So, I dated this guy for 5 months. We told each other that we loved each other and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. Then the infamous ex gf came to him and asked him to get back with her. After a few weeks, he did. So, I am stuck still loving him and being sad, while he get's to be with the "one he never got over". So, last week he asked me to leave him alone so he could ,"move on" with his life. Basically, he wants to not feel guilty about leaving me. He said it was a hard decision because he loved everthing about me. He said, maybe someday we could be friends. So, I am waiting. It's been 8 days since we had any communication. I'm not sure I even want to be his friend, but I do miss him. Should I write to him, or wait for him to come to me, or just write him off? I do Love him.
2006-10-26 05:11:25 · 7 answers · asked by nursejuley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should just write him off ...I do not see how the two of you could be friends when it was not a mutual decision to call it quits...My best friend and I dated for a year......when I was 16 and now 16 years later he is still my best friend......but we decided that us being just Friends we knew we would always have each other in our lives....where as in your case you are still in love with him and did not want to lose him ,this means you can never be just a friend(at least till you also move on )
2006-10-26 05:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by thunder_rainclouds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better. Chalk it up to a lesson learned and take love more slowly next time around. Be especially cautious of people who just got out of long term relationships.
Write him off. When he says maybe someday you can be friends, he means maybe someday down the line, not in the next week or two. Don't allow yourself to be with someone who is hung up on someone else. Don't think that you can "get him over her." Your life is all about you and what YOU want. You don't have to settle.
2006-10-26 12:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. You are so much better than that. He left you, so you should leave your feelings behind. Don't be friends with him, don't play the love triangle game. Move on, find someone better, who you can spend the rest of your life with. Waiting around will not make him come back to you, if it was meant to be, it will be!
2006-10-26 12:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing you can do for yourself is just walk away. you will be sad for a while and it wont be easy. but if you dont give him time like he asked, he might get irritated and things might be said and done that will hurt you more than the fact that hes moving on.
who knows. maybe he will come back around. im sure he still knows your number. but if you force him to keep talking to you, you might lose any chance of a friendship or anything else with him.
2006-10-26 12:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont even know what to say but i am in this same situation but his old girlfrien is not trying to get back with him but i mean i feel as though you should call him and tell him your feelings but if he claims he feeling you and he is with his x girlfriend then he wasnt so i think you deserve better and you know you desrve better but your heart is telling you that you love him and look you love him and he love his x girlfriend so you should really have some alone time but if he still want to be oyur friend then let him call you and dont worry just move on life is to short so you have a safe and blessed day
2006-10-26 12:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by Hazel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk! Please let him be. God intended this to happen and he intends for you to find the right one, and he will be the best thing that ever happened to you.
2006-10-26 12:17:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just right him off, because if he loved everything about you, he would have stayed.
2006-10-26 12:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by Taco Bomber Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋