My boyfriend has been hearing a lot of rumours about me which are false but he still gets upset and believes them.. What can i do to help him believe me?
2006-10-26 05:49:12 · 12 answers · asked by charlotte a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give him a true and full account of your past, then leave him the choice of trusting you or not.. the key essence of a relationship is trust..
after all why does the past matter, what's important is that the two of you are together now, the choice is yours, you can chose to be happy or sad.. what ever the past is, it has happened and it's over and there is nothing you or he can do about that.. and who knows what the future is going to be? but now is what you have and chose wisely..
I do everyday and now I have to go home to the arms of the one I love.. the one who makes me happy, the most.
wish you both happiness..
2006-10-26 06:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Laz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If these rumours are untrue and he believes them, then try to talk with him. Find out who's spreading this slurry. You may find it could originate from someone bearing a grudge. On the other hand, your boyfriend should love you and believe you. This may be down to his own insecurity. But sit down and try and get to the bottom of this with him. Good luck
2006-10-26 05:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by slinky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue to show your love for him... ask him to trust you... if he does not trust you, you don't need to be in that relationship. No relationship can succeed without trust!
From his perspective, I know this can be hard. I used to hear rumors about my boyfriend quite frequently and I would get very hurt by what I was hearing. We discussed each rumor VERY openly and got to a point where i was able to distinguish the truth from the lies. We are doing well now...
2006-10-26 05:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by chocmartinigrl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rumors are Lies until the person being talked about in the rumors admits to the rumors , gossip in a way and need to be ignored maybe your bf likes getting upset by what petty people say , just tell him look those are lies and say no more if he trusts you he will believe you
2006-10-26 05:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The past is the past, be honest but if he still doesn't believe you then dump him because a relationship without trust isn't a relationship.
2006-10-26 05:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him if he keeps listening to these stories then the relationship is over...Lots of people make up stories because they dont like seeing other people happy..Your boyfriend should be sticking up for you and telling these losers to shut up.
2006-10-26 06:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really tricky. I have been in this situation with my girlfriend. It is so difficult to gain trust. You just have to be sincere with him, and keep telling him how much you love him. And say that you wouldn't be with him if it was all true, just keep telling him how much you love him, and how he has to stop believing everything that is said, otherwise, its never going to work.
2006-10-26 05:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by bradleyxwright 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is not able to distinguish them as false then tell him to talk to you if he wants the truth, the rest is up to his trust in you.
2006-10-26 05:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just try and reassure him in some way..he's probably just feeling a little insecure..he should judge you for who you are now and not dwell on rumours..
2006-10-26 06:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk talk talk...LoL...that's the only thing really...the most common thing to end relationships is lack of communication...and ur rite he should trust u...but everyone needs a little reassurance every once in a while...rite?
2006-10-26 05:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by beachxchicaxmg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋