okay i've like this guy for 3 years and we're finally going out. he lives like 100 miles away (no seriously). It takes about 1.5 hours to get to his house. he says he likes me, and so have both of his best friends. We kiss and fool around* but there is no sexual relationship.I hardly talk to him on the week days. WE share A LOT of the same intrestes. I really look forward to seeing him and i know he looks forward to seeing me.
Does he like me, or is he just using me?
I don't know why i'm in such doubt. Any advice?
2006-10-26 03:57:59 · 28 answers · asked by Maria 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a boy too. And I know how it is. Some boys will stick to you, but some will leave you for someone else. This boy sounds like he will stick with you.
2006-10-26 04:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by N.D.H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He lives 100 miles away. You drive 1 and a half hours to his house. What about him?
Does he drive to your house, or at least offer to come to you?
In order for a relationship to be solid, it has to be a two way street. The two of you should be compromising with each other. Gas costs so much, and the world being the way it is these days, I would think if he cares for you, he would not be real good with the idea of you traveling like that by yourself, or taking on the financial burden of traveling like this by yourself. I would be concerned about him if he is not willing to split up who does the traveling when you see each other. Just be careful, dating these days is difficult and complicated for both men and women. I would feel better for you if you met someone closer to you.
I avoided long distance relationships, because of all of the issues involved with maintaining those types of relationships that are never dealt with when the relationship partners live just a few minutes drive apart. I am not saying he is using you, nor am I saying he is not using you. What I am saying is, by him living that far away from you the possibility of him using you is more likely.
My suggestion to you is not make a big deal of this yet. YOU ARE VERY WISE TO QUESTION AND WONDER. Maybe suggest he come see you sometimes where you live, and let him meet your family and friends. The way it is, you hear his friends saying he likes you, and him saying he likes you, and he is getting input from them about you. You need to have the same luxury from your friends as he does from his. Maybe there is something about him you are missing, that one of your very intuitive girlfriends may see right away and help you notice. Just some things for you to think about.
Listen to your gut instinct. God gave you a strong mind and common sense, use them. Is there something you didn't share in your question and information following the question that has you wondering? I tend to think there must be, or you wouldn't be on this site asking. I want to reiterate once again, proceed with caution.
2006-10-26 11:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by bowtierodz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I can give you is that you should follow your heart. Let it guide you. I was in a similar situation earlier this year. My heart was my guide and everything worked out for the best. If you follow your intuition and heart you cannot go wrong. So think about things and if you are in doubt try talking to him about it. If he loves you then he will definitely erase that doubt from your mind. Communication is the key to success for any relationship.
2006-10-26 11:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truthfully i think that it really depends on what your heart is telling you. Never just jump up and accept any kind of guy. Most times it's a set up. But don't say you love him until you know for sure that he is clear ( free from all other girls/women ) I have got a situation you may want to hear by the way how old are you?
2006-10-26 11:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by SugarBug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years and no sex??? LOL no he's not using you seems like the other way around... And he lives 100 miles away... So who's he screwing down there? He's getting his one way or another and if you have waited 3 years on this guy looks like it ain't you.
2006-10-26 11:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you think you are being "used" if there is no sexual relationship??
It appears to me that you are both getting something out of your relationship, friendship.
Does he visit you too? If its you doing all the travel then he should take his turns or at least pay for you to travel sometimes.
2006-10-26 11:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs Fun Stuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not asking you to do things for him and using the relationship, whatever it may be, tas a vehicle to get what he wants then I would have to say no he isn't. If there is a mutual interest and there is communication and contribution be offered by both of you, again I would have to say no he isn't.
2006-10-26 11:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by jlsmith92104@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt seem like he is using you to me, your over reacting. Do you think that you are being used, far as a ride, and having to drive all the way out there?Well if it's a known fact, then you are being used. If drives out to see you as well, then you are not being used.
2006-10-26 11:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by Step 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am using you for two points! Ha Ha. Now I gotta go sniff a bag of shitt like Matt suggests!
2006-10-26 11:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he likes you if you've been chatting etc. for 3 years. Only way of finding out how serious he is though about you is by asking him directly.
2006-10-26 11:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋