me and my boyfriend talked about getting married. and we think we can have sex before marriage.
i have thought about it and wondered if i really wanted that. i dont want to be stupid about anything but i dont know what i should do.
i heard you have a better risk of divorce if you have sex before you marry and if you live with them..
we dont live with each other, so i guess thats good but idk what to do about the whole sex thing.
what do you think?
2006-10-26 04:43:59 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't get involved into it before marriage. It is like gambling your life away. Wait til you're married all right? Don't be like me lose it to a guy whom says that he assures me that he's gonna marry me that he truly loves me. The next 2 weeks, he has another gf already even b4 we broke up. I regretted loving him. I don't hate him but I really regret giving it to him
2006-10-26 04:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say yes! If you don't try sex before marriage and then marry that person he may not satisfy you sexually and then your stuck with him for the long haul and vise-versa. I know that in the stone ages and even some people today think that sex before marriage is a bad thing but I think that sex, living with someone and friendship play a big part in making your relationship last. Some people have sex 1st and then once they get in the relationship, really don't like the person except for the sex, then there are some people who are friends for so long and then they try and have sex and ruin their friendship because they didn't like the sex or found it awkward and should have just remained friends and then there's the people who are friends and have had sex and then try and live together and see that they just cannot stand to be in the same house with the other person one more second. So I think to get all that out in the open prior to marriage is the best thing a couple can do.
2006-10-26 04:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are mature enough to make that decision and you feel right about it, then move forward. I will be completely honest with you the first time I had sex I cried for a long time to my mother because I felt so bad about not waiting for the man I was going to marry. But then again I'm 22 now and I don't regret having variety because there are some guys you just cant seem to get it right with under the sheets. If you do have sex with him, be very cautious and careful because you never know how many people he has really been with and there are many diseases you may not be aware of. Just remember guys tend to have sex earlier than girls.
2006-10-26 05:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by lovelife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow- there are a lot of answers here-
I know of a lot of people whom had sex before marriage, and completly regreted it.
I have had sex b/f marriage, and I have never regreted it, but I do have a 1 year old son out of Wedlock who is my life- I would not have him if it had not been for having sex before marriage- Neither one of us regret the sex for what it gave us (our son) but I am a little upset that we are not married. He is a great father and is there for Connor 24/7...But some of my friends weren't so lucky.
Also, if you love someone completly and truely, the sex is better- so if you wait til after you are married and he is the one for you the sex will be great b/c it means more than that to you two- Does that make sense? I have had wonderful sex with guys that I havew loved, and when I realized that I didn't love them, the sex all of a sudden wasn't what it was supposed to be-
So if he is the one you love, and truly want to give yourself to, then wait- if he is willing to wait then he really loves you- if he gives you a hard time, then he is not the one for you-
Hope you figure it out and just do what you know is right in your heart.
2006-10-26 05:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 things you should do before marrying someone is having sex with them and living with them.
what is he is a total pig and expects you to do all the cooking cleaning and laundry and is no help? Is that what you want to live with forever?
What if he wants bu tt sex and you don't? You need to at least address these issues. People get divorced becuase of PROBLEMS in their marriage. Not because everything is happy.
The less you know about your spouce the bigger a chance that you will have PROBLEMS. And that leads to divorce.
2006-10-26 04:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i going to tell u what happen to me i got a boyfriend at age 16 but anyways he told me that we where going to get married but he was thinking the same thing why don't we have sex before marriage and like i love him a lot i did anyways we started living together and i got pregnant at my 5 months pregnant he left me and said why he should he still be with me if he lready got wht he want some sex the point is that u should tell him if u really love me u will wait until we get married .people who wait until the get married will last long and have a great life together and i he love u he will wait nd stay with u ....ANY MORE QUESTIONS WRITE SANDRA_LOVE1988@YAHOO.COM........
2006-10-26 04:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by sandra t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suppose you're not sexually compatible? While it's nice to have the fairytale situation, life is not like that. If you two aren't of like minds when it comes to sex- I'm talking before there's a need to sacrifice something for something else- you increase the chances of sex becoming boring for one or both of you. Yeah, you can believe that, "I'd do anything for my husband" and vice versa is enough.. but I can tell you from experience that sometimes, it's not enough.
2006-10-26 04:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? if your a teenager, wait till later, if your over 18, you should know what you want, just be carefull, Hardley anyone waits till marraige to have sex, thats 50 years ago. LOL but if your a young teen, you need to think of other things in life first.
2006-10-26 04:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by ------------------- 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex before marriage is a most common thing in most cultures now.
There are no studies that have been done that prove you are more likely to divorce if you had sex before marriage.
If you decide to have sex it should be a joint decision between you and your boyfriend. Discuss it and then decide.
2006-10-26 04:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For man it is a pleasure, But for ladies, better think twice. Man, whatever they do in term of sex, will never get himself pregnant, But not to some women. Think of it, should you try it and get yourself pregnant out of wed lock, What do you think you will do? Worst if your bf abandoned you. How are you going to face your parent, friends, neighbours and etc. If you really want to try it, then get married.Sex is something that you do once, you will want to do more often. Think of the consequences, if you do not want yourself to get into problems.
2006-10-26 05:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by atbt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋