I am a shy and timid guy that has trouble gettinga girlfriend. Is it true that girls hate shy guys?
2006-10-26 05:52:28 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No! I love shy guys...it means they arent rude and inconsiderate.
2006-10-26 05:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow that girl is gonna have a lot of problems and probably end up with a drop out drug dealer named ted and get beaten everyday. Girls (at least normal girls) LOVE smart nice guys! Those are two veryyyyy good qualities! There is nothing wrong with being shy but some girls prefer more outgoing guys i guess. That depends on the girl. But its good you get good grades and are nice to everyone. Thats a huge turn on in my opinion and all my friends would agree
2016-03-28 08:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they hate shy guys, but when presented with the oppurtunity to be carried away by a man with confidence and conviction... chances are they go with him.
I'm not sure how old you are, but online dating can be the answer to shyness... you can meet girls in a situation with far less pressure and eventually you'll develop confidence in yourself. The reason is because they are able to see you for who you really are, in particular your personality that is more fleshed out and not marred by nervousness, reservation, inhibition, etc.
It makes sense really, lets say a good deal of your life is spent in front of a computer.. and you don't go out and socialize as your primary entertainment. You do use AIM alot, and email... so... you might as well use your experience chatting online to meet women if you can. Who knows, it may work for you? It's worked for alot of people, and 40 million people do it in the US.
As far as real life, don't meet girls with the intention of making them your girlfriend. Just make friends that are girls and become more comfortable around them. I know where you're coming from dude, I used to be a complete geek and I very rarely went out... and girls were very intimidating cuz I had so little experience talking to them. Now I have enough confidence to at least talk with girls and not feel nervous. It's a big, important step.. and you should see it as a series of steps. Not as one huge step from your state to having a girlfriend, necessarily...
2006-10-26 06:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by djdep13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not that girls hate shy guys but because it is hard to get to know a shy guy they give up and become dismissive of him. There are plenty of courses you can do, or books you can read to help your self confidence to overcome the shyness which you should try - they are not as hard as you think and you will open up a whole new life. Good luck
2006-10-26 05:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Shy is doing yourself no favours.
And take note, all the women here saying they want a shy guy. First off, the opposite of shy is not brash or arrogant, it's confident. Speaking up for yourself and what you believe in. I can tell you the difference between my years being shy, not confident in myself, hidden and the years where I actually thought "Damn it, I'm worth something" and let me tell you I enjoy every night of it. This idea that girls want a shy guy is their messed up psychology... they drop their underwear for a guy who knows his value. Period. And if you know your value, you aren't shy, you just choose when not to speak. You've gotta believe in yourself. Life is so tough if you're forever worrying about the impression you make.
You'll also notice how loads of the replies saying they like shy guys pin something like "Yeah, if he's confident", "Yeah if he makes the move" or "Get on out there and do it". Sounds like they're confusing shy with polite and refined.
2006-10-26 06:04:04 · answer #5 · answered by Dirty_Idea 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I aren't no misogynist ...but what i flipping hate, is when women are indecisive ...this is my pain and my anger! when you worship a woman....treat her with the respect that a woman deserves, considerate etc ...only to have your heart ripped out. To the poster! sometimes you have to be disrespectful ...but if you can't change your ways! then don't worry ....in time they will come to you. But here's some advice ...see what the woman can do for you, not you for them! as you know who are you and your qualities. I don't want to hear another fellow brother having his heart spilled on the side street! I sound times wonder, if nice guys always come last? Or women do see the good for you, but are still insistent on going on the long and then realizing...by then it's too late. Don't put up for 2nd best.
2006-10-26 06:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by darkdealx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I'm shy myself, but i've noticed that quite a high percentage of girls like the quiet men. They feel there's a mystery about them. I met my wife 8 years ago at a party and i was my usual shy self. But she made the first move and coaxed me out. Now i'm not so shy but not too good either at social gatherings. Just goes to show you can't have everything. Don't worry fella, good things come to those who wait! Good luck
2006-10-26 06:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by slinky 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, girls do not hate shy guys! Personally I prefer quieter guys as it usually means they are more considerate. I can't stand guys who are loud and think they're it. Shy is good. As long as you can talk to a person it doesn't matter whether you're a bit quiet or not.
2006-10-26 06:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely love shy guys. I think most girls like shy guys because they are sweet, thy aren't rude, and they don't think they are the only person on the planet. I would so rather date a shy guy then an obnoxious, loud, jock.
2006-10-26 06:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by Kayla 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I love shy guys..all the guys I know are all arrogant and in love with themselves and I just find that a total turn off.
2006-10-26 06:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so untrue - I think women prefer men who are not brash and full of themselves. There is nothing wrong with being shy - you will find someone who likes you soon. Don't give up - there are a lot of shy girls out there too.
2006-10-26 05:54:44 · answer #11 · answered by Ally 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋