2006-10-26 06:21:58 · 40 answers · asked by jameelah c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont enable him, leave him. you deserve someone who will commit to you and only you. If you think you are worthy you will leave him, if you feel that you wont find someone better and that he is the only one who will ever love you or accept you, then you will stay. UP TO YOU...
2006-10-26 06:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by cricketwinner@sbcglobal.net 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand you might be feeling lost and upset. If you really have sufficient proof that he is cheating on you, then you have to consider leaving him. A healthy relationship means both of you must be happy and commit to each other. In this case, you can't be happy since he is seeing someone else, and the fact that he is not commiting to you. Unfortunately, sometimes man go haywire because he found something that this girl has that his woman failed to provide. Is there something your man constantly wants from you but you refused to comply? This is however no excuse for cheating on you. Ask yourself whether you can forgive him 100%. Even if he says he will leave the girl for you, can you trust this guy anymore in the future? If not, there's no point wasting your youth and time. Try keeping yourself busy with other stuff. Stay single for a while and enjoy your singlehood. Start doing things you enjoy but was forbidded by your man (or ex, which I will call it). Take a good vacation and go overseas with your family or friends. Do not go to places where you have strong memories of him (e.g. places you went with him on first date). It makes you have the mistake to turn back. Get support from people who are close to you.:) Then when your heart is settled, hopefully Cupid will struck you with a guy who truly love and cherish you.
2006-10-26 06:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by Schizophrenic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him or dump him. Why would you want to be in a comitted relationship with this guy when he is not in a comitted realtionship with you? You already know he's cheating what would it be like if you two were married... ! ? Would it be o.k. then?! Even though you two are not married and some would say it was o.k obviously it is not o.k. with you! Maybe you two haven't talked about what you or he expects from either one another. If he is not serious and you are he should end it with you first before messin' around with another. Close one door before you open another he might just be a cheat always has been always will be you'll have to decide and if he is then get on with life so much the better you'll finally be off to bigger and better things. Learning from all your experiences!
2006-10-26 06:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending upon how much money you have and where you live, I would hire a private investigator. For something relatively simple like doing a surviellance, you may be able to find someone good who charges between $50 - $75 per hour. This is the low end of the scale, but believe me, even if you end up spending say $200 or so, the peace of mind is worth it. If you live in the LA or SF, CA areas, I can get a very good reference for a PI that does this type of work and will capture what he can on video for you. Good luck...Laura
2006-10-26 06:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by laura i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find hard evidence. Once you have it, confront him. this way you back him in a corner and he has no choice to confess. Then it will be your decision to either give him another chance or get rid of him! Remeber without evidence then you are assuming and by assuming it might not be true and by saying something can destroy the trust. With the evidence at least you know you will be right and you can see what kind of lies he tells you. Dont let LOVE cover your eyes.
2006-10-26 06:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by impala11419 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him or tell him what you know. If you have proof, show him. But be sure you have some proof before you confront him. Without proof, he will only blame you and make you miserable for the rest of your life whilst he will be getting away scott free! Good luck!
Actually, if he is cheating, and you have evidence, just dump him!
2006-10-26 06:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this your husband or boyfriend. If it is your boyfriend catch him in the act and let him go. U need to prove it first. If it is ur husband yall need to talk and u need to catch him . So he want put doubts about what u are feeling are incorrect. When people cheat sometimes they lie until the end and still lie. So prove he is cheating and if u think it is worth saving ur relationship then talk about the cheating.
2006-10-26 06:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by sazzybmt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 He's not YOUR man if he's seeing someone else. If you are married get a good lawyer. If you aren't tell him Ray Charles wrote a song just for him--Hit the road jack!
2006-10-26 06:26:27 · answer #8 · answered by namsaev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he's cheating? Is it hearsay? Or does someone want your man? I have a favorite saying " If it's artificial, let it be, until you see with your own two eyes"
2006-10-26 06:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by Salemn Hernandez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want a disease? Or a self depricating complex? GET THE HELL OUT!! Unless you like to share. This is why men act like that. WE LET THEM DO IT!! STOP! Stop right now, pull your head up and walk out. Don't settle for F***ING 1/2!!! You deserve a whole relationship!!! That is LUDACRIS!!!
2006-10-26 06:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by lbacig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋