How should I approch this matter?
2006-10-26 06:20:04 · 10 answers · asked by fe2bsho 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
This is a little young to be kissy- kissy. also a good way to catch the flue and spread germs! He is nine so you should be able to put a stop to this!
2006-10-26 06:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does a 9 year old HAVE a girlfriend?
If your spelling is any indication, perhaps education should be more sincerely stressed in your family. There'll be plenty of time for 'kissy kissy' later in life for your 9 year old.
Do the parents of the 5th grade girl know about her behaviour? I can't imagine a 5th grader needs a boyfriend anymore than a 4th grader though.
He's in school to learn.
2006-10-26 06:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by clair_dlune 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand why you are concerned. A 9 and 10 yr old should not be "kissy, kissy". That's too young. I wouldn't beat around the bush. Be frank and up-front. My 10 yr old likes a boy in her class. I told her that it is normal to have feelings, but at her age, she needs to focus on school/education not boys. She asked "why" and that was the way it opened up for me to really talk to her about boys. In your case, he needs to hear about the "fast" girls and "good" girls and whatever your beliefs are about this situation. I wouldn't ignore it. You don't want them to get in a "situation"!
2006-10-26 06:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize that this decision is mostly through opinion and is subject to the same. However, it has to be said that a child needs direction while at the same time the environment and encouragement to experience life in a safe and constructive way.
If a child is experiencing feelings and emotions of attachment to another person their age, regardless of gender, which is to say "that’s too young". That is an emotion or feeling that is being placed on the child by an adult. It is obvious that the child has the capacity to experience these feelings so the child should be permitted to act out their emotions with nothing but love and support.
It is not the role of the parent (nor should it be) to keep children as kids, rather encourage healthy relationships and foster safe and healthy development.
It is mostly personal opinion people provide when asked these types of questions, but ideologically, when a child begins to exhibit signs of love and affection then they themselves ARE ready to explore relationships. It is often difficult to remember that a child’s perception of a relationship and love are quite innocent. It is the parents and the adults whose perspective is warped by experience. Children merely act out how they feel and as a result keep themselves honest. It is the parents who need to support and help encourage appropriate behavior and provide a safe environment to do so.
A child developing romantic relationships is something that is as natural as masturbation, sex and body exploration. These habits and lessons begin in the womb and to believe otherwise is pure stupidity and nativity. These things are not dirty, not perverse and certainly not immature. They are quite natural and should be seen as learning experiences for later in life.
Often times, parents who feel uncomfortable with a child exploring relationships do so because they themselves have been unsuccessful with relationships and fear their children will do the same.
-Mitch
2006-10-26 08:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by Iamco2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the twenty first century. youngsters now days seem to be attentive to so lots better than "women have cooties" and "boys are gross". for sure, he desires some guideance. in case you have no longer found out yet, you could't tell him "No, do no longer do it". he will do merely it without you understanding. So...coach him what it extremely is all approximately rather of hoping that it is going away. That way he would not learn each and all of the incorrect stuff from his pals. Be open, particular, and sparkling. maximum mom and dad choke whilst it comprises talking approximately intercourse. you could tell that's time for "the communicate" whilst he starts off doing what he's doing. there is not any magic age that determines the time to talk, it extremely is what he's uncovered to.
2016-11-25 21:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak with girl's parents. 9 and 10 are a lil too young to be all up on each other like that. What will happen when they are teenagers?! Let her mom know that you think it's just a bit too early for that kind of interaction. Her mom may not even know that her daughter is acting like that.
2006-10-26 06:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sherbert 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they start getting out of hand like starting to do or talk about teenage stuff then you should approach him. if all they do is kiss and hold hands, I'd keep a closer eye on them but I wouldn't approach them just yet.
2006-10-26 06:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by christigmc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discretely consult her parents and have proof available. If her parents are porn stars/swingers contact the school counselor to handle the situation.
2006-10-26 06:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by strongwooddeadtree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this but she may have sexually abused? some of you may think I'm nuts but when I was little I did the same thing and I'd been sexually abused good luck
2006-10-26 06:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by dogydoorman@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
umm are you sure your not talking about you?? wow hmm anyways put an end to it! education first!
2006-10-26 06:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by anyways_fukitol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋