Lately, bf is ignoring me saying he really busy and needs "me time"...what could be going on?

Question

Lately, for the past few weeks my boyfriend has not been trying hard in our relationship. I always have to call, IM, do anything first otherwise it won't happen.Then when I do call, he gets mad or acts like he doesnt want to talk to me. I asked him what was up, and he just said he was busy with work (but I still come "first" he said)- which I accepted until I found out at work he goes on myspace.com, does fantasy football trades, just stuff that he could take 5 min out and call me. It just seems like he doesnt want to be with me. Last night, I got really p***ed off because I only get to see him a few days a week. So I drove an hour to see him, and when i got there he asked me to do his dishes and cook him dinner, which i did because I dont mind it, but then I wanted to go do "it" haha, and he was like um ok lets just wait another half hour, so I said fine. When it was time, I went into his bedroom and laid down on his bed. He came in and said hey Ill be right back...(more below)

so I waited 10 min and he still didnt come back, so i went out to the living room and he was surfing the net! I was so mad! he just has been acting weird and its really making me worry...what could be going on? do you think he really is just busy or too tired to hang out with me? Also, he has been saying he needs "me time" right after he comes home from work, but he stillwants to manage to fit me in to talk for a FEW min beforethe night is over..

Answer 1

I will tell you exactly whats going on. He's bored. Not a bad thing, just means its time for some changes. Lets take it step by step.

When he gets mad when you call him, is it because you called him about something trivial and kept him on the phone for a long time?
If so then try to minimize that.

Fantasy football? yeah all guys do something fantasy related, whether its football, warcraft, guitar hero, or whatever. It's just a guy thing. You are right, he could take five minutes out to call you, but if he's afraid you are gonna keep him on the phone, that means less time to play fantasy football ;P!. It's pathetic, but true. Some guys will actually turn down Blow jobs so they can keep playing their "fantasy" game.

When you went over his house and he wasn't really in the mood to "do it", well the answer to that is easy. He has been masturbating waaay too much. Guys can't keep doing it over and over again, they need to recharge, hence the half hour comment. He probably whacked off just before you got there.

What you can do to fix this:
Like I said, try to minimize the trivial talk. How? Just keep your conversations short and too the point. You guys probably have different views on whats trivial and whats important. So keep it short and sweet, no matter its about.
If he is giving you honest good feed back, he likes the conversation, if not, he doesn't, so say goodbye and you will talk to him later.

Dress sexy: Where some tight cloths that will show off your figure. Show some cleavage. Act like you are going out on a first date with a guy you really like and sex is definitely on your mind. Be irresistable in his eyes. He will take notice. It might even inspire him to stop being such a bum and appreciate you more.

Cooking him dinner is cool, guys love that. Nothing much sexier than a woman that wants to take care of her man. But don't do his dishes. You're his gf, not his maid. Tell him to do his own damn dishes.

Ask him if he masturbates alot. Just flat out ask him, and tell him if he can cut back you will make it worth his while.

Take the initiative when it comes to sex. Just laying there waiting to get f*cked is not a good strategy. Sometimes the girl has to make the first move, it's good for a change up.

Make plans for you and him to hang out in advanced. This way, he can do all is football fantasy geek stuff and myspace crab before he sees you. If he doesn't want to make plans with you, then tell him you don't think things are working out. Because if you do all the above, then you are the perfect gf and deserve better.

Answer 2

I think the writing is on the wall. He sounds tired of the whole "relationship" deal. Not having to deal with you and not needing to IM/text/call you is easier. Not needing to come up with ways to entertain you is easier. Even the whole sex thing has become too much of an effort.
He's busy, he doesn't want to "try hard" anymore, and he acts mad when you call. I think it's time to realize you deserve someone who treats you better. He sounds like he's done.
(PS he still says that "you come first" business so you won't get pissed off at him, so telling you that small lie is easier, too.)

Answer 3

girl it sounds like he has a new girl and he is just keeping you on the side in case it don`t work out with her i would get a couple of friends and tell him you are going out of town and then follow him to see what he is doing maybe you will be lucky and it will be nothing but i would rather know than be in the dark and he keep using you

i had a bf that needed me time and come to find out he had a girl to help out in that me time
so from personal experience you need to find sometime out because you are worth more than just a girl on that side when he is suppose to love you

so good luck and remember you can live with out him it will be hard but you can do it good luck again

Answer 4

maybe he just isnt feelin you as much as he was before. he doesnt appreciate you enough so you should stop doing the things you do for him, such as calling him and stuff like that, so he misses you. and if he doesnt, then you dont want to be with him he is a bum.let him come to you, your making yourself too available, sometimes people loose interest if everything comes to easy. even though you guys are together you still have to play hard to get sometimes.

Answer 5

Okay I am not saying he is, but I do have a little experience with this , sounds like he either (a) Is seeing someone else or thinking of seeing someone else (b) he really does just want some me time.

Answer 6

dont go after no guy gurl unless u really love him and u seem every interested in him driving for hours to go see him and him tellig u what to do on top of that but dont sweat it if he doesnt look for u when u stop being on his back thats when u'll know he doesnt want u cuz he'll be cool with u not looking for harsh but reality am i wrong?

Answer 7

yea it seems like he is getting less and less interested in you. he has opther things in mind.
but why is he surfing the net so much. maybe he met someone online.
i mean to choose the net one night over sex with your girlfriend is pathetic.
i say this guy isnt worth it. you can find someone who will care about you just as much as you care about him

Answer 8

maybe hes just not that into you, but then again i went through the same thing and needed "me time" which made my bf obsess and call me more and it really started to tick me off, so maybe you should just give him space, but the whole not wanting sex thing.....well thats a red flag

Answer 9

guess what...mine did the same thing! he was on fantasy fball for hours and it ended up he was chatting with some 16year old slutt, so he ended that right away, because i threatened to leave! he also did the myspace for a while and i saud that it felt like he was internet dating....so he got rid of that too....if your man won't spend time with you..BOOT HIM!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

he's playing you! dont do his dishes and cook for him. sounds like he needs a maid not a gf. dont waste your time or gas going to see this jerk. he doesnt care about you or he would do some driving!