Okay, so my next door neighbor watches my three and a half month old son while I am at work. She is nine months pregnant so every now and then she tells me that she has a doctors appt and that the other neighbor will be watching my son for about two hours. (I am fine with that)....but my question is, sometimes the other neighbor mentions it, or I have to drop him off there or pick him up there...should I offer her money for that?...or is it up to my real babysitter to offer her something seeing as how she is the one who is getting paid for going to the drs office...Am I making sense?
2006-10-26 04:45:49 · 24 answers · asked by Barbi 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I understand what you are saying, you should probably ask your babysitters neighbor if she is ok with watching the baby and indirectly ask if she is being compensated our if she needs anything to help out for the couple of hours the baby is there. Just to be nice. But it should be upto the babysitter to pay another person if needed.
2006-10-26 04:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by vanessa f 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that situation, but not quite cuz I've never had to drop my child off or pick her up anywhere but at the normal sitter's. There have been a few times where she will mention to me that she has to go out for something for a couple hours, and either her husband or a friend of hers will be watching my daughter and her child at her home. For that, I would leave it upon the regular sitter to worry about paying the other person. But I've never dealt with someone else at their own house. Maybe mention it to the babysitter? It would be awkward, but it's also awkward picking your child up from someone else and not knowing if they are being reimbursed for it. I understand your situation, but I'm not sure what I would do. I've never been good at talking to people, especially about things like that. Maybe you should offer to find your own sitter for days like that, and not have your child go to her on those days at all. Then either you can pay someone else straight out, or maybe she will get the hint and have you stop dealing with the middle man person.
2006-10-26 11:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right - it is the babysitters responsibility to take care of that since you pay her and she is leaving. however, you may want to talk to the other neighbor about it so she doens't resent you or have the wrong idea about who exactly is using her. Make sure she is comfortable with the situation. But, yes, you are right. It's not your obligation to pay her when the agreement to cover the other lady is between those two.
2006-10-26 11:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by In Luv w/ 2 B, 1 G + 1 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would think that the babysitter would be responsible, unless you yourself arranged for your child to be with neighbor #2. It sounds like neighbor #2 is actually working for neighbor #1.
2006-10-26 11:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by momof3 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't pay your other neighbor because your babysiter is the one who set up the arrangement of her taking over while she is at her drs appointment. It's like your other neighbor is working for your babysitter and not for you.
2006-10-26 13:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could ask the babysitter to give up her pay in order to keep these appointments but it seems pretty harsh given the situation.
I would ask the babysitter if she had considered doing something to thank the neighbour and both of you could contribute something toward it. A combined gift might be more appreciated than money.
2006-10-26 11:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by Vanguard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The neighbor that is watching your baby for the couple of hours should be compensated for her time. Take it out of the original girl's pay to ensure that the other girl gets the $$.
2006-10-26 12:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by gretchen372002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your babysitter should pay the one doing her a favor (if the neighbor wants it) as it is time you are paying the other sitter for, although I am a nanny myself and remember that most daycares have closed days and holidays-that you still pay the daycare for-it is a job like any other and just because she isn't and atual business doesn't mean she shouldn't receive the same benefits.
2006-10-26 11:51:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definately not your responsibility to pay the fill-in babysitter. As long as you have an arragement with your babysitter, it is her job. It sounds like its just neighbors helping neighbors anyway.
2006-10-26 12:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by Emmy G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am kind of in the same situation that you are in. I watch my brothers two girls and there are times that I have to go to the doctors or things like that and I will have my sister n law come and sit for me while I am gone. And I pay my sister n law for her time from the money that I get from my brother. Because she is doing me a favor.
2006-10-26 13:26:04 · answer #10 · answered by Daigsmommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋