POSITION:
There are many errors seen on Y! questions about this topic, and I will include as additional text below due to space limits.
The Biblical text is clear on this issue. Homosexuality is a sin.
As many correctly state and bring up over and over, we are to love each other as God does us. HOWEVER, God also holds us ACCOUNTABLE even though He loves us. Although He loves all of us, He has stated that He will hold us accountable for our choices and deny those among us that disregard His will from entering Heaven. NOTE: He loves even those he denies entry to Heaven. If we are to be like God (ie Christian), then we can both love our children but hold them accountable and NOT accept their homosexual choices. Indeed, it is NOT Christian (Christ or God like) if we don't hold them accountable.
QUESTION:
Why are people so quick to grasp onto the "Love everyone as yourself or as God love us" part, but elect to exclude the ACCOUNTABILITY portion He requires from us?
2006-10-26 06:04:32 · 14 answers · asked by Robert 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Examples referred to above:
Would You Care If Your Child was Homosexual? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Amc0PUB6O6oqwVIzjxmzKjjsy6IX?qid=20061026072206AA7VU9D
HELP!!! My daughter told me she’s a lesbian
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AilIt77YFYU0wLyA_N_ik6bsy6IX?qid=20061026083633AAtl4Hn
2006-10-26 06:05:02 · update #1
Agreed. Shunning, showing hate or "kicking them out" of one's home is NOT a Christian thing to do. Shoudn't be done.
2006-10-26 06:10:02 · update #2
Amber L: Good point on bringing up the other areas. All are good for contemplation. Indeed, we do tend to overlook the others as well.
2006-10-26 06:28:18 · update #3
Fire_God_69: My question is very sincere, and I truly appreciate you very heartfelt and honest answer. Thank you.
2006-10-26 08:29:03 · update #4
full gospel shirley: Profound. You went very deep into the topic. Thank you.
2006-10-26 08:29:56 · update #5
This question is tough if you are the parent this happens to. But many things about being Christian are tough when you know you must take stands that will make others feel bad. God calls us to love and forgive everyone. any judging and condemin is totally His. Praise GOD. Yet, if we just follow all of His word, then we easily find answers. God tells us over and over in the Bible that we are to love the sinner but hate the sin. ANd, we are surely to love and encourage our children all their lives. Yet, God says we are to never act like sin is ok. So, how do we help our children if they bring this to us? Easy. tho painful at times. We must let them know we love them unconditionally as God told us to do and as He loves all of us. Thats a first, they must kow that, and they must also know that God can change and forgive anyone, they must ask, and that is their choice. Yes we love them, they are welcome in our lives, and we should be welcome in their lives. and no we dont daily beat our beliefs into their minds. But, they must be stated clearly and boundaries set. We love them, and welcome then and need them in our lives. They have rights to make their own choices. So do we. Cant be onde sides in this free to choose thing. Even God gives free choices. But, receing God brings wonderful benefits and not choosing God brings terrible destruction, and eventual Hell. God doesnt reject any of us, not even gays. When one wont accept God and love Him enough to obey Him, they choose to be rejected, and must KNOW this. But, they must always know they can be foreiven, if they turn from their sin, ask for forgiveness, repent and follow God. BUt, we must set boundaries so their beliefs are not allowed to cramp ours and their beliefs cant be shoved on us, anymore than ours can be shoved on them. They think its ok,, then fine, so be it. Live it, and I will only love you, forgibe you, pray for you, and still be your parent. But, we believe this is a terrible sin and we cant be around this, no matter how much we love you. You are welcome in our home. But, do not bring your gay partner or gay friends into our home, and force us to deal with something we do not believe in. Nor will we bring our Christian friends to your place and make you deal with our beliefs. So you can choose to be in our lives, and we in yours, if you will agree that we both have a right to set healthy boundaries, just love each other, and let the other live as they choose. And, just continue loving them, and being there for them, but take no part in their sinful lifestyle, as it says its ok. and it sure is not. God didnt tiptoe on these issues. He stood firm, that noone homosexual would enter the gates of heaven. Period. But, any sin is that way. If you have a son or daughter that is into drugs or illicit sex, or gambling, what do you do? we still love them, but they cant bring their stuff to us and we dont want to hear about it. They wont take help, so why tell us. Unless they are wanting help and to change, we cant hear it. so, they can choose to agree both sides have rights or walk. If they walk, they KNOW they rejected us and not us rejecting them, and we make that known. I would not allow my gay son or daughter to come to our home and hug and kiss on each other and act like a regular couple. they are not, and its disrespectul to us as parents. No, I dont have a gay child. But, if I did, I would handle it just this way, and pray a lot for strength to get thru it as God expects me to do, that still honors and glorifies His Holy name. and you are correct, we can love them, BUT we must hold others accountable, tell them truth, and let them live their own lives. But, they must understand we have those same rights, and have a right to say what we believe in too and to stand for our beliefs, and not ever feel we must compromise our beliefs in any way. I am sure they want that. If our not agreeing to bring gay friends around makes them say that now they arent free, it incorrect. they are still free to live as they please, but allow us to do the same. I have known people that dealt with this issue, and its the only way to go. The minute you begin to compromise your beliefs just to make your children happy, you are on a very dangerous path with God. He tells us not to tolerate sin, but to love the sinner. over and over it is sooo clear.
Then really love your child, and become a prayer warrior. Never give up on them. Prayer is really a powerful tool to use. Belive God , accept and claim His promises, and believe that He will do all He can to bring healing to that child. Wait for it to come. See your mountain being moved before you see it. Just know it is being done. Thank GOd and Wait. God can do anything. Remember that and hold onto that. Many that were gay have changed, and only by Gods divine intervention. They have ministries dedicated to just that. Not all accept it, again its choice. But, many do. just keep praying parents... it will come. Just stay faithful to God and obey Him. It will come....
2006-10-26 07:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by full gospel shirley 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I doubt your sincerity but I am going to answer this anyway.
As a christian parent I would be disappoointed however I would never stop loving my child. That's an impossibility, even if my child became a mass murderer or something, there is nothing she can do make me stop loving her. That's the same way the lord loves us. God knows that I have been a sinner my whole life, i have not a been a good man even by human standards, but after I came to the Lord I was forgiven and continue to be forgiven.
As to my child I would try to tell her that I understand the tempations of the flesh, not particularly homosexuality but in the end most sin is the same. Its an attempt by evil forces to get one to forsake their own redemption for temporary pleasures.
What most christians don't seem to understand is that homosexual tendencies are real issues that must be dealt with, with compassion not ridicule. Just as an alcoholic is tempted by alcohol so are the homosexuals tempted. They have the choice to give in or to not. And even admitting that one feels these temptations does not preculde one from attempting to hold true to God's will.
I will probably get my answer removed for saying this but I have no hatred at all towards gays and lesbians. Quite the contrary I know all to well the pleaseures of the dark side of life.
By the way I am a politically liberal democrat and I believe gays deserve equal rights in our government. Some people will call me a hypocrite, but I believe that if poeple are not free to choose the wrong path, it doesn't mean much that they choose the right path.
2006-10-26 07:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would still love my children the same as I would if they had been convicted of mass murders. They are your children, Parental love is instilled and embedded in your heart and you cant just turn it off. I would start with bringing out the bible and showing them that indeed it is stated to be unclean and ungodly. As well as show them that it is recorded as history in the bible that Soddom and Gomorrah were two cities that were burned for displaying these homosexual actions. It is hard to teach and instill these upbringings when you have so many that condone it. You cant make the homosexuals believe that they are doing an injustice in the eyes of God. They argue that God made them that way. No, God simply gave us humans Free Will. And not all of us use it correctly. The state that I live, MA, is the only state that allows Homosexuals to be married. Do I agree with it? NO. Is there anything I can do about it? NO. So am I going to worry about whether my children are going to grow up and decide that they are Homosexuals? No. Because My husband and I are doing the best that we can to raise our children in a Godly manner and bring them up to make the right decisions regarding life in general. Morals are often times pushed to the side, when they should be in the front of the line.
Additional thought: Do you also feel as strongly about the issues of Premarital sex? How about "straight" people that have Anal sex? These are also sins against God that so often are overlooked, because they are practiced so much.....it is simply accepted. Does that mean I am going to hell for having sex before I was married? All Sin is forgivable. A true heart will ask forgiveness and will be granted Gods forgiveness.
2006-10-26 06:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by Amber L 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I would say. it doesnt matter if you are hetro/homo or both. In a partnership ,two people are still going to argue about whos going to wash the dishes...And in any case in homosexual relationships,one person is still dominant/male and the other submissive/female...I reckon sometimes it is healthy to see whats on the other side of the fence.However the absolute standard,is that marriage between opposite sexes is required,and the even higher standard is actually celebacy,which all single people should be when dealing with god.The world is the world,and God gave everyone free will. We all may chose to use free-will to see the good and bad.Still the standard has been set in the bible and that is what it is...sometimes with children doing their own thing it is a reminder that we ourselves only have God and all these wordly possessions are only with us for one life.God is with you eternally ,through obedience and disobediance.
2006-10-26 06:18:30 · answer #4 · answered by chav24 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If the doubts you expressed are really true: they might disown you or force you into christian counseling I just wouldn't tell them. More homeless GLBT youth come from "good" Christian families than any other demographic. These "good" Christian parents kicked their teen GLBT sons and daughters out of the house and into the streets to survive the best they can. Many are forced into prostitution, survival sex they call it, or drug dealing. You are young. There will be plenty of time to tell them in the future. You will know when to come out to your parents because you won't have any doubts.
2016-05-21 22:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Demonstrating your narrow interpretation of scripture only worsens the conflict raised by your narrow view of human sexuality. You child may also need to see that you are open enough to the life choices your child makes, and that you will remain a supportive parent despite your personal beliefs.
After all, the accountability part is 100% personal, and cannot be enforced by anyone other than ourselves.
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2006-10-26 06:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by Heckel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I will love my children regardless of the path they choose. I will do everything in my power to teach them properly, and instill strong beliefs in them. Every person is sent to earth to be tried and tested. If I didn't allow my child the same, what favor am I doing them? I can still love somebody and not agree with their lifestyle. Each person is accountable for their own sins - which means as long as I did my part as their mother to teach them right from wrong - the sin lays on their shoulders. I am comfortable in that, because I believe if we do everything we are supposed to do - to the best of our ability, life has a way of working itself out.
2006-10-26 07:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Lucky 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How do you feel about this one?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AtVooQFECRF7DIIo3ecdsh3sy6IX?qid=20061010115038AAqAy3K
Sure, it is just fine to hold a child accountable but sometimes people take it to the next level. It's a sad thing. I'm not too sure what you do mean by "accountable?" I don't know if there is a way to hold someone accountable for their whole life and then still love and not judge them.
Who are you to say what is NOT Christian? Are you God?
2006-10-26 06:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I have 4 boys and I really hope this is an issue I never have to deal with. It is hard to say how I would react. I know that I love my children no matter what decisions they make and I wouldn't disown them but I would make it clear that I am not happy with their choice and I would not wanted it flaunted in front of the family or children. If this is the decision they make it needs to be kept private.
2006-10-26 11:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Define Christian parents. I know some and I pitty their children. If one of my children said he/she was homosexual then I would know it had nothing to do with me, religion, upbringing, recruting etc...I would know they were born that way and I would love them because we are only here in this place to love all people . Even you I must love with your different views.
2006-10-26 06:14:14 · answer #10 · answered by antiekmama 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Why do people hide behind the bible to justify bigotry? Are you held accountable for having blue eyes or green eyes? Are you held accountable for the freckles on your face?
Get off your soap box.
It has nothing to do with accountability when there is no choice involved. People do not chose to be homosexual.
2006-10-26 07:20:55 · answer #11 · answered by hsp_goddess 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋