Should i tell my bf that i cheated on him or just keep it myself?

Question

This was a year ago,i had sex w/ someone idk well except we've the same friends.it was after the party he offer me to drive home and i accept it cos we've the same way.and that moment we just found ourselves attracted to each other.he's my first but aftr that we dont talk about it & we nver see each other again bcos we're both in a relationship.until now i really feel guilty.i wanna tell my bf bout this but i dont know how and where to start.:-(

Answer 1

i dont think u should tell him anymore cause its been 2 long. u should have told him a year ago

Answer 2

The statute of limitations has run out on this one… so for guilt sake, you've dodged a bullet. Don't reopen your case by telling your boyfriend.

A little hint, though. If you really love your boyfriend, be willing to forgive his first indiscretion. Your forgiveness will be the truest test of character. People make mistakes, and things happen. That's what is so great about being young. Enjoy your life.

Wish you luck!

Answer 3

Well speaking from personal experience.....You can not tell him at all and live with the guilt wich will in my opinion ruin your relationship which did mine. Or tell him have him be so mad, possibly break up with your or work with you work through it and you will need to gain his trust back. To this day my ex boyfriend still does not know that i cheated on him 5 times while he was gone for 1 1/2 years and i still feel guilty about it. I never told him we ended up breaking up cause i would always get mad at him cause i was so guilty...i always wonder what would have happened if i would have told him.

Answer 4

If you realize your mistake and you've been tested to make sure you didn't get an STD from your one night stand that you might transfer to your boyfriend- its best to keep it to yourself. People do slip up in life and all it will do is hurt him. If you dont think you are going to be able to stay faithful in the future- do him a favor and break up with him. If you are honestly going to stop making stupid mistakes and are committed to the relationship- I wish you the best. But remember- if you all have mutual friends it MAY come out one day. Be prepared.

Answer 5

you should tell him, you need to get it out of your system or it will kill your relationship anyway. i'm not saying it's going to be easy, tell him you have something really important to tell him and he's not going to like it. then just come out with it. he'll be very upset and shocked i'm sure but make sure you have a good hard think beforehand about why you think you cheated on him, and whether you really do want to be with him. sometimes cheating on someone is a way for your subconscious to tell you that you don't really want to be with this person.

In short though, i say tell him. all good relationships have a basis of trust. otherwise your guilty conscience will present itself in other ways.

Answer 6

You should definitely tell him... its just going to make it 10 times worse if you don't and he find out on his own! You definitely messed up there you should have told him the day after it happend b/c now he is going to know you have been hiding something from him and will always be afraid you are hiding something else! You should still definitely tell him though! Good Luck!

Answer 7

Sister, you must be as stupid as you sound. Why hurt him, why burden him. Let it go. He was obviously not doing the biz at the time but things are OK now so as long as he continues to fulfill your needs SHUT UP xx

Answer 8

No point telling him now. You cannot change your past. If you love your boyfriend now, just be nice to him and don't repeat what you did again. That's all you can do

Answer 9

Hoo Haa

Answer 10

i would tell him, that's because i have a guilty conscious. also i dont believe in cheating but i do understand that it does happen and there is nothing you can do about it now. dont beat yourself up over it, just tell him the truth. he deserved that much