My sister went missing 4 years ago and my mom has had a hard time taking into consideration that she could be dead. My question is : if someone in your family went missing would you rather know he/she is dead but know, or know he/she is still alive but don't know where they are? i hope you understand.
2006-10-26 04:45:27 · 26 answers · asked by Oscar 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I rather know if there dead, that way we could morn their lost and move on with our lives and remember them
2006-10-26 04:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If a member of my family went missing I would like to be aware of either fact, they were alive or dead. If alive I would like to know that they are safe and try and find out why they didn't want any more to do with the family. If dead would like to know so could try and put some closure on their loss. Good luck in searching for your missing sister and I hope all ends well.
2006-10-26 11:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an uncle that has been missing for 31 years. What people in my family say is that we don't know anything about him. If he's dead, then hopefully he's in a better place, but if he's alive then hopefully he's doing well. It's kind of an unspoken thing when it comes to him, but at times, thinking that he might still be out there gives my grandma hope that she'll be able to see her son again. I understand how your mom is feeling because I have seen how my grandma is. If thinking that your sister is still out there gives her a sense of hope in life, and it's not doing any harm to her mental or physical state, then I don't see what the harm in it is.
2006-10-26 11:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by LTD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My prayer's go out to your family...As far as the question..I think would rather know if they are dead, Because the stress and worry that where they are and if they are alive would drive me crazy. I would not be able to funtion on a daily basis.
But on the other hand...I would also like to hold on to the hope that they are alive..It's kinda a tough situation..If it were my daughter...I can't imagine the pain and grieve of knowing either way...Just her not being here would be a tragedy...But Good Luck to your family...
2006-10-26 12:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by mmarie1221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want the truth ... dead or ...If alive but I didn't know where i would be OK alive and maybe she will contact me and I would be hurt surly by no contact .. If dead I would be saddened terribly but I'd have answers and would try to go on with my life but then I would want to know what happened why etc I hope one way or another that your mom finds out it must be so hard on her just support her and be there for her (sounds like you are) good luck
2006-10-26 11:52:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear this news. I really am.
That's a very tough question. Ultimatly, I'd simply want to know something. Either way, no matter what, I wouldn't consider either of them to be "bad" news. If she's alive, you keep praying to find her. If she's passed on, you begin the process to heal. If you're mother doesn't accept she's gone, she could be feeling things deep inside her in the place where she carried your sister and you wouldn't understand that. She won't give up if she still feels your sisters heartbeat, you know?
God Bless you and your family. I will pray for all of you.
2006-10-26 11:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would rather know my sister or brother were still alive but had no clue where they were, because there is always the chance she could escape from where she is, there was a girl who after years and years of being held captive escaped and is now back at home, this just happend a few month ago.
all i can say is dont give up
2006-10-26 11:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by david s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know whether or not they were dead so that the healing process could take place. If I knew that they were alive but didn't know where they were, the grieving would still be there.
2006-10-26 11:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by roxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine going through this, bt if it were me Id want to know everything I possibly could. If they were dead Id want to know so I could have closure, if they were alive Id want to know that I should still have hope for their safe return. HOWEVER if there was no proof of a death, Id prefer to just hold onto hope!
2006-10-26 11:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is an especially hard issue as a parent because we tend to blame or question ourselves during a time such as this .... tend to let our minds imagine all kinds of things happening to your child .....
knowing something confirmed just helps bring closure to the issue as it is
there will always be question as to has everything that could be done to find her been done
I hope your family does have this closure soon
just do what you can to assure her that this child was loved and am sure loved your family
regardless of the actions of man - God is in control and the truth will show itself
missing - means there is always hope of outcome
God bless you!
2006-10-26 11:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...sorry for your lose. Being a parent, losing your child is unimaginable. She will probably never have closure until the day your sister either makes contact or her, ( sorry) body is found. Just be there for her as much as possible and try to understand that until she receives closure she will probably always feel this way.
2006-10-26 11:48:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋