My moggy was always a very homely cat and didn't seem that botherd when we got 2 new kittens 5 years ago. We have also added 2 children to the family (neither of which have ever tried to grab her or hurt her) but for some reason she has decided over the last year to move out and found a retired couple on the next street to stay with, she used to come back every few days but the length of time got longer and longer and now she hasn't been home for about 2 months. I have tried bringing her home and not letting her out for a week or so at a time but she just keeps trying to escape. I want her to be happy but would prefer that to be with us, especially as the retired couple have made it quite clear that although they like her coming into their house etc they are not prepaired to take on any vets bills for inoculations or anything else. I'm at a loss as to what to do!
2006-10-26 04:48:21 · 7 answers · asked by ClaireK 1 in Pets ➔ Cats
If the cat won't come and live with you and the other couple are not prepared to look after her properly the first thing you need to do is ask them to stop letting her in and stop feeding her, this might encourage her to come back to your house. If not the only other option is to take her to a re-homing centre like the Cats Protection and get her re-homed away from you, then she will get the care she deserves because all cats need vaccinations no matter how old they are, they should have one at least every year as well as flea and worming treatment on top.
2006-10-26 06:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by Becky N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's sad. I acutally had my cat do the same thing. But it was the other way around she wanted a family & not just a single person. She moved out but I didn't know where until I found after putting up lost & found posters everywhere. She was simply happier being w/kids. In the end I didn't have the heart to take her away from her new family & let them keep her. It could just be that your cat is older & is wanting some peace which the calmer household of the retired couple is providing. I don't think they should have let a cat who had a home into their house to begin with but so goes life. I'd give them some food & just let them have her. If they don't want to have the expensive of her then tell them to stop feeding her & letting her in their house.
2006-10-26 08:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by Little Nell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really have no answer except that my cat had extreme sneezing and congestion, Due to the fact that she had no temp. and no apparent wheezing and her lungs seemed clear, the vet contributed it to allergies. Instructed me to give her l/2 of an antihistimine (sp) which helped, but she fought me tooth and nail. Not convinced, I requested some antiboitics, which did nothing. When she sneezed, she had all this flem come out of her nose and it was severe. The allergy medicine helped a little, but in the meatime she disappeared and has been gone now for a few months. I worry that she went off and died, because she was always here. I am sorry I cannot answer you question, but sometimes the vets just do not have the answers, as I spent about $2,500.00 on my little dog to save her life, and no one could ever come up with a diagnosis, ever after death. She had a clean bill of health in March, got her teeth cleaned the next day and was dead in July. She was perfectly healthly prior to the teeth cleaning. She went through HELL. Just BEWARE before you do the teeth cleaning, as I feel that something was not done correctely considering they have to put the amimal under. She was barely 8 years old. I think she would still be here otherwise.
2016-05-21 22:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say they're stuck with a cat and all the responsibilities that come with a cat. If they didn't want that responsibility they shouldn't have let her in. And when they found out the cat had a home they really should have put forth the effort to keep her out, but since they didn't...
And that's the thing about cats. No matter what you do, you can't make them stay once they've made up their minds they want to be somewhere else. If she comes back it will be because she wants to for some reason random reason out of the blue. It sounds to me like she just doesn't like kids.
2006-10-26 05:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by Carol L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cats are very territorial. They like control and order. You brought in two new kittens and two children, which creates upheaval in your cat's territory. If your cat was happier when she had the run of the house alone, and now prefers to live with an older family, chances are your cat is keyed to live in a quiet, orderly environment; unless you get rid of your cat and your kids, you will not be able to have that quiet in your house again.
In other words, you probably can't get your cat to live with you. You can probably work out an arrangement with the other couple, like child support, where they provide Kitty's emotional needs and you cover costs in return for visits. Sadly, you can't change cats' inclinations. If she wants to leave and has her heart really set on it, there's not much you can do about that.
2006-10-26 05:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by nbsandiego 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not consider sharing her with with the retired couple and supplying food. Make an agreement that you will take care of all vet bills.
This very same thing happened to us. The neighbor's cat adopted us. When I asked the neighbor why he loves to be at our house she said, he hates our dogs and doesn't like to walk passed them to get into the house.
She suggested sharing him and we were quite willing to do so, but had to move. A few years later while visiting our old house, there he was on the deck in the very same spot that he was when we were there. He adopted the new owners quite well.
He's happy and that's all that counts.
2006-10-26 05:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by Hedicat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your cat prefers the quiet atmosphere in the house of the retired couple. She shouldn't really require vaccinations at this point in her life and unless something dire were to happen shouldn't require a great deal of veterinary care.
If you love her and want what's best for her I would simply pay for her to have an annual exam and maybe even offer to provide the people with some of her food.
2006-10-26 05:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by old cat lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋