Ok this might sound a little selfish and I guess it really is in a way. My husband and I just got married this past Sunday. After the wedding and reception my parents and friends stayed to clean up everything and gather all of the gifts up for us. Well... there were no gifts to get. Besides all of the people who came to my shower, not one person even gave us a card for our wedding. Should I be irritated or just get over it? I understand times are tough, but don't you think they should have at least bought us a card? His own mother didn't even give us a gift and she didn't spend one dime on our wedding! Let me know what you think. Thanks!
P.S. His family never had any objections about us getting married just to let you all know.
2006-10-26 05:16:12 · 31 answers · asked by Pren 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, we had a registry. My mother checked and double checked the gift table before and after the wedding and there was well... nothing!
2006-10-26 06:21:29 · update #1
My family gave us pretty much all the gifts we received. Thank goodness! We'd probably be eating off paper plates if it wasn't for them.
2006-10-26 06:25:32 · update #2
When my father and I were getting ready to walk down the isle we passed the gift table and there was nothing on it. I asked him if he or my mother had already gathered all of the gifts and he said there weren't any. He told me that no one even walked in with a gift. So much for the thought that they were stolen.
The wedding and reception were at the same place and it was NOT an informal wedding.
2006-10-26 06:44:22 · update #3
Are you kidding me?!?! That is crazy!! The rule of thumb is the gift should be at least equal to the cost of them being a guest. ie: cost to feed them and entertain them. Weddings can definitely become an unwanted expense when you get invited to a lot, but you DON"T show up without AT LEAST a damn card! I think that is incredibly rude. Was this a big wedding? Maybe you had a wedding crasher that stole all of your gifts, because I just cannot believe every guest could be that unthoughtful
2006-10-26 05:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by Emmy G 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure you haven't been the victims of the relative's warped sense of humor? ("Let's hide all the presents for a couple of weeks!") But this seems extraordinarily odd. In the history of weddings, there never has been a giftless wedding. If you indeed had a giftless wedding, (how tragic is that?) just be very sweet and do not, whatever you do, let anyone know you're upset. Remain above it. Don't give these knuckleheads the satisfaction. And then move. Far away. And gradually severe the contacts. Something definitely isn't right here. Wanting gifts is not selfish. It's your right. I always give something, even to people I don't know. At least a bottle of good wine. This is one of the oddest things I've ever heard. Miss Manners would have to have a couple hits of smelling salts after hearing this one.
2006-10-26 06:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd say one of 2 things
1) Your gifts have been stolen
2) Your groom's side of the family or friends have all chipped in and got you a LARGE gift that hasnt come in yet.
I personally dont take gifts/cards to the wedding itself because of the chance of being stolen. There is generally a wedding shower the day after where I take mine too.
Maybe say something to your friends like "Do you think I have enough gift cards?" and start counting gifts on your hands. If she starts mentioning other people's gifts you know something is up.
2006-10-26 06:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by Cariad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very weird. So there were no gifts from anyone? Did you register somewhere and let people know? And yes, it is very tacky not to take a gift to a wedding. How bazaar that his own mother did not give you something. What of your family? And even more difficult to comprehend is that there were no cards. Could someone have stolen the gifts?
On a positive side, you do not have to spend hours on end writing thank you cards.
2006-10-26 05:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by davinm23 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what to tell you about this. I have never heard of a wedding with no gifts, even at weddings where one side hates the other, gifts were still given. I guess you'll just have to get over it, because there isn't anything else to do. Sorry to hear about it though.
2006-10-26 09:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion its kinda like Christmas... too many people are wanting the gifts that was made up not so long ago and miss the point of what Christmas really is!!! Love and friendship and Jesus!
Your wedding is the same thing... be happy that you and your husband are now married!!! that's awesome! and congratulations! Be happy that you had everyone there to share it with you and you have your health. Don't focus on what you didn't get.
2006-10-26 05:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although that does seem a bit odd, it happens sometimes...it is horrible to think that none of your guests brought you anything, but maybe they will be sending you something. It is not uncommon for gifts to be sent as many as 2 months before the wedding or as many as 3 months after the wedding. If guests were mostly in from out of town, they may be FedEx-ing your gifts out right now :) Even if you don't get anything, it is still nice to send everyone a Thank You for coming and sharing in your special day.
2006-10-26 05:56:13 · answer #7 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, this just sounds bizarre. Did you have a guest book when people came in to sign at the reception? Usually, those sitting there take the gifts to the gift table, and there is usually a box or something for envelopes. I think you got robbed, or tricked, or something.
2006-10-26 07:25:54 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you had an extremely unformal wedding that's very strange. Most people AT least give a card, even if they don't put money in it.
Are you sure someone didn't steal them or DID someone tell people not to bring gifts?? It's just really odd that you didn't recieve anything?? Like some people should have given you something, but for everyone not to.
Like I said unless the wedding was extremely unformal, that's very strange!!
2006-10-26 05:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW! NO ONE gave you anything!? I can understand one or two people, but not everyone, and especially not direct family!
I would be a little ticked...
Did you guys have something on the invintation that said no gifts? Or yea, maybe they were misplaced? Worse comes to worse, you could always ask someone close to you (like a brother) if they got you a gift. Someone that you wouldn't mind getting in an argument with! lol... Then, if they say they did, then you know they may have been misplaced? Or maybe stolen?
GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-26 05:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by kelikristina 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋