My boyfriend of 6mo fell off the face of the earth for the last 2weeks. I am not going to get into it but lets just say that these past 2weeks have been realy hard for me (for reasons outside of the relationship... My health is failing, my job sucks, money is gone, my living situation is getting to me) and I really needed him for some support. He came over last night and we made a fairly mutual decision to break up but after he left he called and said he wanted to come back and talk. I let him come back. He said he wanted to try to make things work between us and I would love nothing more than to have a relationship with him. part of me is telling me it isn't right and the other part is telling me to go for it. after everything form the last couple weeks I am ready to shut down completely. it is even hard for me to type this right now (because of everything). I need some advice please.
2006-10-26 05:12:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I love my boyfriend but he doesn't love me i know that. but im not asking for love just caring and support
2006-10-26 05:23:02 · update #1
Some times you have to wade through the mud to get to the high ground.......if things went well all the time....no one would love the good times ...they would be just another day.
It will get better ..... He may not be your answer ..... and don't try to hold him ..... if he wants to stay and help ..great ...but if he's just passing out band aids ...forget it! You'll feel better in the long run having fix / delt with the troubles your self..... you'll get better self confidence and perhaps met a new person who siuts your needs alittle better than the old guy did.
Sunshine ! Enjoy it..... cause it will rain again!
2006-10-26 05:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by John 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't shut down, just branch out. Sounds like your lost in your relationship and you need to find the light. If your playin around with breaking up, then more than likely you will! Severe your ties and attachments, find some friends and go out! Have a great time, then think about what you should do. After a nite out with the girls or friends, you'll see that your still a hot one and can pull em from outta nowhere! GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-26 13:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by Hot one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't too much help we can offer you... if you love your boyfriend then be with him but if he is absent from your life and he's leaving for weeks at a time that doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. I know things are looking bad right now but the way to think about it is if you are at rock bottom there is only one way to go... up. So do what makes you happy, take a bath, a deep breath and relax, things will get better I promise.
2006-10-26 12:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to listen to that part of you that says you shouldn't. The part of you that is saying you should is only doing it because of all your going through. But hanging on to something that isn't working wont make those things any better. You can get through this on your own and without the added stress of the failing relationship.
2006-10-26 12:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweets..... What kind of a real MAN would do this to you? Break up mutually ONE minute and want you back the next.... He is playing with your emotions. Its time to move on and find someone who will treat you with some respect and not hurt you on and on like this.
2006-10-26 12:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you reallyl need to get help before you loose it or invest ina good friend how you feel i felt like that but my kids made me see that when things are at the bottoom they can onlyl get better from there and they do look lup and talk to a friend and see whats up with you from there also were was your guy for two weeks that is an important issue also.
2006-10-26 12:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by vomissie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you know how you feel about him, if he wants to make it work, you need him. give it a chance, i myself have broken up with my partner so many times, which im so sick of now , the packing and moving, and forgeting , its hard. but at least try, you dont want to go through this alone.if it doesnt work out later then fine, hopefully late you'll be in a better position to handle it.
2006-10-26 12:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best thing to do is disappear yourself. Take some time for you!! Guys want a challenge. Good luck with the other issues.
2006-10-26 12:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by Zoobie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are on the fence it becomes hard to find the answer.the way things are you are just tearing your self apart.walk away and reduce any hurt that may happen again if you continue with seeing each other
2006-10-26 12:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by martin r 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart it will have the answer . You know what I mean , that deep down feeling , it's always right . Never second guess .
2006-10-26 12:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋