Please help! What should I do?

Question

I have one best friend. She is a goth and I am not. But, we are really really close.
My classmates think that I am a jerk to sit with that kind of girl.
What should I do to let them realise that Tags don't matter in friendship....
NOTE:- NO SILLY ANSWERS PLEASE.

Answer 1

No, they're acting like jerks, not you. You're not ashamed to be with her. You're a good friend. (Sounds like the rest could learn a lesson from you both!) Just continue sitting with her and being friends, and hopefully as time passes, they'll grow to understand that friendship transcends labels.

Answer 2

You're absolutely right, that "Tags don't matter in friendship". You should be friends with everyone. I was always told (and found it very true) that it's not the outside, but what's inside that matters. You continue being friends with her. Being goth, I'm sure she needs friends because of people like the ones that say you're a jerk for sitting with her. They are the ones a jerk, not accepting her for who she is. You're doing an awesome job!! Don't let those other people get to you!! Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 3

My friend had the same problem at school because i am a goth and she used to get stick for hanging out with me. But she was a true friend and stuck by me and i was soo grateful for that and she is now my best friend.

Stay with her and tell the other people to be a bit more open minded and get a life. I bet your friend gets a lot of stick as well for being a goth so stand by eachother and ignore those losers. School only lasts a few years but a friendship can last a lifetime.

Answer 4

Your friend is just expressing herself and she is your friend, what do you care if others think shes weird.what should you do? well I think you have already answered that, tags don't matter, is she a good person? do you enjoy being with each other? In a few years she will probably decide to stop being a goth, but she will still be the same friend to you, make a choice, a good friend who is a goth or looking cool in front of your classmates. I would choose a good friend and forget the rest.

Answer 5

This is a difficult time in your life and a difficult situation. Peer pressure is a powerful thing, but still have the ultimate choice.

If you enjoy your friendship and see it as valuable, you can choose to continue as is. This decision may result in losses of other friendships OR you may gain the respect from your peers for being a leader and standing your ground.

If you feel that the other friendships or potential for friendships outweigh the value of your friendship with the "goth girl", then you can choose to end this friendship or let it phase out.

This experience will be a valuable lesson for you. I disagree that in 5 years this will not make a difference. Friendships can impact our life for many years to come.

I wish you well in this difficult situation.

Answer 6

If she is your best friend then you should certainly defend her corner. If those of your so called mates don't like her cuz of the way she dresses that's very shallow and there not real friends. If they were they'd have some respect for you and not judge. Good m8's are hard to come by, keep them close. I had a friend who went through the goth stage and a got beaten up by a big group who didn't like the way she looked, I felt awful for nor being there, would quite happily of taken a beating in her defence, it traumatised her.

Answer 7

It's hard to do but just ignore them.

I was the 'odd' girl in my year if my friends got any stick for hanging around me they never told me.

I have since heard from some of the 'normal' people I wasn't particularly friendly with at school through Friends reunited and I've found out that they were fascinated by me because I wouldn't socialise with them.

I was too busy seeing cool bands and going to clubs while they went to the youth club disco! Think I had the last laugh there somehow!

Answer 8

why do you care what your other classmates have to say about your relationship? What's important is how you and her feel when your together so long as it's all for the right reasons. size, shape, weight and looks should have not bearing on friendships nor fulfillment of your need for exceptance from those you care about. Tell your classmate's the question is not how you can have a relationship with someone like her; but, how they can be so narrow minded to reject someone based in looks only.

Answer 9

You already have the right idea People shouldn't be judged by the way that they dress, the Friends that they hang out with, or how they look. The sad thing is that everyone has different views on this, but you have over looked this and became this girls friend. You got know who she is as well as what she is like, you are her friend. The he** with your classmates, let them be blind to the good person that your friend is. It's their loss and your gain, laugh at them because I do.

Answer 10

I'd ignore these so-called friends of yours. Its easy to change your look from one day to the next. I know it sounds like a cliche but it really is what's on the inside that counts. Think of it this way; if you change the wrapping paper of a present, does the gift inside change? Of course not. Sounds like your friends are the ones who are ugly on the inside. If they can't see a good person behind the clothes and make-up, they're shallow. And with all nasty people, they can try and make themselves look good on the outside but the bitterness from within will shine through for all to see. Sounds like you have a good friend in the goth, stick with her.