plz...
help me out, i think i love this guy.(weve been together for3 yeahs
2006-10-26 05:14:37 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please don't do it. Wait until you are married.
2006-10-26 05:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sunspot Baby 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The fact that you're 17 and contemplating making love to someone has NOTHING to do with your boyfriend.
I'm looking at the 3 year gap, and your constant pattering of NO and his constant pattering of WHY NOT? Personally, 17 is a great age to begin this journey (i lost mine @ 17), but look at how you phrased your question. You think you love this guy… don't think about whether you love this guy or not, once you get into college, trust me, it will be more about LIKING someone and much less about LOVING someone.
If it's only a love issue, wait… you don't really love him, otherwise you would have done the deed already. You are becoming a young woman, and with that, the needs and desires of a young woman… wanting lovemaking, babies, soccer mom status. Your feelings have NOTHING to do with your boyfriend.
I wish the two of you luck, but honestly, do what everyone else your age should be doing… waiting to lose your virginity at a drunken fraternity party with the rest of your Psi Kappa sisters.
Personally, you need to break up with your boyfriend of three years if this question hasn't already come up in conversation. But on a light note, losing it to your boyfriend of three years before dumping him for the first dude you meet in college would be a great going-away gift.
Wish you luck!
2006-10-26 05:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do what you think right. You say you been together for three years that a great things. Do you really love him i mean just haveing sex with him because you been togehter three years is no reason to do it. Take it from someone who knows i am not much older than you but i had sex the first time around your age becuase i thought it was the right thing but if i could take it back i would. Trust me babe wants you go there theres no going back. So sit down and write reason why you think this is a good reason and think of the things that could happen if you did. Than talk to your other half and see how he really feels and decided i hope it works for you best of luck
2006-10-26 05:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by baby_doll66012 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are to young what will you do if you get pregnant are you ready to quit school and raise a infant will he be able to support all three of you he will have to quit school and get a job were will he work McDonald's do you think that all three of you can live on McDonald's wages were are you going to live will you work if so day care is very expensive and so is rent and with out a good education you both can forget about EVER getting a decent job so you can screw your life up with one little mistake think long and hard before you go down this road because if you go down it there is NO turning back I hope that you make the right choice and wait.
2006-10-26 05:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by delmonticoman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are too young. I know that sounds like a horrible thing, since you probably just want to be taken seriously... But, giving yourself to a guy in that way will have consequences that last through out the rest of your life... It's not worth it. The emotional ties alone are hard to manage; not to mention all of the risks involved. A friend of mine had sex with his girlfriend... he was 18 she was 16... and now they have a baby. I used to babysit this guy when he was 5... His life is over, because now he has a kid, and wasn't ready for it. You don't need to prove anything to anyone. Not to mention, the guy that would take you up on that offer is not a man, nor will he ever be. Hold out for the right person, don't throw it away. You'll be grateful... I promise it's worth the wait.
2006-10-26 05:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by just nate 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think you are ready, you said it yourself. Your not sure and that means your not ready. Is this boy who you love pressuring you to have sex? You even say you think you love this guy, don't do something you are not ready for. When I was 16 I thought I was in love with this guy and by the time I was 17 I had a baby and he was off with other girls. He came back and we had another child then he was gone again and boy did I feel stupid. I can't believe I actually listened to him. I don't regret haveing my childern they are my life. I have 5 childern and 5 grandaughters, and looking forward to many more.
Good Luck my dear and if you do decide to have sex with this boy make sure it is protected sex.
2006-10-26 05:22:11 · answer #6 · answered by KIM A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well the first thing is to know if you truly love the guy! And the next is if you want to share yourself with him. Now sex doesn't have to be about love, but it does help the situation go smoother. Everyone wants that beautiful experience for the first time, and some just want to get it out the way. You need to decide why you really want to have sex now. Kids are starting to have sex much younger than you, so I applaud you for maintaining your values so long. My advice is to be sure of what you want and your needs, and be woman enough to tell him about your wants and needs. If he is the guy for you to share this experience with then do what you feel is right. You'll know exactly where you stand and where he stands on this sensitive topic. BE CAREFUL AND SAFE!
2006-10-26 05:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by Hot one 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex is defintely something that shouldn't be rushed. It's also a decision that you need to make on your own, without the influence or peer pressures for other people. Also keep in mind the risks of having sex, such as pregnancy, or STD's. So take your time, and when you feel that the time is right and the person is right, then go for it.
2006-10-26 05:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by babygyrl11 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To think and to know are two different things! Do not confuse love with lust (sex)! To offer your self to some one is and should be the greatest reward, once you know that it is because love moves you to do this. Sex has been degenerated in this day and age. Everything revolves around sex. Love on the other hand super cedes all. Sex with out love is an animal trait. Sex with love is human. Where do you stand? If he truly loves you he should respect you. What is your self worth? Think ! Stand out from the rest. Have courage to do what you know is right!!!!!!!
2006-10-26 05:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by St. Mike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to wiat till you are married. Right now you are at the age to need to get your future together, such as what you want to go to school for, getting a good job and all that. Just think if you were to get pregnant or catch a disease how that could change the rest of your life. Just somethings to think about.
2006-10-26 05:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to soon. You are 17 your not in love. What happens if you get pregnant you think he is gonna be around. he might be for a while but then he is gonna realize that he is still young and wants to live a little and will probably leave you. Besides once it is time for you to start having sex in the future don't just lay down with one guy and think you are in love. Date a little. Live life. you will be glad you did
2006-10-26 05:17:34 · answer #11 · answered by SuperSoldierGIJOE 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋