they won't be bothered or hurt but it then it's ok but otherwise stay away. People tend to forget that there is a whole world of people out there to date. It really isn't that hard to find someone. You don't have to risk a friendship over dating someone that you'll probably break up with at some point anyway. Better to keep the friendship strong.
2006-10-26 06:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by DiRTy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Test #1: Does it make it awkward for you to be around your friend who dated your ex-boyfriends? If it makes you uncomfortable, then she needs to respect that as your friend.
Test #2: How long did you date these men? If your relationships was very short (less than 1 month), then I would not be too concerned.
2006-10-26 06:33:14 · answer #3 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently dating my best friend's ex. It really depends. Usually a friend will care if you date an ex only if they either still have feelings for them or that the ex hurt them badly. It's best to talk to the friend and see if it bothers them first. My best friend didn't mind me dating her ex at all, she was happy for me.
2006-10-26 06:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Ling-Ling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest with you gurl i don't think you should have been friends with her. look,to me all this dating a friends ex isn't the best thing. believe me I've been there and done that. So many of my so called friends did that behind my back and i didn't like it. i quit trusting them and we hardly talk anymore. we use to but not anymore because i wasn't going threw that anymore. look at it this way you never got jealous? did you ever wonder is he doing the same thing to her as he did to me? is he loving her the same way as me? I'm surprised you wasn't hurt by it. Your strong gurl !!and if you comfortable with it keep it up. just look out 4 yourself and be careful.
2006-10-26 06:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by Miz Precious C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it's something best avoided. If they broke up amicably ten years ago but you now share a deep and burning passion for each other, then okay, sure. But in most cases, it should be avoided, out of courtesy to your friend.
I extend the rule to anyone I know my friend is interested in: as soon as I know she has a crush, has set her cap at him, whatever, I consider him permanently off limits. But it's important to call dibs - I made out with my best friend's guy friend from college once, and then a few months later they started dating! I was horrified and never would have touched him if I had suspected they had any interest in each other. But it all worked out and ten years later I was maid of honor at their wedding.
2006-10-26 06:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a teen I had a friend who continually dated my ex's, or tried to. I can tell you we are no longer friends. There is a trust issue between friends and I could not trust anyone who would date my ex's.
2006-10-26 06:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually set my friend up with my ex. They seemed to be a better match than me and my ex. it was about 4 months after we split up.They have been married 8 years now with 3 kids and I am the godmother to their oldest.
2006-10-26 06:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, i have a tendancy to shy away from previously chewed meat. Usually its my friends dating my ex's but I dont mind cause im done with them anyways. I just see it as them doing the clean up.
2006-10-26 06:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by Rae 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a libra, and libras are well known to get along with just about everyone and not care about things like this, when we are no longer involved with someone. Not everyone is like this however, so it is best to talk it over with the best friend. If she seems fine with it, okay, if not don`t do it if you value the friendship.
2006-10-26 06:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋