8 children??

Question

I have 7 children(girls - 15,10,5,2 years,boys - 12,7,2 years).I divorced their father before more than a year.I met a wonderful man and we married soon.Yesterday I found out I am pregnant.I'm 4 weeks far.I want to keep my baby and we hava enough money to have 8-th child but I'm not sure how that will affect on my other children.The 8-th child won't be from their father.My 15-year-old will be 16 when her brother/sister is born.I mean when the child is 14,she will be 30!Will this be a problem to the 8-th child either?

Answer 1

Your family is what you make of it. Both of my children are from different fathers (the second man stayed in the picture and is Daddy to both) but the girls don't say that they are "half-sisters", and we don't either. We treat them as the sisters they are. They know no different. I'm sure as they grow it will come up in conversation, but to us, it is a technicality. We feel that if we treat them as full siblings, that is how they will see one another. 8 is a lot of children... God bless you! I am a preschool teacher, and I can't imagine having that many children in my home (since I have nearly that many all day!) Of course your oldest children will know that there is a difference in daddies, but if they have accepted this new man as a father figure in their lives, a new baby shouldn't be much of a different transition. Make sure to include all your children in your decisions for your new baby. Let them help you decide where the baby will sleep (you'll probably have to shift rooms around, so give them a say in it), even what to name their new sibling. Have them plan a baby shower, pick out clothes, find toys that they would be willing to give to the new baby, and have them help get the baby's room ready/decorated. Good luck!

Answer 2

I feel compelled to answer this. I do not have 7 children,but my daughter was 13, when I had my second child and 15 when I had my third. She was not thrilled in the beginning, because she had been an only child all that time. After the children were born she came around beautifully. She especially loves her little brother who is now 3. She takes him to the park and is very caring. She also was present for the delivery of both. This she said made her feel a part of it. Her feeling up until that part were like she was one family and I was having another family and she was not part of it. Again I say it gets easier. She is not so close with the little one, but the little one is now one and has always been a difficult baby. My daughter says the two kids difinately are good birth control for her. She now adamintely says she wants to wait to have children. I wish you the best of luck and dont worry it will be ok. Edit. There is no reason the other children cant help. Someone stated that as long as the other children aren't taking care of the baby. As long as you are doing your part, the children should help. Thats what family is for. My dad came from a family of 16 there is no way the mother can do it all.

Answer 3

I doubt that will be much of a problem, if there are already 7 of them they are probably not going to be confused by one more, lol. The different father could be an issue for the 7-12 yr olds but typically thats only if they had a hard time adjusting to the divorce. At that age they have a tendency to be a little emotional about those kind of things. As for the 8th child unless you seperate the child as different then I doubt there will be an issue

Answer 4

You'll be fine!!! I have 3 biological children (ages 24, 21 and 16), 4 adopted children (6, 6, 3 & 3) and 2 foster children (18 months & 9 months). The 16 year old is a GREAT help & the little ones LOVE to go to their "big sisters" apartments to spend the night occasionally. It's definately "different" but a lot of fun too! ENJOY!

Answer 5

I guess I don't see the problem. You didn't seem to think having two year olds would be horrible when your daughter was 13. As long as YOU are comfortable having another child, then it's up to YOU and the man you are with.

Second, if you didn't want to consider having another child, you should have discussed birth control options before it became an issue. I realize you say you want the child, but you are posing this question in a way that suggests you might not want to have another, either.

Answer 6

If you think your other children will have a problem with the new baby sit down and talk to them. The 8th child will not have a problem with being the youngest no more than your youngest child have now with being the youngest. As long as all feel love things should go the way it would go as if all of the children were from the same father.

Answer 7

I don't think it will be a problem coz she'll be close in age to your younger children. Your oldest child will be able to help out with baby.As long as baby's brought up as part of a loving family it shouldn't make a difference that she's from a different father. Good luck!

Answer 8

I have 8 siblings! The eldest is 40 years old, and the youngest is 25. We never had any problem (maybe beause they left home when we were growing). Indeed, it's great to have sisters or brothers no matter how old they are. I don't of course get on with the elders the same as I do with the one who is 25 years old (I'm 26.5) but my relationship with each of them is unique, and I'm happy we're such a big family.

Answer 9

no there still young and they will adapt to their new baby bro or sis, they have no choice your the parent as long as you can afford it and your married to the father, they have excepted the marriage right? But either way your the adult as long as you don't make them take care of the kid for you what's the problem??? good luck with all your children and may god bless you!!!

Answer 10

If you can handle it, more power to you, don't worry about the ages, I am 20 yrs younger than my brother and the only girl I personally didn't have no problems with anything