We split 3mths ago and he has been on a few dates with another girl, he said when he first met her he wasnt interested as he wanted us to get back together but 2weeks ago he decided to offically start going out with her as he thought it was time to move on - I have since asked to get back together but he says he cant now - but ive just found out im pregnant... how do i tell him??
2006-10-26 03:58:37 · 34 answers · asked by M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i'm pregnant, get ready to pay child support.
2006-10-26 04:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is really no perfect time to tell him but it does need to be done. The sooner the better. Don't get back together for the baby though. Do it because you both really want to be together even if the baby wasn't a factor. A happy relationship is better than a negative relationship when a child is involved. Let him decide on if he is going to be a part or not. never use a child as a pawn in some game.
Tell him that you two have something to talk about and it's important. Stand your ground. Just really be sure that he is the father. It takes any man to be the father but it takes an awsome man to be a dad.
2006-10-26 04:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by tygernside 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let this other woman stop you from telling him the truth. The sooner he knows, the better it will be for everyone involved. Telling him will most likely not get you two back together, but he does have the right to know.
Find a place where you can both comfortably talk and explain the situation. Tell him you've just found out that you are pregnant, you know the child is him, and you need to know what his intentions are. If he pulls the "it's not mine" routine (which would be awful, but possible), offer a paternity test when the child is born. No matter what happens, after the baby comes, do no let this man skip out on supporting his child.
2006-10-26 04:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sativa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot depends on what you intend to do. Are you going to continue the pregnancy? Are you sure its his? Are you creating a drama on purpose, I mean have you been to the Dr's to get 100% confirmed?
If you are going to have a baby, you need to tell him, as its 50% of his responsiblity too. I suggest you meet him somewhere public with somone you trust to stay impartial and talk it through, in a mature way. Shouting and screaming and getting all Chav about it isnt helpful to you, him or the foetus.
If you dont want to keep the baby, then you need to tell him too, maybe that way in future he'll be a little bit more pro-active on the contraception side of things.
Whatever you decide to do, you have to tell him asap,in calm and adult way, because its not just your life here, babies are not weapons to grab a hold over people.
Good luck, either choice is not an easy one and has far reaching implications. Just be a bit more careful with the contraception next time, a pregnancy is a lot less terrifying that other things you can catch out there!
2006-10-26 04:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is, firstly dont expect him to come running back to you so he can be a loveing father.... Is that a good relationship?
Just ask him if he can meet you somewhere, e.g. a cafe, somewhere public with other people around. There's less chance of him making a big fuss. Then tell him that your pregnant and that you dont want him to leave his new girlfriend (even if you do) or he may think that your just saying it. Ask him if he wants to come to maternity appointments to show that your not pulling his leg or show him a scan pic, if you have one.
Then tell him its up to him if he wants to be a part of the babies life or not.
That will get you started in the right direction, just remember that you need to keep calm and healthy for the babies sake as much as your own. Dont be pushy or demand anything from him.
2006-10-26 04:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by jojo 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Do you want him back? If so, this could be a very big mistake! He might be in the throes of his new romance and think you're just playing games to get him back. How far pregnant are you? And if you're three months, why didn't you do anything about it sooner?
It's no use crying over spilt milk. Call him up, tell him you need to see him and then tell him. There's no telling how he'll react. Good luck.
2006-10-26 04:18:12 · answer #6 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the sooner you tell him the better it will be for both of you. I wouldnt reccomend you use that as a way to get him back. I think you are better off without him. However, he needs to still pay child support after the child is born and hopefully he will still be a part of the childs life. Good luck to you, take care
2006-10-26 04:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Home-made greeting card:
On the cover, just have the words "A Halloween Treat For You!
On the inside, just have the words "I'm pregnant"
Hope I'm not being too insensitive. But life is sometimes tragi-comic.
2006-10-26 04:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, put on confidence and boldness. Don't bother to approach him. Try to discuss it with any of his relatives you know probably his mother or senior brother. Do you scared about taking that step? Why not tell it to GOD? After all, HE understands better the end of everything from the beginning. Take care.
2006-10-26 04:20:00 · answer #9 · answered by THE GREAT WINNER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!!
When u tell him don't make it out to be a bigger deal than it is. Just tell him your having his baby and want to be good friends. Don't let it turn nasty, think about the baby and don't get too stressed out! Hope everything works out for you and don't worry if he doesn't wanna know, u can do it on ur own.
Good luck!
2006-10-26 04:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by Kirsty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him straight as he will have a right to know but once you have told him he may want to come back to you but it would only be for the child as you have already asked him and he said no the only thing that's changed is you are now having his baby.
also he may think you are making it up to get him back if he does you have told him and done your bit just walk away
2006-10-26 11:32:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋