For over a year i didnt have much issue with my sister in law apart from the odd wee fall out but i never felt i wanted her to leave..until now. For the past couple of months, she has been getting on my nerves more and more. I dont get a whole lot of time alone with my husband and a lot of that is to do with her being home. Tonight he is coming home earlier from work and rather than him coming straight home, he is going to collect her from town(she asked him) and will probably be well over an hour to do so. Then of course she will be home and it will be the 3 of us sitting here and me simmering with rage!!!!! Please no suggestions that we should go out ..we dont have a lot of money to spare at the moment. Should i just let it go or get into another fight with them, the tension in the house is getting to me so i think i should try to bite my tongue rather than have another fight. Should i just go to be and watch tv?? GRRRRRRRRRRRR i need a few prozac!!!
2006-10-26 05:11:03 · 19 answers · asked by Sharon J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Angel Eve..She lives with us!! I wouldnt have a problem with her visit i actually think she is great but i want to continue thinking that ..at a distance!
2006-10-26 05:17:21 · update #1
Well, your sister needs a new place to live. She is coming between you and your husband and your private time together. Don't get angry. Talk with her and tell her what's up, make a mutual plan, set a date for her to move and even help her move. Living with someone can either make or break a relationship. Make it better before it breaks. She's going to be in your life forever.
2006-10-26 05:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would guess the big problem is your husband, and whether or not he will support your position. As always in any relationship, sit him down and tell him that the 2 of you have a problem. Ask him for his help in sorting the problem out, and what he thinks is the best way. By not making this an issue for confrontation, it could become something that the 2 of you can use to get closer together as you try to reach a fair solution.
Please don't make threats (like, it's her or me, if you don't ask her to leave then I am leaving) especially if you don't mean them. You must approach this as a couple or it will cause a rift between you too.
2006-10-26 05:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOAH! Hmmmm.... What exactly is bothering you about her. Does she act rudely toward you, Does she come over uninvited alot, Does she say rude things to you? Once you figure out what it is that is bothering you, confront her about it, tell your husband what is bothering you... If hes a real man, he will be able to stand on your side... assuming you have legit reasons to be upset and this isnt because you are jealous that she is taking up some of your husbands time when YOU want to be with him. She is family so remember that blood is thicker than water and how should your husband act if it were your sister coming over all the time ESPECIALLY if you and your sister were very close.
2006-10-26 05:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I have three kids, a sister and a mom living with us. It is hard to get any time alone, but when we do it's great. We don't have alot of money either but sometimes you have to find a few dollars and go out to dinner. We also like to go out to the back yard and have a bon fire. I know it's not easy but have patience. She is going to be living with you for a long time or is it just a short stay over? If you need to chat just e-mail me. Good luck and God Bless
2006-10-26 06:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband about it. Let him know that you want some alone time. I think you need to impress upon him that he is putting his sister before you and that you feel like you are never alone together.
Also going out doesn't mean you spend a lot of money, go for a walk or something, go window shopping, go anywhere that the two of you can spend some time together without her around.
When you get home, go in your bedroom and shut the door.
2006-10-26 05:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is she living there with you? ask her to leave, yes it will cause another fight but at least you will have your home to yourself...give her a month to find place of her own, don't have her arguing with your hubby, keep him out of it, just get her to one side and tell her that her being there is not a good idea, you want time with your hubby in YOUR home, she may get the hump but seriously....this is your home, your husband and your marriage, so just tell her that she has to go, she should not be there with you both, it's no right, if she asks why you don't want her there, then just tell her she's in the way and your not getting time with your husband, if she does not like it, then tell he to pack and go now, the fight will be over in no time and you will get the peace you have been wanting for so long....
2006-10-26 05:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by ketchanski 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she comes in,you go out,have you no family you could visit for an hour or two,don't stay too long,or you will end up an unwelcome guest,just like her.Maybe you could go to the cinema or something.If your sister-in-law is married,go to her home & chat with her man,i think your husband might get a bit nervous about that.If she's actually living with you,just throw her out.
2006-10-26 05:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your hubby and explain to him that you are no longer happy with your sister in law being at your house as often as she is. Tell him that you miss the quality time you used to have together.
But just bear in mind though, your hubby could be having her around so much as a way out of spending quality time with you.
Sorry if i sound a bit blunt but you'd be best talking to him about it rather than stewing on it!!!
2006-10-26 05:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by Mizz Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmmmmm I have the same problem Let me guessed you have tried telling your Husband how you feel and yet he always defends the sister!!! Why do brothers feel they have to baby their sisters ah??? I think you should just say straight out that you feel you & your husband need time alone together. Noway should you be made to feel this way in your own home. Good Luck Doll!!!
2006-10-26 05:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by BIGMOUTHSTOPTALKING 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
for one who' house is it ? Cause it makes a difference if its yours tell her to go to her room so you can get some privacy or even tell her to go out , if hers be grateful you have a roof over your head as there's many that don't.
2006-10-26 05:16:08 · answer #10 · answered by TRUEBRIT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋