Ok so today is my Birthday and when I woke up this morning my boyfriend was to tired to notice I had started getting ready for work. I finally woke him and was like hey why don't you talk to me for a little bit while I'm getting ready for work. He just mumbled I'm too tired. He didn't even say Happy Birthday or anything. It really made me sad and I started crying, finally I woke him again and told him I was leaving for work he was like bye, Is something wrong? I told him I thought maybe he would care that it was my B-day. Then he was like yeah Happy Birthday, I love you. I just left, but I couldn't help but keep crying. Am I being totally stupid? I'm emotional today so please keep that in ming when you answer thanks!!
2006-10-26 04:41:56 · 42 answers · asked by Ash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Happy Birthday, mine was yesterday. I'm sorry that your B/F did not respond to you the way you wanted but keep your head up. Enjoy your day and don't let anyone ruin it for you. Have a great day : )
2006-10-26 04:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by Skullsoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - I'd like to wish you a very happy birthday! Do something nice for yourself today. If you know you're being emotional, YOU have the power to change your attitude. If he was sleeping, you can't expect him to jump out of the bed and wish you a happy birthday. People aren't held responsible for anything that happens for like the first 8 minutes they're awake, cause their not completely AWAKE until then. Maybe you should've given him the chance to call you today and tell you himself. You were "expecting" him to do something (in your mind) and he didn't do it, so you got dissappointed. That's not his fault. Just have a good rest of your day, and don't worry. This is the ONLY day out of the whole year that's YOURS! Use your time wisely, don't be sad...
2006-10-26 04:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that happened to you. I totally understand where you are coming from. We as women tend to put a little more into our feelings and relationships, but guys, they don't think the same as we do. I know you were hurt,but he probably was just tired. Think about this, does he wake up any other morning to talk to you? If not, then you know that is true. I'm sure he will be more into you in the afternoon. Happy Birthday.
2006-10-26 04:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by nursejuley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Ash, a very happy birthday to You.
we women are very emotional and we remember a lot of birthdays and very generous giving away gifts, and we expect the same in return. but the fact is that this does not happen in reality, especially guys tend to forget this, they seem to be more self-centric and cant think of two things at the same time. but we women can think so many things at the same time. its biology.
so when men are sleeping , they dont think of anything else other than of course sex. so it is right on your part to feel bad about being treated like that. it has happened to me also.
but dont let that ruin your D-day. go out with other friends, have fun. let them know its your birthday. anyone who knows that will be bent on making your day special for u, just like me, i'm trying to console u and make u feel better, but other than writing to u, i cant really do anything else, as u know.
but remember, the world is a big place and if u dont find solace in one place u can always look else where, if God closes one door, then He always opens up another, in fact a better door to u, and unless u go into that door, how will u know that it is a better opportunity. so my dear gal, go ahead and divert your attention, distract yourself, engage in some not so dangerous flirting, go out to a movie with other friends, go to a good restaurent and have a fun party together. i bet u'll enjoy ur day better than it started anyway.
u never know, maybe when u get back home , ur guy will be waiting for u with a big gift, a surprise maybe. but dont expect it and be disappointed if it does not come. maybe he'll call u and apologise. u never know.
good luck and a happy birthday again. bye. hope u feel lighter now.
2006-10-26 04:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Ash, HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Not all guys, (ok, probably most guys) don't pay attention or realize how important little things are. How is he (read: how does he treat you) otherwise ? B-days are big events and should be acknowledged at least. But if he was that tired and still 1/2 asleep, maybe he was unaware what today really was and what it was you were saying. I'd say give him a break and see how things are tonight.
2006-10-26 04:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by barhopper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awwww ! I completly understand you ! I sometimes feel really down on my birthday! I'm not gready for presents or anything but one year my mum and family said happy birthday but harldy did anything on the day , well at all ! I was reallysad and kept crying ! When it is somebodies birthday I treat them for the whole day but for some people birthdays arn't big things ! And for them it's just like an another day ! So don't blame your boyfriend ! Maybe he has done something for you ! Anyway Happy birthday ! I hope you fell better soon !
All my love
x alicia
ps i'll think of you today
2006-10-26 04:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by La parisienne ! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
I tend to be very emotional on my birthdays too, don’t feel bad. I must cry like 20 times on my birthday. About your boyfriend, sounds like something mine would do but I don’t think you should take it the way you did. Men are dumb and insensitive. He probably didn’t even realize he was being rude to you. I’m sure when you get home from work today; he’ll have a big surprise waiting for you. If not, then you kick his butt. Enjoy your day and try not to dwell to much on this morning.
P.S. And yes, i would definantly be upset but I'm as emotional as you are but I think I would get over it cause men are dumb & insensative, lol.
2006-10-26 04:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all - you are totally entitled to be upset.
Your birthday is the one day of the year where no matter what your happiness should come first. You should be treated and spoilt and looked after. Frankly your partner deserves a kick.
However - this also happened to me last year on my birthday because my boyfriend "had things going on" like stress at work, which is totally no excuse and I still haven't forgiven him. It upset me loads. But this year he learnt from his mistake look me off to a gorgeous country hotel and picked extra special gifts etc. He thinks that makes up for it - which it does in part - but he's gotta a few more years of making up for it I reckon.
So I say - let him off this once, but if he does it again - bin him!!
2006-10-26 04:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by brightongoose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fell you girl. I'm like too. whenever my birthday is around the corner I get so excited and hyped up. The problem here is that, Im excited cos its MY birthday no one elses yet. so dont expect alot from others. Your family may be happy for you cos another year has come but they've been with you since you were little, they're used to your excitment. Your boyfriend on the other hand its, he probably has not excitment for his birthday becos hes parents were so excited for him when he was growing up. Teh situations or families we grow up in contribute to part of our emotional reactions to things. Some people wont be happy about certain holidays or occasions cos they never had the chance to when they were little. Just be calm and try to extend that joy you have that today is your birthday. The mistake you will make is if you try to force it out of him, by expecting him to be happy and when hes not you blam him for it and that raises a fight between the two of you. During holidays or occasions or on his birthday try to make a huge fuss about it. Tickle him in bed make him fel special he probly never got that from his parents. If at first he gets grumpy, dont be discouraged, go on. prepare his favourite meal, play games make him happy and if he is still grouchy then there may be a past experience thats eating him up. Try to get to tell you all about it and encourage him that your there to support him. hell come around from there on. Good Luck. and Happy Birthday.
2006-10-26 04:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he work or study late last night? Was he seriously tired and just hadn't wrapped his mind around what day it was when YOU woke HIM up? Is he always inconsiderate?
Take these into consideration before jumping to the conclusion that he doesn't care. He probably does and if he was sleeping and you woke him.... morning fuzzies.
And... Happy Birthday Hon.
I'm betting he does something special for you later, so relax and enjoy your special day =D
2006-10-26 04:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by all_classy_bitof_sassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋