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I have asked my father to stop because it is causing problems and she is staying in trouble. What else can I do?

2006-10-26 04:23:35 · 5 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships Family

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Explain to him that he has to stop speaking to you as if you were a child... because you no longer have to obey him or be under his ruling... because you are no longer a child.
Here's some important scripture to discuss with your daughter about obeying you>>>
Hebrews 13:17 Obey them that have the rule over you (a leader, a guide), and submit yourselves (be willing to obey them): for they watch for your souls (guard, look after, protect), as they that must give account (accept responsibility), that they may do it with joy, and not with grief (not with heartache, misery, unhappiness): for that is unprofitable for you.
Explain to her that a child will gain nothing but trouble by disobeying... trouble comes because of disobedience... God doesn't let disobediance go unpunished.
The reason why she needs to obey is because she needs to learn to obey the Lord... to obey so she won't bring trouble/punishment on herself, from the parent or from the Lord.
Ephesians 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is RIGHT (disobeying is WRONG).
Colossians 3:20 Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord.
Ephesians 6:2 Honour thy father and mother (respect, look up to them for wise guidance, value their wisdom); which is the first commandment (it's an order, a rule to obey) with promise.
Ephesians 6:3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
Living a life of obedience is rewarded... for those who obey their parents, there is a promise of living a long life.

2006-10-26 05:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

As to your daughter, get tough and explain her position in the family. Whatever trouble she continues to lounge in, take immediate and appropriate actions to curb her ability to get around, communicate by phone, or any other method until she cuts her ties with "trouble." She has seen you respond to dilemmas with weakness and indecisiveness and now that she is into her own comfort, she doesn't mind destroying you and your ability to take control.
Clearly, you never broke away from daddy, at least not sufficiently to inform him. Have you remained somewhat dependent on him financially? If so, he sees you as emotionally not able to care for yourself. You have responded in the past over a lengthy period of time as his "little girl" and therefore why would he treat you as anything else?
You need to display some newfound energy and ability to take charge of your life and your daughter's. Issue a final ultimatum to dad about his treatment of you in front of kidlet and that it will not happen again. Period. Let your kid overhear you. Then change the subject and tell dad the two of you are going to the store to get him three new shirts, you are tired of seeing him in the same old thing. Then do it.
You asked "what else can I do?" when you hadn't done anything to begin with. Take charge. It feels good.

2006-10-26 11:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0 0

It's good that you have taken charge with your daughter, you are the parent and she is the child. I would sit down and talk with your father. It's possible that he just doesn't realize how he speaks to you. If he doesn't try and correct the way he speaks to you - correct him on your own. For example - please don't speak to me that way. There is a way to be stern with him and still caring and sincere at the same time.

2006-10-26 11:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0 0

This is a common problem; your parents will always talk to you as a child due to the fact that you are thier baby. As for your child this is a growing process; as they get older, they will assume they know more than you; until, they get out on there own. At that time they will figure out that they are not so smart.. I've gone thru it and i'm going thru it. My oldest moved out only to move back in realizing he's not so smart after all. The youngest indicated when he turns 18 he will be going out on his own, his brother now tells him to be stupid.. His answer of course is that he's smarter than us all. We only sit and laugh. Relax; it all flops back around.

2006-10-26 11:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0 0

You may never be able to change your father because he will always look at you as his little girl. However, with your daughter it is just a matter of standing up to her and stopping her immediately when she does this.

2006-10-26 11:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0 0

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