So I have this ex who wants me back. I could end it there, and leave you to answer my original question, but I want to give a bit of background.
I loved him. He loved me. He cheated on me just before almost a year of not seeing each other as much as we'd have liked. I cheated on him during that year (neither of us had sex with anyone else, just kissing at most) for revenge and because I was lonely. November that year rolls up, we have an argument, he dumps me. A few days later, I'm quite happy for once, he says he wants me back. I hold off for a year and a half, then he gets a new girlfriend.
Now, she's dumped him. He wants me back. I'm really only after the physical side, but I know he wants more of the emotion stuff. Which I'm fine giving him, but I feel I could do a bit better.
So, the question is, could we somehow come to a compromise whereby we have the best of both worlds? Could we make it work?
My friends and family REALLY dont like him, and I wouldn't tell them until later
2006-10-26 04:34:14 · 12 answers · asked by actor_girl_1986 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
(Continued)
I wouldn't tell them until later in the new relationship, if at all. I'm going to his house tonight and tomorrow night to work things out, and I'm sure we'll end up sleeping together. Which I'm fine with, but I feel I might hurt him if that's all it ends up being.
Any questions, feel free to IM me or ask within your question...
2006-10-26 04:36:31 · update #1
She dumped him because he still wants me :-/ and apparently because he had "too much spare time" after quitting his job to be with her and not make the mistake he did with me.
2006-10-26 04:40:16 · update #2
I guess somehow people must've gotten things confused... He's the one to feel sorry for, really, putting himself out there and only getting back my cold shoulder...
2006-10-26 19:45:33 · update #3
Nope, it won't work. Ultimately one of you will be unhappy because neither of you is getting fully what they want in the relationship and you will end up cheating on each other again. Some times it is better to just be friends and leave it at that.
2006-10-26 04:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it can not work again u both broke a bond of trust by cheating could u ever realy trust him again? i also dont think u should sleep with him even with protected sex. he"s probley looking to fill a void in his heart right now & looking at u to fill it till he finds something else. why go through all the hurt again? dont let your self be used or use him just to fill that empty feeling inside u. keep moving on & be true to your self like u would like others to be to u. honesty is best dont be his booty call u have to know what u realy are looking for in a relation ship & being true to each other is always a good start. u can do better for your self and be true to family because they be there when u need them to be will he?
2006-10-26 12:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by cobra697300@sbcglobal.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.... sounds like you have quite a history with this guy. There are some people who come along in our lives that we just can't get over and seem to go back to them again and again. I don't think that would be healthy. You already said it's been a year and a half. So, I would say, that if you want the physical side of it, you should tell him. But, I think that you are fooling yourself into thinking that you could be physical with this guy and not for it to get emotional. I would say if it's been this long, that maybe you should remain friends, since that seems to work for you.
2006-10-26 11:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by nursejuley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like someone who enjoys getting hurt. I know a few guys that are very controlling; abusive and usually keeps three or four so called wife's.. They would love to meet you.. Don't be stupid; listen to your family, they only have your heart and emotions at interest. Check your self esteem and pride at the door and toss out your emotions if you go back to him because you will deserve everything you get. You need to find someone to complements you and not drag you down. Start looking in different places because where you found this guy is surely a wrong place. Check out where men hang out; not BOYS with a stiff standing capital and pushing ambition; because, those are only dogs..
2006-10-26 11:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you two really wanting to be with each other or are you just lonely. Once you make that decision the rest is cake.
Good Luck.
I would move on, family knows best.
2006-10-26 11:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by Happy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont get back with him because if you dont trust him you cant make it work and IF you family doesnt like him well that is a no for sure
2006-10-26 11:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by Deadman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that if it didnt work once the trust and everything isnt there the second time its not going to work
2006-10-26 11:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by lost_in_love_still 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friends and family have good intuition. His ex dumped him probably for good reason (he probably cheated on her, too). I would suggest staying away from this individual.
2006-10-26 11:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has already cheated on you once, can't trust him again. He has already shown his real face by cheating on you.
2006-10-26 11:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by swasu 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lets face facts -- he cheated on you! do you really think that you could ever trust him again? I know that I wouldn't!
2006-10-26 11:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by teritjh62 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋