I left my bf of 2months for my new bf..now we have been together for a month...my x wants to know why i left him and i told him cuz i nvr get to see him.I dont wanna hurt his feelings.But what he doesnt know is that my new bf and i love each other and wanna spend the rest of our lives together and we wanna get married but i dont wanna tell my x and hurt him but at the same time i want him out of my life so i can move on with my new bf what do i do??????????HELP!!!!!!!!
2006-10-26 05:00:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell the dude to abide by your wishes and that you want to move on with your life with out him in the picture man!
2006-10-26 05:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by His Dudeness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you caring at all about ur x's feelings about your relationship now, then u may want to think twice before your "ready to get married" Even if you do just care as a "friend" about him, you need to be straight out with him and let him know whats goin on, cause otherwise its kind of still letting him think there may be a chance w/ u guys when there isn't any. Theres no real way around any thing like this, u just have to kind of suck it up and be honest w/ the people around u.
2006-10-26 12:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Beyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you rather mess up the relationship you have with your current bf? I suggest you be straightforward with your ex, and let him know what really is going on, and tell him that although you're sorry things turned out the way thay have....life moves on. If you keep harboring guilty feelings about the ex, it will eventually affect your current relationship.....do what's right, and don't let your worries about hurting the ex's feelings get in the way. Both your futures depend on your decision. If will give you the peace of mind you need to concentrate on the love of your life, and it will give your ex the chance to close that chapter of his life, and move on to the next chapter. I hope it all works out!
Best of Luck!
2006-10-26 12:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by Ralph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you need to tell the ex the truth. I know you think you are going to hurt him,but it's much easier than him thinking he did something wrong, or that there is something wrong with him. It hurts when you love someone and that person doesn't feel the same. Maybe if you talk to him and tell him that you had a nice time with him, but your heart belongs to someone else, he will let you go and maybe you could be friends.
2006-10-26 12:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by nursejuley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously u need to tell the dude to just stop buggin' u. He relly needs to get a life and r u relly sure u want to spend the rest of ur life with this new guy uv only been 2gether for a month that's kinda deep.
2006-10-26 12:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by imarobot4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a situation where someone will get hurt...and it's going to be your ex. You might just have to be honest with him....it will hurt him, but if you care a little about him, you'll want him to be happy and not still hung up on you. It's better to hurt him a little now, rather than hurt him more by letting him hang on by a string of hope. Good luck.
2006-10-26 12:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by circa 1980 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to slow down. You have only been with the new guy for a month and already want to get married. If you only dated the other guy for two months he shouldn't be too distraught over all of this. You should be honest and tell the ex how you really feel.
2006-10-26 12:03:57 · answer #7 · answered by orangecrate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always be truthful and BLUNT about your feelings. Never sugar coat anything for anyone... If the reason you broke up was because you couldnt see eachother as often. LET HIM KNOW THAT... so maybe next time when he gets into a relationship he can work on his own personal issues.
2006-10-26 12:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to answer your question, because it's absurd. But I am going to tell you that there is no way on earth that you should even be thinking marriage with someone you have only been dating for a month. Please don't do anything stupid. If you're being intimate with this new boyfriend, use birth control.
2006-10-26 12:05:44 · answer #9 · answered by Steven S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW DO YOU EVEN KNOW THAT THIS IS GUY YOU WANNA SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH? YOU ONLY BEEN 2GETHER FOR A MONTH...I THINK YOU SHOULD WAIT A LIL' LONGER AND JUST BE REAL WITH YOUR EX...LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. IT WOULD ALWAYS BE BETTER THAN LYING AND LEADING HIM ON!!
2006-10-26 12:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by Precious M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋