the love of my life broke up with me im still crying and know his moving on... but i have hope that he'll return so with that hope im living.... but now my best mate and ex asked me to marry him... he states he'd do anything for me and that he has always loved me... im so sad... i want my other man not this.... what should i do... my current one broke up with me with no important reason his been treating me very bad... but he has the lifestyle i crave.. but my best mate is a lot sweeter tender and i know he would really do anything for me, but he has not strong background...should i settle down or live with my hope that the other will come back??
2006-10-26 05:28:38 · 19 answers · asked by apple 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont go for second best baby
Put your love to the test
You know, you know, youve got to
Make him express how he feels
And maybe then youll know your love is real
You dont need diamond rings
Or eighteen karat gold
Fancy cars that go very fast
You know they never last, no, no
What you need is a big strong hand
To lift you to your higher ground
Make you feel like a queen on a throne
Make him love you till you cant come down
[youll never come down]
(chorus)
Long stem roses are the way to your heart
But he needs to start with your head
Satin sheets are very romantic
What happens when youre not in bed
You deserve the best in life
So if the time isnt right then move on
Second best is never enough
Youll do much better baby on your own
[baby on your own]
(chorus)
Express yourself
[youve got to make him]
Express himself
Hey, hey, hey, hey
So if you want it right now, make him show you how
Express what hes got, oh baby ready or not
Intermediate:
And when youre gone he might regret it
Think about the love he once had
Try to carry on, but he just wont get it
Hell be back on his knees
To express himself
[youve got to make him]
Express himself
Hey hey
What you need is a big strong hand
To lift you to your higher ground
Make you feel like a queen on a throne
Make him love you till you cant come down
[youll never come down]
(intermediate)
So please
(chorus)
Express yourself
[youve got to make him]
Express himself
Hey, hey, hey, hey
So if you want it right now, make him show you how
Express what hes got, oh baby ready or not
Express yourself
[youve got to make him]
So you can respect yourself
Hey, hey
So if you want it right now, then make him show you how
Express what hes got, oh baby ready or not
2006-10-26 05:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by Duke P 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ummm.....neither? Spend some more time with your family and quit rushing relationships. Remember when you were a youngin' and you always had fun with your family? Take some time around people that love you no matter what. And when i say some time i don't just mean a week or a month. You need to clear up your head about these situations your in and focus more on improving yourself and bonding with the ones that'll always be there for you.
2006-10-26 12:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by TheAnwserer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to hear this, but you need to forget about both of them.
Being with a man because you like his lifestyle is COMPLETELY the wrong reason to be with someone. That's essentially just like being bought with money. And worse yet, the man himself is treating you like garbage. You can do better than that.
On the other hand, your ex is nice to you, but you don't care about him either. You're just worried about his background. And let's face it - there's a reason he's your EX and not your present boyfriend.
I think you need to stop treating yourself as a pawn to be won by the highest bidder. You want things? Go out and get them for yourself! Stop being dependant on some man. Learn to live with yourself for a bit and discover who YOU are.
Then, when you are happy with yourself and your place in life, ONLY THEN find a man. Find one who makes you a better person by being with him, not one who just helps cover up your weaknesses. You want someone who will help you grow, not hold you back.
But first, be by yourself. It's difficult, but most worthwhile things are. You can do it. You deserve no less.
2006-10-26 12:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by Doctor Why 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, this one person is an ex for a reason. why did it end in the first place? are you better off as friends?
the guy who just broke up with you is gone. you need to just forget him. if he was treating you poorly, its just another reason to not want to get back with him.
but dont go out an marry this guy just because he asked. you're single now! live it up! go out on lots of dates, play the field. have some fun! dont you want to go out to a clue looking drop dead gorgeous and just toy with some hot guys for a while? get their numbers, dont give yours. be completely in control of who you see if you want to start dating again. but i say be single and love it for a little while. it will help you clear your head and give you some insight into what you're really looking for in a mate.
2006-10-26 12:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by mickey g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you be so in love with this other man if he had to offer what the "best mate" has? Sorry, but you sound extremely superficial. I love my husband with all my heart. Are we rich? Hardly. But, I'm richer than most women because I have a man that loves me and puts his family first, and all the other stuff second. You are creating your own drama, love your best mate for who he is, not what he can give you.
2006-10-26 12:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't settle, you will regret it for the rest of your life. But waiting isn't the answer either because he may or may not come back. Instead, wipe up your tears and move on. Probably neither one is the right one for you so that means you need to keep looking. Your special guy is out there somewhere...you just haven't found him yet. I promise.
2006-10-26 12:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Silly ol Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's like asking "Can I use one man to hopefully get to another man? Can I break a good man's heart to get what I want?"
First of all, you're very selfish. Secondly, you're still hurt and lastly, you've confessed that your BF treated you badly. You need time, space, distance and you need to reflect on the situation before anything else can take place.
2006-10-26 12:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a third option- you don't NEED someone to be a person.
sounds like making a drastic life altering decision such as marrige is something to take VERY slowly at this point...give yourself some time to heal and realize that you are a special wonderful person and you don't deserve a relationship that is mutually beneficial.
good luck...it'll get better as the days go by.
2006-10-26 12:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by killer boot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it realistically. Guys have reasons for dumping women, however stupid they may be, so forget about him, but don't be hasty in rushing in to anoither relationship. Just because you're single doesn't mean you always have to be looking for a partner, and your best friend will always be there for you if he is as good as you say.
"I don't need a man" - Listening to that now =)
2006-10-26 12:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just wait it out and see what happens. You can have your own identity without a guy in your life. In fact, it is probably what you need. Try going 6 months without a romantic relationship and see how things are then.
2006-10-26 12:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by Patti T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋