Ok, so..this “guy” and I were together about a yr ago for maybe a month tops, & I realized that I didn’t have feelings for him in that way.He is a great guy and I didn’t want to ruin our friendship (we had known each other for a while) so I pretty much told him that “we” couldn’t work, but I still cared about him and I didn’t want us to grow apart etc. I’ve always felt that I could talk to him about anything, and we still talked and saw each other quite often. Friends kept saying that I was leading him on just by talking to him, and he has told me many times that he doesn’t think he will ever be over me etc. but I’d just try to let it go.I moved, life changed, so on and so forth,but we still talked and just up until recently it’s been that way.I was talking to some people about what had happened with us, and I’m afraid they said something..he has completely stopped talking to me, won’t return my calls etc.I’m just wondering what I did.I mean did he just realize he can't stand me? Hel
2006-10-26 05:13:15 · 5 answers · asked by jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK so what I want to know is should I leave him a message, or email him, or something?
I feel sad, but even more so angry... and I want to get my point across to him that what he is doing to me is rude, hurtful, and I don't know...
2006-10-26 05:17:38 · update #1
Actually I never talked about "his feelings". I talked about mine.
Also, just last week i got in a pretty bad car accident. I left a message on his phone and he never called back. To me it's like if he really did care about me, then would he be treating me like this regardless of what he is feeling? I think not...
2006-10-26 05:34:24 · update #2
Let him have some space, in about a year, things will clear up
2006-10-26 05:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by caseyboyette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostlikely its a misunderstanding. Just go to his house and ask him what is wrong. Ask him if you have hurt him in any way. If you guys are friends its not a good thing to just dont talk without a reason. You need to clear things out for him and explain your feelings. I dont think you need to stop the friendship, He seems to be understanding about it. Its hard but you need to talk to him. If nothing works than write him a letter. He will notice your interest and finally give up. But please understand his feelings and be nice.
2006-10-26 12:20:31 · answer #2 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm having a difficult time understanding how you were with him and then you realised that you didn't feel that way about him. see, the problem here is that he still has a thing for you and while you're okay with your position in his life, he's apparently not. i'll tell you what's going on in his head. he thinks that one day, you're going to come back to him. even if it's a tiny possibility, he's going to hold on to that. and what has to happen for you two to have a meaningful platonic relationship is he has to really let you go. give him time to do that.
2006-10-26 12:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think talking about his feelings to others is a bit rude. i think he trusted you with those and still was happy for your friendship to proceed. i think he feels that you were having a laugh at him and that you did not respect him..... AS YOU DO! so give him a week to calm down in the interim txt him that u didnt mean anything by it and that his friendship is very important to you
2006-10-26 12:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by apple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesnt sound to me like you did anything wrong. You have been honest with him about your feeling and havent sent him any mixed signals. If he can not accept your friendshio without wanting something more, then there is nothing you can do about that.
2006-10-26 12:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋