I find notes in her room, jurnol, e-mails, i've talked to her about this and even took her for help. All she does is sit and stare at the shrink. We are making no progress. I am afraid to leave her alone and even more scared to fall asleep at night. I find myself doing a patrol at all hours. Between myself and her brother we are getting no sleep because we take turns watching her. What to do. I work two jobs and can't be there all the time. I am on the verge of losing one job because I have to keep leaving when she won't pick up the phone. I have even hired a sitter to monitor her. I really need some help here.
2006-10-26 05:46:27 · 29 answers · asked by chr31istine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
check her into a hospital right away!
2006-10-26 05:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My 14 yr old is doing the same thing. Her need to write about suicide is because she thinks she isn't getting enough attention unlike her younger sister, and shrinks do not help. Dont' waste your money on them. You'd be better off getting a priest / preacher / father, whatever you may call yours.
Here's what I did: got her involved in a few sports, taking her to singing lessons, she's now got a job outside of the home and is spending her own money on whatever she wants (within reason of course), and once a week I have scheduled a "mother / daughter" date night to do whatever it is she wants to do - no questions asked.
I have noticed she is still talking suicide but at least the handwritten notes have almost all but stopped. Not sure if this would work for you, but thank god it did for me.
2006-10-26 05:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your daughter is thinking about commiting suicide you need to do something now..Suicide is not the way out..If she is not accepting help from the shrink then you may have a serious problem on your hands..She doesn't have any interests? Or hobbies? You have to try your best to get through to her before its too late...I wish you the best of luck and I hope that things go well because I do not want to hear that you lost your daughter
2006-10-26 05:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by poetchicka2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, my cousin has always said she would commit suicide, and she did, her parents got her all the counseling there was, they now wish they would of institutionalized her, they would still have their daughter, people that are suicidal have something seriously wrong with them, there is something that doesn't click together right in their brain, there is medication they can take but how do you make them take it, they don't realize the suffering the living will have without them, I know my aunt struggles everyday because of her daughter, it saddens me people can have these thoughts, some people say its just a thing kids go through, but I am here to say it does happen, my cousin has talked about suicide since she was 10, she did kill herself when she was 16, if it was my daughter I would try my hardest to get her in a hospital, I know my aunt cries and wishes she would of, Best of luck to you and your family, God Bless,
2006-10-26 06:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to find out why she's feeling the way she does. There is obviously something going on at school. Whether its her being tormented by other students or a boy she likes doesn't like her. She can even be struggling with the fact that her father may not be with you or around (I know you didn't mention it but you didn't mention him either). It's very likely that she's getting picked on in her high school. She's a freshmen right? I think you should talk with her. Let her cry to you and tell what's wrong. Maybe she might just feel unloved and at that, you and your entire family (cousins, aunts, uncles, people who care about her) should have an intervention for her. Don't tell her about. Gather everyone at your household. Everyone should express how they feel about her and her situation. How much everyone cares about her and her health. She needs to know that suicide is not the way out. I would even suggest you go talk to her school counselor and teachers. Go find out what exactly is going on with your daughter. Her behavior and other's behavior towards her. She might need to be transferred to another school. I hope that nothing happens to her and be strong for her and for yourself.
2006-10-26 06:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up!
There is help out there for her and your family. You may have to have her committed to be closely evaluated. She might be looking for attention but on the other hand she may be for real. Take her to another doctor. You aren't being taken serious enough by the one she has already seen.
Either way there is a crisis here!
I saw this with my neighbor's daughter. They didn't really think she would do it until they got that devastating call.
I hope your family gets the guidance you desperately need NOW!
2006-10-26 06:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by woooh! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of help did she get? If she is still having these thoughts she should still be in therapy. This has to be extremely difficult and emotionally stressful for you I cant even imagine. If you have to take a leave of absence from your job hopefully they will pay you most places do. Because If you dont do something it will be to late not that you havent already you need more resources to help you. I am sorry that you are going through this but if know one helps her then she will either be dead.
2006-10-26 05:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.......if you have tried the counsling, the medication, the tragic intervention ( sent to padded room for prefessional evaluation )
..then try the mother to daughter talk ... tell her she is loved and will be missed. The best part of life is yet to come ... I hope you choose to stay here with us to enjoy it. I can't give you all the attention ... I have to work to pay the bills, your brother needs food & clothes too.... you will have to toughen up and survive the test of the teenge years .... cause I cant do it for you .... If your feeling bad.... take a nap... when you wake up ... tell her to make a list of life goals.... (own a home, become a PHD - piled higher and deeper) have her research cars, boys ... different cultures ...try in a creative way to get her interested in something to cause her to focus on anything other than whats bringing her down.......
Sorry mom ... some birds don't make it outta the nest .....
I hope your does!!
Be Safe
2006-10-26 06:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They have different doctors for that I know here, it's called Pine Grove, they have kids up to adults all over the world to drugs abuse to suicidal.(this a facility where people stay for while or until they get better.) if your interested call 1-228-831-1700. Or just call and ask question that your concerned about, don't put this on hold , you might wait to late. Good Luck!!! And make the right choice. I will keep y'all in my prayers.
2006-10-26 06:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 12 year old son was writing notes also. We took him to the er where he was evaluated and then admitted to a psychiatric hopsital for a week. Turned out he was getting bullied at school.
There has to be more going on that she is not telling you. Maybe a week in the hospital will open her up when she sees that there are others who are going through similiar situations. It helped my son. Good luck to you and your family.
2006-10-27 01:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who strongly supports the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, perhaps you can get some good information from them.
I'm not a doctor, but maybe it's time to bond with her outside of your normal lives; perhaps take her on vacation but don't spend the vacation prying into her mind, just be with her. Maybe it will open her up to you or she might find something that interests her that steers her away from her depression.
2006-10-26 05:56:06 · answer #11 · answered by volleyjacket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋