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I just text him how hot he looked today (he brought me lunch) and that I want to show him dirty tonight....Yes, I get dirty, and he never text back. So I felt stupid, rejected, etc. I called and he said, I was going to write you later but I'm working right now and you wouldn't understand that....(my office is not very busy lately). Hmmm...can we say 'smackdown'? That made me feel awful! He won't ever apologize for it though! Argh! All I wanted was a text back saying that he can't wait for me to get home, blah blah....Why is he so mean sometimes??? guys? Any takers? Give me your opinions.

2006-10-26 06:16:03 · 22 answers · asked by inlovewow 4 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

22 answers

Okay, sweetie, I'm not saying this to be a jerk, but GET OVER IT, and here's the reason why...Men don't need constant reassurance like women. When they're busy, they're busy, and they don't feel like they have to explain. If he doesn't write back right away, so what?

I saw a girl wrote on here to punish him by not having sex. DON'T DO THAT! That is WRONG! NEVER punish a man with no sex. He'll become more and more distant and feel threatened.

I also read from another woman telling you to find another man. That's WRONG also. You don't run away when things bother you, you talk about them.

It's not your boyfriend's job to always do the right thing. It's not his job to be perfect and read your mind.

Tell a man what you want, don't expect him to read your mind.

Tonight, get "dirty" for him. After that, and wait a while, just kindly tell him that you understand if he can't always get to you at work and that you're sorry for overreacting.

Good luck sweetheart =)

2006-10-26 06:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by A 2 · 1 1

He was nice enough to buy you lunch that is awesome.
Lunch should not equal dirty sex in your mind.
If you text some one at work it should be in the vanilla vein.
You also should have not expected a response till the end of the day.
Just because it is slow where you are would not always hold true for your boyfriend’s place of employment.
Do you really fell that you supersede everything?
He could be fired for receiving or making a personal text message or phone call if he boss feel that it is cutting in to productivity.
Sex can’t fix that.

So moral of this story is:

Wait till after work to get dirty or send racy messages it will save you a lot of heart ache.

2006-10-26 06:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 0 1

Did you take the advice I gave you yesterday? If so great! Just wondering. As for today, he was just busy which can cause a bad mood at the moment. Don't take it personal. Your sweetie just brought you lunch-that's gotta count for something! I would tell you to still get "DIRTY" tonight and after you have blown his mind say sweetie when I send you erotic text I would like a reply. When you reply it turns me on even more just think I could have gotten "DIRTIER". Trust after that he will ALWAYS reply to your text. Its nothing to feel sad or mad about though, its sounds like you have a sweetie who really cares about you, That's nothing to feel bad about. Smile!!

2006-10-26 06:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by KS 2 · 0 0

Don't get mad yet. (yes I said yet). He is at work making money (can't be mad at that). Give him time to get off from work to send you a reply or call you. Still plan on doing your dirt BUT If he has not got back to you an hour after he has got off from work, then you have a right to B*****....From the queen of b****ing. Just make sure you are in the right and even given him the benefit before you on the the b**** switch.

2006-10-26 06:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by Lady 2 · 0 0

Men can compartmentalize their lives---work, sex, sports, etc. Women don't do this. When we are in love, we are in love. Men can be fully occupied with other matters.
By the way, a little restraint and modesty also works wonders. Sex is a common commodity, available everywhere. You need to be special to him in other ways.

2006-10-26 06:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by ragged 3 · 0 0

The problem is you - those are YOUR expectations. Shame on you for getting mad that he doesn't respond the way you expect him to. Maybe you should get a dog instead of a boyfriend.

OR you can find a guy that feels and responds the same way you do. It's not fair for you to bash that guy 'cause he's not like you.

2006-10-26 06:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by NEWTOME 3 · 0 1

Dont be so sensitive dear. Consider he's was true about being busy and your sexy messages are intrusive in a way if you think about it. Probably made him smile or get embarrassed...you dont know cuz you dont know what he is actually doing at the time of him receiving the message.

2006-10-26 06:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Just b/c your office isn't busy doesn't mean his office isn't; be patient and see what he will do tonight.

Calm down and relax, a surprise may be waiting for you.

2006-10-26 06:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0 1

Well maybe he is busy and is thinking of something good to write back...you never know.

2006-10-26 06:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by a1980 3 · 0 1

Thats just the way guys are sweetheart...... take it like a grain of salt. It doesnt mean anything but..... all guys are jerks like that.

2006-10-26 06:18:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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