Life is so hard at times. I have a man in my life that completely understands me. Sometimes I don’t have to say and word and he knows what going on with me.
Lately I’ve been thinking about our relationship and weather it should be taken further then the step that it’s currently at. We’ve been dating for two years and we see each other very often. He currently has custody of his two children and I have a 4 year old from a previous relationship. I love him dearly and I don’t want to loose him. He’s asked me to move in with him and I’m willing to because I want to be a part of his life but at the same time I think it’s a big step. I’ve met his children and we get along it’s just I’m afraid I’ll be a disappointment. Why am I feeling this way ?
2006-10-26 05:08:39 · 12 answers · asked by MIA 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your feeling the way you should in a situation like that.just take your time, and let the chips fall, cuz if you show otherwise,it will compromise your goal.( which is keeping yourself and your man happy)
2006-10-26 05:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by JUBILI83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your nervous to move to the next step maybe because you dont know what the children will think of you or if things will be different after you move in. You say you see each other very often now, well you will be seeing a whole lot more of him and his children living with him. Are you ready for that big of a step? Will your child get along with his children? Are you ready to become a parent to his children? Its a huge step, you have to step back and look at the entire situation and ask yourself if your really ready for basically a marriage.
2006-10-26 05:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to focus on your child and see if the move would be beneficial for both of you. Then you need not to worry about if your going to be a disappointment to the guy but rather a disappointment to you and your child. If there is any doubt in your mind then don't do it! because thing don't always work out the way the we plan them. Take some time and weigh your options. If your providing for you and yours, why move in with someone else unless your absolutely sure of your relationship. Good luck!
2006-10-26 05:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Hot one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One bitten, twice shy. Perhaps you are afraid of another relationship failure. But dam if you don't follow your heart and instincts then your going to find youself alone. Give it a honest effort and be open and honest with your man about your fears and feelings. A good discussion may be all that is needed to put you more at ease of this big step. Best of luck to you in making your decision and being happy.
2006-10-26 05:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cold feet. It'll be okay. I have confidence that u can do it.
Also those feelings could be b/c the first relationship u had didn't work out so well. Take a deep breath and take the dive. I'm sure u will be fine.
2006-10-26 05:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't win if you don't play! Take a chance, move forward with your life. I did the same thing 27 years ago. We lived together for five years and then got married. IT WORKED and we are still married and enjoying our first grandchild.
If you were a disappointmet to him, I don't think he would ask you to move in with him.
2006-10-26 05:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
moving in together will be hard you are probally jsut dissappointed because you are scared fo rejection but it takes tiem to adjust to everything i am with a man who has no kids and i have 3 he does so good with them i asked him how he does it he told me they accept me i do the same for them my 8 year old acts shy sometimes and is rude but he says itll take time remember she is 8 and her dad isnot around but im not going anywhere i ll jsut keeping trying and having a good time with my new family
2006-10-26 05:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by vomissie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep thinking on it, Im 18 years old and my relationship is going great, I moved in with my Boyfriend.
2006-10-26 05:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal to be scared. I am about to move in with my bf and even though it's scary, I love him and I want to be with him. So if you feel the same way, go for it.
2006-10-26 05:11:49 · answer #9 · answered by aidances 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it looks like either you don't know him as well as you would like to or he has his flaws that you don't think that you could live with. It is your choice but be ready to face it once you make it. If you can't right now then you might want to hold off for the moment
2006-10-26 05:11:23 · answer #10 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋