My mom is single....she and my father haven been divorced for years. She is always saying how she is tired of being single, needs a man in her life, yada yada yada. So, I was going to scan her picture in, create a profile, and put it on a dating website. My mom and I are pretty close, and as i've gotten older, our relationship has kind of been like that of sisters; even though she has no problem letting me know that she is STILL the mom. lol Do you think she'd appreciate me doing this for her, or should I ask her first? I posted here because i'd like the parental perspective.
2006-10-26 05:45:29 · 76 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
As a mom myself Id like to say dont do it on your own but do it with her. I can proudly say if it wasnt for my now 16yr old giving me some advice I would probably be still at home wishing I wasnt so single.
You dont really want to do it on your own due to the fact you and your mom may be close there are still somethings that you may not know This way she can be the true her and you help her in showing who she really is and full potential.
Alot of times single moms are hard on themselves and our kids are a great way to show us we arnt so bad.
2006-10-26 05:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by Angel L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...I would freak out if my daughter did that...
Here's why...
You Mom has her own way of doing things, as you well know :)) What would concern her most is not your motivation, but what she maybe will get by way of responses -- based upon what you write about her. She might not give quite the same personal information that you would...
Try a compromise: pick a good time to have a chat with her and suggest the idea of using a dating website, and if she's not dead against it, then sit down together and write what you both think should be on it. She will appreciate your own perspective and input, but that way she will have the final say. And she will also be glad for the respect and love you show through wanting to help her.
There is another point to consider too. What if you set this up without her knowledge and then the replies start coming in? At what point do you get her involved, and how will explain it to her?
Better to have her invloved from the start. You are one of the few people she should be able to trust absolutely and this way, you'll help to strengthen that bond. And also, you can help her to vet any replies. Two heads are better than one, right?
Lenky
2006-10-26 05:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lenky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your intentions are good but you need to let your mom decide what she want to do with her life in terms of a relationship.. Frankly its none of your business. If she chooses to include you on someone she is seeing or whatever than thats her choice. I think you are going way over the edge thinking this whole idea up. If I would be your mom I would appreciate it but would be mad at the same time. Its one thing if you asked her and she was like yes, im not good on a computer could you help me, but to do this all and not even ask her first is just a bad idea.
2006-10-26 05:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You sounds like a great kid and your heart is in the right place, but don't post your mom's info.
If she is tired of being single, she needs to take the steps to correct it. If she isn't taking the steps, then maybe she isn't ready on some level for a man in her life.
PLUS: Putting her info out there could lead to a dangerous or embarrassing situation for it:
1.Internet creeps---I think that's all I have to say there.
2. Someone who knows her sees it and says something to her and poor mom has no clue what is going on.
3. once something is posted in cyberspace you lose control of it. Taking it down won't help--her photo and info are out there and she may not appreciate that.
2006-10-26 08:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by bookmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that if you are close with your mom,
i say do it and then just get her in font of the computer and let her see her profile. The only thing don't lie on it, tell the truth. See if she gets any hits, go to the site and explain how it works, if she is confused. Make sure she understand why you would do it for her. And you know that if she doesn't like it, you can always delete the profile. Tell her that if she is not interested that she should maybe go to a coffee shop or a bar to meet some candidates.
Good Luck
2006-10-26 05:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by angel20072002 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is sweet of you, but only you know your mom! How do you think she will respond? If you don't think she will get mad, then do it. You might even get her a small gift and wrap it up with a letter stating how much you love her and that you know that she loves you, but that you also know that one day you are going to move out and start your own life and when that day comes you don't want her to be alone, so this is what you done to help her out. Let her know you are doing it with love. Place it in a place that she will fine it while your not home, that way if she is mad she will have time to cool down be you come home. This is just my opinion, hope it helps.
2006-10-26 08:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by Bekka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't want anyone posting my pic on the net without me knowing about it. There are so many things people can do with a pic, and especially if you're giving out details. I wouldn't, it's not right. Would you be ok with it if someone else did that to you and you didn't know first? Being as close as you say you are, it seems you would have more respect for her than that. I'm not criticizing you, I just want to make you aware. I know sometimes we get a great idea, but the more you think about it it doesn't always sound so great afterwards. I'd reconsider your thought, and instead offer to do it for her with her permission.
2006-10-26 05:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you two are really close, I'm sure she'd love the *idea* that you want her to be happy. But if someone put up a profile of me on a dating site without my knowledge (let alone one of my kids! -- though I don't have any personally I'm old enough to), I'd be horrified.
I'm sure you're doing this with 100% good intentions, but internet dating is something your mom has to decide to do for herself.
Of course, you could always talk to her about online dating and offer to help jazz up a profile to help her look as fantastic as she is.... :)
2006-10-26 05:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by Maggie P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously love your mother very much if you want to help her to meet someone. However, you need to discuss this with her before doing it. She may have already thought of this but ruled it out for a number of reasons. A good way of approaching this would be to tell her that you want her happy. You also need to know that she may be complaining but not ready to make that leap yet. Many of us single mothers want companionship but are not ready to enter into a lasting relationship because we are focusing on other things. Giving your mother support, loving her, and being the best daughter you can be may be enough for her right now.
She will appreciate your concern and your loving support. It may be all she needs to hear to get herself in the right mindset to meet that special someone.
2006-10-26 05:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by TheresaE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since uve been really close like sisters like u say...then maybe u should ask her. Its shouldnt be hard right? Explain to ther that ur doing it 4 the reason that u care 4 her and ud like the sm thing for her in a different perspective....The last thing u want 2 do is b a back stabber...:P.:. Thats no good......
2006-10-26 05:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by EVA 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋