My boyfriend and I have been dating for awhile, I am 5;10 and 130lbs, he wants me to lose weight because I have gained around 8-10 lbs since we have been together, I think I am already too skinny! But he keeps calling me fat when I eat chocolate, or ice cream and I always have to fight with him about it.
2006-10-26 05:41:30 · 31 answers · asked by Jamie 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
Get rid of this guy! You are very thin. I think he just likes control-guys like that usually turn into abusers. He is already verbally abusive in my opinion, find someone else! Being 5' 10 " and 130 pounds you wont have a problem at all finding someone else.Most women gain over 20 pounds when they get pregnant-what will you have to hear from him if that happens? think about it!
2006-10-26 05:47:46 · answer #1 · answered by Urchin 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk. I was 5'6 and 125 lbs. and I was thin, so I am guessing 130lbs. at 5'10 you are very very skinny. Honestly I think this guy is a creep. Calling you fat when you eat? Think about it, that takes a certain type of person....could you do that to someone you love? It's not normal and you are a smart girl who sees that. The fact that he considers you fat now, is crazy. Is he trying to make you an anorexic? That isn't what love is all about. Honestly I would kick him to the curb. It's about your weight now, then it will be something else, and something else until he wants to change you entirely.
2006-10-26 05:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by brat789456 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to take a good, hard look at himself so he can figure out why he is calling you fat. You are thin! He must have some kind of a complex deep down and he's calling you fat to escape from his own imperfections. Is he self conscious about his weight or his looks? Is he always at the gym trying to get that "perfect body"? If he is, then he is the one with the problem.
Endulge the chocolate! It's your friend!
If he continues to do this, tell him there is no problem with your weight and that he needs a smack in the face of reality. I say dump him if he keeps up the meaningless insults.
2006-10-26 06:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by H.L.A. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
F*** him, you don't need to lose any weight. He sounds like a bastard and you really don't need that. There is someone else out there that will love you for YOU and not for their ideal of what you should look like. You're about my height and if i was 130 lbs. i'd be almost too skinny, probaly too skinny come to think of it. My doctor told me my ideal weight would be about 145 or so due to the fact i'm already a big boned girl. Either way... lose him, he's going to whittle away at your self esteem until you feel completely dependant on him.
2006-10-26 05:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
WHAT?! you're thin enough "as is"! and if you're like most women i know, doesn't the extra pounds go to places that most guys tend to appreciate?
look, i don't know you or anything but if you feel like satisfying your sweet tooth, why should he complain? is he super thing too? are you training for some event where weight is a bad thing? are you a model and those extra 8-10 lbs making the dress a bit too tight? if not then why complain? if you want to eat, then eat! (and i mean in moderation, i mean even i would look at you a bit weird if you ate a gallon of ice cream in one sitting... in awe as well but still... weird)
2006-10-26 06:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by kiss my wookie! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I hope he is kidding or I honestly think you should get rid of him. He is obviously quite an insecure guy, who unfortunately transfers his own insecurities on to you, by focusing on your weight, instead of his own issues. This is quite common for men to do, especially those who have inferiority complexes and feel the need to have control over their women. Women who are insecure tend to put themselves down, where as men who are insecure tend to put women down! See it is us women that have the short straw!
You are already very thin indeed and should not be losing weight, especially not for any man. Remember it's his problem, not yours. I'd say he needs some kind of psychological help. It's a form of control, which can become obsessional and it's dangerous territory for you to be in. I would get out while you can, before it affects your confidence and brings you down. Take care : )
2006-10-26 13:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds awfully thin to me. My advice would be to gain 5 lbs and lose the boyfriend.
Not to be harsh, but if he's this controlling and critical in the dating stage, imagine what a horror show you're in for if you marry him. Find someone who loves and appreciates all of you.
2006-10-26 05:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by jenzee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you are fine. You are perfectly fine, you don't need to lose weight. If anything just gain muscle. Your boyfriend is a control freak and is being very abusive to you in an emotional and psychological way. You need to get out of that relationship because it's just going to start hurting you. Please, don't put yourself through that.
2006-10-28 14:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 5'4 120lbs and I get people telling me to stop losing weight! Wow, you should really reconsider the relationship you're in or else in a few years we're going to be seeing you at 90lbs on Maury with your controlling boyfriend.
2006-10-26 05:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by IceyFlame 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't like you for who you are instead of how you look, it should be him you lose!!! 5'10 and 130 is skinny. if it was a health issue that's something else but no one that truely cares about you should be telling you your fat! life is too short to have to fight over having a piece of chocolate.
2006-10-26 05:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by kiti 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋