2006-10-26 03:52:04 · 60 answers · asked by Hacker 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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Real LOVE never dies. Never ever.
So, what is real love?
Only a small part is "attraction": that rush, those hot sexual feelings, that intense "urge" to copu late.
The BIGGEST part of love, is NOT about sexual attraction at all.
And THAT is the part that never dies...
You already KNOW what it is, but you don't "APPLY" it to your choices. If you did, you'd still have a rewarding relationship going long-term.
(barring alcohol and drug problems, and even then those problems can still survive the love test).
What I mean is that love is all about finding a person that you first and foremost LIKE in many ways...as you would a best-friend, that you forgive all sorts of character flaws and mistakes, etc.
A true, long lasting Love will include feelings that go BOTH WAYS EQUALLY in
ALL OF:
being best-friends to each other,
respecting each others boundaries with acceptance,
respecting each others differences, and tolerating them well with a kindness,
totally trusting each other
and forgiving mistakes
depending on each other in both directions
equal and willing sharing and caring including great turn taking in all things
and being able to talk about anything.
When you have all that, you have real LOVE; and when you add a sexual attraction, whether that sexual attraction lasts a long time, or just a
little while (because of illness, or age, or other)...
then the biggest part, as above,
keeps you together indefinately.
Yes, if one person stops some important things above, (in their selfish quest focused only on themselves)...you may well love them, but it is obviously one sides. You loved them, but they really didn't love you enough.
The solution:
So you move on, and you be more careful, and selective to find the person that DOES match you...and WILL give you all of the above willingly without trickery or manipulations to keep it all together.
You can't do this, if you are already in the sexual mode < very difficult to "see through" the sexual bonding. You can see much more clearling, if you delay the sex part and "really look hard" at what else the relationship has going on.
Most divorces (break-ups) are simply because the couple got together because of the strong "sexual attraction" and thought all the other would follow automatically.
Well, this is putting the cart before the horse, and it just doesn't work!!!
Find your true best-friend, that you can have all of the above with the sex part last; and you will find your true long-term LOVE.
I wish you love
stw
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2006-10-26 04:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I believe in love, even after some of the things that have happened to me with previous relationships, i still will. if you cant believe in love and that someone out there will love and respect you as you will them. then whats the point in life and living
2006-10-26 05:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by mr_scotsguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 29 years of marriage, I sure do believe in love. I have loved the same lady for over 30 years.
2006-10-26 03:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by dudthedawg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe. I believe life so I believe love
2006-10-26 03:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-10-26 04:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a beautiful relationship. Of course most people do believe in it.
2006-10-26 04:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by Kanwal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do. Love is what the atmosphere in my soul is made up with. There are so many different forms of love. Identify what form your life is lacking and perhaps you will be more capable of answering your own question. I sincerely hope for and wish you the best.
2006-10-26 03:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by jlsmith92104@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe in love and that anybody can find it. It is just a matter of time.
2006-10-26 04:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe for some body love dont have any mean but i think we are alive to love some body or some thing if we dont believe it we are a loser
2006-10-26 03:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by Jill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i believe in love
2006-10-26 03:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by formerffagirl05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋