One of my great guy friends has told me he is in love with me and has asked me out. However he's not that popular or good looking. Everyone would think I was pethetic and sad to go out with such a geek (in their eyes but they don't really know him). I want to go out wih him, but I don't want to loose my popularity. Please help me!
2006-10-26 06:22:28 · 25 answers · asked by Elle :) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How dare you say that...you dont deserve a guy like that...would you rather date a guy that was gorgeous and treated you like a dog???? well thats what you deserve because you are acting like one.
2006-10-26 06:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay popularity is not everything. You will never be friends with all of them later on in life...if you can keep 2 good friends your enitre life then you are doing great. Follow your heart. Don't let people make decisions for you. You just have to do what you want to do. So what if he is not that good looking or popular. If he treats you right then go for it. Every girl just needs the guy that will treat her right and not use her you know? I say go for. And if anything let him hang out with you and your more "popular" friends more. Maybe then he will become more popular.
2006-10-26 13:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by Haley Candace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie in the long run, if the guy is good to you and a good person at heart, then that is the one you want. I don't know how old you are and right now you are probably at the age where what other people think is so important. But when you get my age (38) you will find out that nothing matters but how you feel inside, how that person makes you feel and treats you. Sounds like you like the guy but you are too worried about what others would think. You have to decide what is really important.
2006-10-26 13:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by Marie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a fact of life that women evaluate other women based on her man. Money, power, status, as well as looks all play a role in determining his worth. You write that he isn't popular or good looking? But does he have other visible attributes? Nice car? Lots of money?
Another thing to consider is how important is the opinion of the other women? You may find that the 'nice guy' is worth lowering your status with other women.
Then on the other hand, at your age, you may choose to pass up the 'nice guy' in favor of a more high status guy. You need to ask yourself what your priorities are and consider if this is a long term or short term consideration.
The truth is sometimes harsh. But that's life. You might also consider talking to your guy friend about improving his status. He may think you are worth the effort. You never know, he might have more potential than you think.
2006-10-26 13:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by TechnoRat60 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By all means go out and see if this guy is good inside as compared to outside. You want to be with him so why do you worry about your popularity. If you go out with this Geek I assure you people will wonder whats up than think of your popularity
2006-10-26 13:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by R C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you popular? Because you are who you are or because you behave like what others expect from you? you start living your life and making your decisions and showing people who you really are. Once you do this, those who stick around call them real friends, those who don't wanna know you any more, call them fake. After all you are who you are and don't be afraid to be who you are. Think about your own happiness. You obviously like this guy. And if your friends respect you enough, they will give him a chance to get to know him, after all you did so it must worth the effort. You are the master of your own life, don't forget
2006-10-26 14:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by better late than never 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends will drift away as time goes by - to new areas, to be with their families, into their own relationships and marriages. Don't pass up this chance to be with a guy you love...it sounds like you love him. If he really is not that popular, and you are, and you're good friends...then he has risked a hell of a lot by asking you.... What risks will you take for your feelings?
2006-10-26 14:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by Josephine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him, then go for it. Don't worry about what your friends think. They aren't the ones dating him, so it's none of their business. I've seen this happen a million times before. The girl rarely ever loses her popularity, the guy just becomes more popular. It'll work out fine.
But only date him if you really do like him. Don't do it out of pity.
2006-10-26 13:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by Me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't worry what others think...if you like this guy then go for it, these people are shallow....don't worry about your popularity either, you will be much respected if you didn't have an ego issue, say yes and have fun, he is prolly a great guy with genuine feelings and not just after his wild oats, these type of guys are few and far between, ignore what other people think, go with your heart
2006-10-26 13:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by ketchanski 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
POPULARITY DOESN'T MATTER!!!
Do you think when you're all old and wrinkly, all the old people will be making fun of you too?
This is just an immature stage in life where people think popularity is all that matters.
Prove to people that love is more than just what someone looks like on the outside.
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2006-10-26 13:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so shallow , if he is nice,good and kind what does it matter what other people think ?
Go out with him but be sincere and do not care about your popularity be your own person and be kind and considered!
2006-10-26 13:29:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋